Your victory has defeated you.
Some of you, your success has messed you up.
You're so successful now you're soft.
Your success has not benefited you,
you've not grown as a result of being successful,
you've lost your bite,
you're not hungry anymore,
your success is damaging you.
You know how many people want the life that you have
and you got it?
And you're not taking it serious?
You know how many people would die to have your life?
And you got it.
It's your life, you got it,
what you gonna do with it?
I need you to stay plugged in.
Because the days you're not plugged in,
are there days you don't give 120.
They say an alligator is so ferocious it'll kill a lion.
But I can kill a alligator with my bare hands.
How?
They say when you want to kill an alligator,
you kill it right after it eats.
Cause right after it eats,
it gets satisfied.
It goes to a state like it's almost paralyzed.
Some of y'all in this room, are you paralyzed?
You had a little success?
You done what nobody else in your family has done
and now you're chilling?
Come on, you ain't hungry no more?
You should still be hungry.
What have you eaten that's gotten you satisfied?
What have you done, what have you accomplished
that's got you so full?
I haven't had my best idea yet.
I haven't had my most creative moment yet.
I haven't produced my dream yet.
I don't care whether you're 30, 40, 50, 60, 70,
there's something down inside of you that's still kicking
inside of you that wants to get out
and it wants to live.
When you start running from one thing
you're gonna keep running from everything.
You're gonna run from love,
you're gonna run from life
you're gonna run from responsibility
you're gonna run, run, run, run, run
when are you gonna stop running?
Yes we're tired
yes we're hungry
yes the mind is saying give up
Yes it's saying quit
but we cannot quit
because we realize
we have not reached the goal yet.
This is not what I dreamed about
this is not what I said I was going to do
this is not what it looks like.
I gotta squeeze.
And then once we get past that place
we become comfortable
with being uncomfortable.
We no longer thrive to be in the comfort zone.
The standard is the standard,
we don't lower it.
We compete,
we fight,
we scrap,
we live to fight another day.
We don't retreat against nobody.
That ain't talent.
That's essence.
That's core.
That's who I am as a person.
That's how I get down, that's how I'm coming.
That's what that is.
And every time you get ready to stop,
every time you get ready to quit,
that's you as a man.
But when you press forward,
in the midst of the opposition,
in the midst of the adversity,
you're building a mentality that's gonna sustain you
20, 30, 40, 50 years from now.
And I get what I get because I live in beast mode.
Y'all gotta do me a favor,
stop being gazelles, you're not average.
There's nothing about you that's average.
You're not even good,
you were born to be great.
For those of you who are 70%,
70% beats mode,
30% gazelle,
that's just enough for that other person to outdo you.
What do you do when you're not the only one
that wants to make a million dollars in your company?
You're not the only one that wants to be the CEO?
What if you're not the only one that wants what you want?
What if there are thousands of other people
who want what you want?
You have to outwork them
You gotta outgrind them,
you've gotta execute,
and you've gotta go from 70
to 120.
Here is some of my best advice to you.
Welcome every human experience.
You never know which one is gonna turn it all on.
Don't keep up the walls.
The same wall that keeps out disappointment, keeps out happiness.
Let life touch you.
Don't let it kill you, but let it touch you.
It could be the next touch
that makes the day, that turns your life around.
And here is the last emotion, resolve,
resolve said I will
two of the most powerful words in the language "I will."
Benjamin Disraeli once said, nothing can resist a human will
that will stake even its existence on the extent of its purpose.
Shortly put, I'll do it or die.
That could be the day
the man says, I will climb the mountain.
They've told me it's too high.
It's too dar
It's too steep, it's too rocky, it's too difficult,
but it's my mountain.
I will climb it.
Pretty soon, you will see me waving from the top
or dead on the side because I'm not coming back.
Hey, that's powerful.
Time and fate and circumstance call a hasty conference,
and they all agree.
We might as well let John have it.
He says he's going to get it or die.
Wow, that it
Resolve.
The best definition of resolve I ever heard was
from a junior high girl in Foster City, California.
I'm talking to the junior high kids and I asked the question,
who can tell me what resolve means?
I got several hands.
Some were pretty good, but the last one was the best.
She said
I think resolve means promising yourself,
You will never give up.
I said, that's it.
Best I've heard
Promise yourself, you will never give up.
I ask the kids, how long should a baby try to learn how to walk?
How long would you give the average baby before you shut him off?
You say, that's crazy.
Any mother in the world would say, my baby is gonna keep trying
until it learns how to walk.
No wonder almost everyone walks.
What a magic formula.
The until formula
good question
How long are you going to work
to make your dreams of wealth and happiness come true?
I suggest the until formula
it's the best
emotions, disgust,
decision, desire resolved.
So one of the things I've been talking to my audiences about is the
relationship between responsibility and meaning, which is, what would you say?
It's a, it's a constant refrain in the book.
It's one of, its underly.
Um, um, messages, let's say are themes is a better way of thinking about it.
Um, you know, if you start with the presumption that there's a baseline of
suffering in life and that that can be, uh, exaggerated by, as a consequence of human
failing, as a consequence of malevolence and betrayal and self and betrayal and
deceit, and all those things that we do.
To each other and to ourselves that we know that aren't good.
That amplifies the suffering.
That's sort of the baseline against which you have to work and
it's contemplation of that often that makes people hopeless and depressed and
anxious and overwhelmed and all of that.
and they have the reasons, but you need something to put up against that.
And what you put up against that is meaning, meaning is actually the instinct that helps
you guide yourself through that catastrophe.
And most of that meaning is to be found.
in the adoption of responsibility.
So if you think, for example, if you think about the people that you admire,
well you think about when you have a clear conscience first.
Because that's a good thing to aim at, which is something different than happiness.
Um, a clear conscience is different than happiness.
It's better.
That better.
You're not guilting yourself, you're not feeling bad about yourself.
That's right.
You feel that you've justified, it's clean, you've justified your existence.
Right?
And so you're not waking up at three in the morning in a cold sweat
thinking about all the terrible things that you've involved yourself in.
What you said to someone that you shouldn't have said, or how you acted or lied.
What opportunity you lost.
Or, or the things that you've, that you've let go, that you should have capitalized on.
all of that
and so
If you think about the times when you're at peace with yourself with regards to how
you're conducting yourself in the world, it's almost always conditions under which
you've adopted responsibility, right?
At least the most.
The most guilt I think that you can experience perhaps is the sure knowledge
that you're not even taking care of yourself so that you're leaving
that responsibility to other people.
Cuz that's pretty pathetic and I, unless you're psychopathic
And, you know, and, and you're living a parasitical life and, and that,
that characterizes a very small minority of people and an even smaller
minority think that's justifiable.
But most of the time you're in guilt and shame because
you're not, you're, you're not.
Not only are you not taking care of yourself, let's say, so someone
else has to, but you're not living up to your full potential.
And so there's a existential weight that goes along with that.