5 Ways Short Men Are Screwed Over (And How To Overcome Heightism)
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Now, if you’re on Tinder, you may not be surprised to find profiles that say things
like these, “If you aren’t at least 6’3”, I’m not interested.” “No job, swipe
left.” “No, high school diploma, swipe left.” “No tattoos, swipe left.” “Under
6 foot, you better swipe left twice.” Me, I’m 5’9”. When I read this I’m
thinking, damn, those women are cruel. Now, I’m not sure those profiles are legit and
they sure as heck aren’t nice, but you know what? They’re honest. Here’s the cool
hard fact. Many men especially by women are written off because of their height.
In today’s video, gents, I’m getting a little bit angry, I’m revealing five ways
that men under 6 foot are screwed over. So, the first issue that short men deal with,
it’s unfair, but true, women prefer taller men. However, there’s some interesting research
about this. So, there was a study conducted in 2010 based on 2000 online profiles, and
they tried to identify how much taller should a man be to actually be attractive. What the
research revealed is if a man is two to five inches taller than a woman, then she is more
likely to be attracted to him. But, if he is more than five inches taller than her,
she’s going to be even more attracted to him.
However, all of this was relative to the woman’s height. So, if she’s 5 foot, you’re 5’2”,
she’s going to find your height attractive. If she’s 4’11”, you’re 5’5”, she’s
going to find you very attractive. That being said, guys, there are so many other factors
that go into attraction. What I find based off my research is that height is used as
a disqualifier mostly for online dating. When people meet through friends, they interact
at work, they meet in person, they’re oftentimes able to overcome things that a person may
initially have thought they wouldn’t find attractive. So, my advice to shorter guys
in a dating pool is to be careful of systems that quantify you as a number, instead look
to separate yourself from the pack, meet people through friends, through clubs, through church,
go out dancing. Guys, look at the old ways of meeting people. I think for shorter men,
they are a huge advantage. And, if you agree, disagree, let me know down
in the comments. Now, let’s talk about the tailored tax.
You know what I’m talking about. Everything you buy off the rack has to be adjusted to
fit your body. And worse than that, even when you get it adjusted, the proportions are totally
off. The collars and cuffs are too large, the jackets are too long, pockets are in the
wrong place. Gents, what if I were to tell you there’s
a clothing company that makes stylish classic pieces just for you. The clothing I’m wearing
right now is made by Peter Manning. I’ve talked about them before, I’m proud to have
them as a sponsor because these guys have solved the problem that so many guys who are
5’3”, 5’5”, 5’6” who cannot find anything to fit them, well, guess what? You
can go into Peter Manning, you can look on their website, everything is made exactly
for your built. Gents, when you go onto their website, you’re
going to see pants. They’re made with a 25 to 30-inch seam. Most stores don’t carry
this. And the shirts, they’re made with proper sleeve and body length. They’re made
with narrower arms and scaled down collars and cuffs. Their polos and tees, again, proportionally
correct for the shorter man made with a hundred percent super soft pima cotton. And, don’t
even get me started, guys, on their suits and jackets, they’re absolutely beautiful
made from high quality Italian fabrics. They did not skip corners here. It is very high
quality. And, let’s talk about their outerwear, not
only is it going to be a classic cut, a classic style, you actually get something that fits
you perfectly right out the box. And fit really matters on sweaters, very difficult to get
adjusted. Peter Manning sweaters, again, are going to fit you right out the box.
Now, when you go to their website and you check out the clothing, you’re going to
see they’ve got a unique sizing system. It’s easy to use just follow the directions.
I’m linking to Peter Manning down in the description of today’s video with a discount
code that has limited use. It is a great deal. Free shipping within the US, easy returns.
Again, gentlemen, use that discount link, it’s not going to be available forever.
Next up, is the denial by the vast majority of people out there that heightism is even
a thing. Seriously, if you feel you’re being judged by your height and you bring it up,
people automatically assume he’s got a Napoleon complex.
What’s interesting though is when you look at the research, it totally debunks the whole
idea of the Napoleon complex actually doesn’t exist, but what it does support is that people
do judge others unfairly based on their height. In fact, in 1971, the sociologist, Saul Feldman,
he actually coined the word heightism. He put out a paper titled, The Presentation of
Shortness in Everyday Life Height and Heightism in American Society: Toward a Sociology of
Stature. But, it’s actually in the field of law where we’ve really seen heightism
draw attention to itself. So, in 1999, we saw the Kohler company suit
because they had a height requirement which made no sense. In 2002, we saw a bank suit
because they had a height requirement that made no sense. And, in 2005, Volvo was forced
to get rid of the height requirement which, again, made no sense and it discriminated
against shorter people. And, when it comes to laws, there’s currently only one state
in the United States, Michigan has laws to protect people from heightism.
Next up, short men are looked over. Literally, they’re looked over for promotion. So, they
did a survey of Fortune 500 CEOs asking them about their height, 3% were under 5’7”
which is about 30% of the population, so that was pretty off right there. But, what was
really interesting is that 90% of the CEOs were of above average height.
[0:05:11] Now, there was another research paper I found
in the Journal of Applied Psychology that clearly showed that height did correspond
with success. What this paper showed is an increase in height for men corresponds to
an increase in income after controlling for other social psychological variables like
age and weight. Economists call this the height premium and it shows that for every inch above
average that you are, you get a 1.8% increase in your overall salary.
Now, when scientists look at all the data, they realized there’s a lot of other factors
involved and in fact, there’s also a lot of outliers. The richest man in the word,
Jeff Bezos, he’s shorter than average. In fact, there was a book published in 2018 called
Amazing Heights How Shorter Guys Stand Tall, and it talks about a number of short men which
have had great success. And, with that, let’s talk about the next
point. If you’re short, you can’t really do anything about it. And, yes, there are
some style tricks that you can pull off. Wear a hat, people will guess that you’re a couple
inches taller. Wear boots add about two inches to your height. Wear a monochromatic outfit
allow the eyes to go up and down, you’ll look leaner and taller.
But, when it comes down to it, guys, most of us are not going to be growing any taller.
So, what do you do if you can’t do anything about the situation? Well, gents, the answer
is you look at what you can control. So, the asked John Glenn when you’re getting
shot into space, you’re strapped to this explosive rocket that could blow up, what
are you thinking what are you doing? And, his answer was, “Well, you know, I can’t
really do anything except breathe and just relax.” When you talk to guys in Special
Forces, anyone that goes into a very high stress situation in which everything is going
crazy around you, what can you do? Well, you can’t really do much in some of those situations
except relax and breathe and stay focused in on what few things you can control.
So, if you’re 5’2”, 5’4”, 5.6”, you can’t do anything about your height,
but what you can do is change your attitude about your height. You can walk taller because
you know who you are, you know what you stand for, you know the work that you put into your
life and you know, hey, I’ve been dealt these cards and society may judge me may make
these decisions, but I am going to walk with confidence, I am going to own the room, I’m
going to walk like I am 6’8” like I am 7’4”.
The thing is if you let your height get into your head, it becomes a bigger issue than
it really is. Know what you stand for, know what you want out of life. Look heightism
right in the face, take your fist, and, boom, knock its teeth out.
So, what video to watch next? How about this one? Ten outdated style and etiquette rules
that every man needs to know. Do you know them? Guys, go check out this video, I will
link to it down in the description. [0:07:50] End of audio