7 Steps to breakup safely and Respectfully, in this video, i'll show you also, 5 Steps
to getting over a Breakup, welcome to lifestyle therapy channel, stay tuned.
No.1, Say it in person.
You've shared a lot with each other.
Respect that by breaking up in person.
If you live far away, try to video chat, or at least make a phone call.
Breaking up through texting or Facebook may seem easy.
But think about how you'd feel, if your Boyfriend or girlfriend did that to you, and what your
friends would say about that person's character!.
No.2, Do not go into the breakup alone.
If you do decide to meet with them, take someone with you.
A quick getaway if your partner starts to become angry, is a must for this situation.
If you can’t have someone there with you, at least have someone on speed dial, and let
a few people know what time you leave, and what time you want to be home.
Always meet in public where there will be other people around, and be insistent on not
leaving the sight of at least one other set of eyes, even if they are a stranger’s.
No.3, Practice what you’re going to say.
Do not let the other person control the conversation, or try to manipulate what you would like to
say.
It is so tempting to fall back into the relationship.
Keep a list handy, of why you broke things off.
Some things are unforgivable from a partner and insults, physical harm, or threats definitely
fall into this category.
Be sure that what you are saying, makes it clear that you have suffered enough, and don’t
want them in your life.
Be strong, we know you can do it!.
No.4, Be honest, but not brutal.
Tell the other person the things that attracted you in the first place, and what you like
about him or her.
Then say why you want to move on.
"Honesty" doesn't mean "harsh."
Don't pick apart the other person's qualities, as a way to explain what's not working.
Think of ways to be kind and gentle, while still being honest.
No.5, Make Your Exit.
After you've hashed things out, you're going to need an exit strategy, because these conversations
tend to go in circles, After you've made your point, and the other person is just saying
the same things over and over again, or trying to convince you to change your mind, you can
tell them that you've said what you need to say, and that you need to go.
This helps keep you both from getting frustrated, and gets the healing process started quicker.
No.6, Once you leave the relationship, refuse any contact.
This may be a little more controversial to some people, but for a time period immediately
after the breakup, there should be no contact.
Do not respond to texts or phone calls.
Do not meet with your ex to discuss the reasons for the breakup, to “just say goodbye,”
or because he or she needs “closure.”
Your ex knows the reasons you broke up; any attempt to get together to “talk about it”,
is just a manipulative ploy to rope you in.
Plus, it’s dangerous.