Hey, it's Tripp here from Tripp Advice.com. I got something really cool for you today.
What we're gonna be talking about is flirting, but not flirting with the things that you're saying,
verbal flirting, but more flirting with your body language. And she's gonna pick up on these things.
Body language is really powerful. We pick up on body language a little bit quicker than we do
with verbal language. You want to be able to use this, to flirt with her and build tension with her
so then you build attraction with her and then she becomes interested in you. You can take her out,
you can ask her out, go on dates, and so on and so forth. If you don't use this and you
don't really understand how to flirt without using your words, what ends up happening is you decrease
your chances of being able to build that tension and show her that you're a guy who understands
how to build attraction. You want her to know that you're flirting. It should be something that is
apparent. If she doesn't know you're flirting then she can't gauge if you're interested and then...
you land in the friend-zone. You don't want that. We want to use flirting to our advantage. And one
way to do that besides the things that we say to her is the way that we move. The first thing I'm
going to teach you today is flirting with your eyes. I'm going to talk about flirting with your
eyes, flirting with your smile and then general body language that appears flirty to her when
you're in her presence. Let's talk about first your eyes. One of the best things you could do,
if you don't already, is give great eye contact. Looking at her when you're talking to her.
What I've noticed and I've noticed this in guys, myself included when I was learning this stuff,
is that you can be really good at looking at her in the eyes when you're listening.
But it's another skill to look at her in the eyes when you're talking. It's easy
to veer off or look down. Imagine you're the girl and I'm talking to you and I'm
looking over here or I'm looking over here and I'm looking at someone else and looking
at my friend and looking at you but I'm looking over here a lot when I'm talking.
You want to make sure that you are looking at her in the eyes 95% of the time and that includes when
you are talking. Eye contact is powerful. It builds tension. If you don't believe me,
just practice it anytime that you're talking to anyone. You feel more connected to someone when
you're looking at them in the eyes. But here's the trick to it. I'm not just going to tell you to
use eye contact. I want you to use flirty eye contact. A way to do that is you squint.
You're going to squint a little bit. When you're looking at her, you're squinting. It's going to be
combined with a smile too. But just squinting. I don't mean squinting like this where it looks like
you can't see her or you're like an old man. I just mean lightly squinting a little bit. It's
very subtle. What's the opposite of squinting? It's gonna be eyes wide like this. I know no one,
well maybe some people do, but no one usually looks at someone like this. This looks like you're
in fear or scared. But if you just lower your eyes a little bit and just squint them about 20%,
it looks like you're intrigued by her. It also makes you look more attractive. It makes you look
more confident. Imagine you're looking at her in the eyes using the eye contact that we're talking
about. But doing it in such a way where you're just squinting a little bit. And it shows that
intrigue and makes you look more confident and appears more attractive. There's a photographer
named Peter Hurley, he calls it the squinch where you bring up your eyelids just a little bit and
you squint ever so slightly in photographs to make you look more attractive. Why don't we take this
same concept and use it in person? You squinch a little bit when you're talking to her like this.
Or maybe when you're listening to her, you're squinching just a little bit. It really shows this
intrigue, this passion, but not too much. And just enough where you're looking at her and it starts
to build that connection. Super powerful stuff. So that's one. Now how do you do it with your
smile? Well, when you're talking to a girl, you don't want to be deadpan like this. You want to
have a little bit of a smile, but not too much. Because this is weird. If you're just smiling at
them through your teeth. You just want a very light grin. And you're going to combine this
with the squinch. You're squinting a little bit and just have a little light grin on your face.
Like this. Again, this is going to be a very intriguing look. And it's going to tell her
through your body language that you're interested in her. That this isn't just a
friendly friendship conversation. You're not looking to just get to know someone to be
their friend. No, you're interested in them and you're doing it so subtly that it's not
going to be needy or overbearing. Again, just a light grin and just an ever so slight squinch
and you're going to do this when you're listening to her. Obviously you're not going to do that
when you're talking to her. Although if you want to get a little advanced, you can. You can have a
little bit of a light smile like this and use it like this as I'm talking to you. You're squinting
with a light smile almost like you're holding back laughter. I've talked about this in previous
videos. You're like holding back laughter. It just shows that you're having fun. You're interested
in the conversation. There's a principle called entertainment that I've talked about where you
entertain yourself in an interaction. And when you do that and when you're having a good time,
that energy is going to transfer over to her and she's going to have a good time.
That's showing that you're enjoying yourself and you're having a good time by just lightly smiling
when you're talking to her. It also shows that you're interested in the conversation
and a little bit of that interest that's so subtle, that's what we call flirting, it's gonna
build that tension which then builds attraction. Next, let's talk about your body language. We're
combining the smize, a little bit of a grin and your body language which is just relaxed. Now I
know this doesn't seem like it's flirty. Like how is just relaxed, calm body language flirting? Well
it's not that it's flirting, but it is signaling to her that you're comfortable around her.
If you're really tense and your shoulders are up and your hands are shoved in your pockets
and you seem closed off instead of open, then it doesn't allow everything else to work. It's
like the foundation for body language flirting is you have to be somewhat relaxed. One thing that I
like to do... if I'm ever talking to someone or if I was ever talking to women at the bar
and flirting with them, I try to get into a position where I'm leaning against the
bar a little bit or leaning against a wall that's by me a little bit so I can
be relaxed. I can look relaxed and I can have them in a position where it looks like they're almost
hitting on me. I learned this a long time ago from from PUA material. You want to get into a position
where it looks like they're hitting on you and talking to you and subconsciously this has an
interesting effect on the whole conversation itself because it's making you look less needy
and less aggressive. You get into a position where you can lean a little bit
and just relax. Maybe even cross your feet a little bit like your feet are crossed at the
bottom there. And just leaning a little bit and have relaxed body language. When you can do that
it makes the squinch and it makes your grin that much more powerful. Combine all of this
with amazing verbal skills and my friend, you're on your way. If you want to get more information
on verbal skills, by the way, you can check out my Hooked program. There's a whole module in there
all about effortless flirting which talks about everything you need to know on my most craziest,
awesome techniques that work when you're talking to a girl. Combine the verbal with the body
language and you will be unstoppable. Because this is what helps you avoid the friend-zone and get
women interested in you. Very powerful stuff. You can check out that at Get Her Hooked dot com. If
you want to learn more of the verbal stuff. I'll put a link down below. But let's hear from you.
What do you think is going to help you the most? Which one will you try right now? The best way to
practice this is try one of these. So when you're talking to someone in conversation, just try one.
Of course, maybe not a guy friend. If you don't have any girls that you're talking to right now,
practice in the mirror. Just take one of these concepts, whether it's the squinch or whether
it is the grin or just relaxed body language, practice it, talk to yourself in the mirror.
I know it sounds crazy, but who cares? It helps and that's the whole point. Try that out. Let us
know which one you're going to try out first and I want to hear from you down below. Again if you
want the Hooked program, also down below. Hope this helps and I'll see you on the next video.