- What is the rival type of your personality type?
What is that intertype relationship
that could often end up in competition or even contention?
Now the thing about these rival types
is it's not just like they hate each other for no reason.
When I'm thinking of a rivalry, I'm thinking of two people,
two teams, two personality types,
that have a lot of similarities,
but also some core differences.
And so because the rival types have
this surface-level similarity,
but a much deeper and arguably more profound difference
beneath the surface,
I think this is what causes that dynamic
that I am calling a rivalry.
Because these two types end up thinking
of going in the same directions,
but they go at it from such different ways
that they're looking at each other and being like,
"Why is this guy making the same progress
as me when they're doing something totally different?"
They're doing it the wrong way,
and yet somehow they're keeping up with me,
or maybe even passing me.
You guys are gonna be shocked when I tell you
what your rival type is, and it's very easy to find out.
And once I reveal this,
then I'm gonna go into a bit more depth
to explain why these two types,
why this intertype dynamic is the rivalry.
Alls you gotta do to find your rival type
is to take your type, and switch out the last letter.
And I know some of you were like
"Frank, how is this possible?
Like I am between these two types.
I can't figure out if I'm one or the other."
So here's the thing,
and this is a big point of misunderstanding
for many people who are just getting into typology, I think.
An INFJ is not just an INFP
who is more organized.
I know it's confusing.
They're just one letter off, one little letter difference,
but that one letter makes worlds of difference.
These two types are very dissimilar, and it's true,
we have three of the four letters of the same,
and especially important are those two middle letters,
because the two middle letters
is where the communication is,
like that's your communication style.
So ISFJ, ISFP, they're both talking SF.
They're both talking the sensory,
which is the real world and the facts,
and they're talking the F,
which is the feelings, the just like,
"Ooh, that's the vibe of things?"
We're not talking about the logic here.
So yes, initially on the surface,
these types, when they're talking to each other,
it's like, "Yeah, we're sort of talking the same language.
We get each other."
Arguably this will lead these rival types
on somewhat similar paths in life,
they will probably end up in similar spheres,
they might go after similar interests,
the same kind of jobs, et cetera.
And this is what really sets them up to be rivals.
So that's what makes the types similar,
now let's talk about all the things that make the types
different when they're in these rivalries,
and the thing that really creates that wedge,
which makes this rivalry bloom.
First up, let's just look at the first and last letter.
So both extrovert types, right?
But when you flip that last letter,
you get two different temperaments,
and you can watch a whole video I did
about temperaments a couple years ago,
but anyway, the temperament is the first and last letter.
So the EJ temperament, and an EP temperament.
And the biggest thing about the rival types
is that their temperaments make them very focused
on different things generally in life.
And I made a whole video about this major divide
between the 16 personalities, as well,
so let's just continue to use the NF types as an example.
On one side, you have the IJs and the EPs,
and this is true for whatever the middle two letters are.
These temperaments, very different temperaments, as well,
but the thing that's similar about them is that
they both have intuition and sensing
the most out of balance in their type.
Way outta whack.
On the other hand, the EJs and the IPs,
they don't have intuition and sensing out of whack,
they have thinking and feeling
as the most out of balance parts of their personality.
So in other words, these types over here,
the EPS and the IJs,
and since we're talking about ENFP and INFJ,
they have dominant intuition, and so sensing,
that's the thing that gets them every time,
the facts, reality, don't like it,
the information that's really where they get stuck.
The EJs and the IPs, intuition, yeah they prefer it,
and sensing, they don't really love it,
but that's not the biggest thing in their life.
The biggest thing is the thinking.
The thinking gets them, they're dominant feelers,
and so when it comes to the logic, they're like,
"Ah, crap."
And the real part of it is
because thinking and feeling are decision-making functions,
who makes decisions?
People do.
So people is the big problem here.
So for these guys, the people, not as big of a deal,
but the information is, for these guys, information,
the sensing not a big deal, but people,
and the decisions they're making, that's so difficult,
this is the biggest life problem.
That's really where the rivalry starts to fester.
They're going after the same things.
These two types, for an example,
they're going after the ST kind of stuff in life,
whatever that might be.
But along the way, the ESTJ is like,
"Oh man, decisions, dealing with people,
and me having to fall back on, you know,
what do I think is right
versus what other people think this,
ugh, that's so tough.
I'm stuck on that."
- Whereas this guy's like
"Eh, no big deal.
I'm going along with the people."
And he's like,
"Oh no, why is he having it so easy with the people?"
Meanwhile, he's like,
"Oh, why is the ESTJ having it so easy
with the information?
I'm struggling with the intuition,
and seeing the path forward."
But this guy over here,
he is not really struggling with it.
Okay, now let's get into some honors-level typology.
Do you think you can handle that?
Can you stick around for it?
I believe in you.
I think that you can handle it.
All right, let's get visual here,
and look at some cognitive functions.
And I'm just using these two types
as an example of how the rivals have
totally different cognitive functions,
even though they have three of the same four letters.
That didn't really make sense
the way I formulated that sentence,
but I think you know what I said.
And if you want a introductory video
on the cognitive functions,
you are luck, I have made it.
And if I don't link to it, just search on YouTube,
Frank James, cognitive functions,
boom, it'll be there at the top.
Just search Frank James, handsome guy,
but anyway, take a look at this though,
so you have, you know, all the same things,
everyone has intuition, sensing,
thinking, and feeling right?
But if you look at these little letters
I put next to it, the Is and the Es there,
that indicates whether or not your cognitive function
is introverted or extroverted.
And if you are astute, you will see that for the INTP,
they have introverted thinking and extroverted intuition,
whereas the INTJ has the opposite of that,
introverted intuition and extroverted thinking.
And so while those are generally kind of the same,
it's NT, intuition thinking, they're also very different.
When you prefer an introverted perceiving function
like intuition or sensing,
you're really trying to narrow stuff down.
You're not looking for a wide breadth of information,
you're not trying to take in a bunch of info,
you're really trying to look forward just a little bit,
you're trying to just organize it, get it cut down,
and maybe you're just looking at old information
that you know already.
Whereas on the other hand,
the rival type has the opposite process
going on when it comes to perceiving.
So in this example, extroverted intuition,
it's like, "Yeah I want as much info as possible.
I wanna keep looking for more information,
and actually I never wanna stop
to kind of narrow it down,
and I don't really wanna look at the old information,
the old information could be outdated.
I need some new info.
I wanna keep my options open."
And when it comes to the decision-making,
it's an even bigger problem,
an even bigger wedge between the rival types,
because over here, you have extroverted thinking,
and extroverted thinking or extroverted feeling
is making decisions in a way where it's trying to like
take in the decisions of other people,
and kind of come up with how does my decision
fit on that spectrum?
How do I take other people's decisions, their choices,
how they value things,
or how they think something's gonna work,
and make my decision based off of that?
It's external, it's extroverted.
Whereas for the P types,
generally, they're trying to make decisions looking inward,
and just like "What do I think is logical?"
For an FP type it's gonna be like,
"What do I feel is the right decision.
I'm not looking out to see
what other people think about it".
And so that's why the rival types can look at each other,
and be like, "That person is doing everything wrong.
They're looking at information the wrong way,
and they're making decisions in the wrong way.
And yet somehow,
they're still right next to me the whole time."
Now you may recall that the mirror type
AKA the shadow type of each personality
is actually somewhat similar to the rival type.
So while the INTJ's rival is the INTP,
the INTJ's mirror is the ENTP.
"So Frank, why aren't these types rivals?"
Now, of course, yes, I think that they will have
a little bit of competition and contention between them,
but I think that their temperaments align in such a way
where they both get hung up on the same stuff.
These two types in particular
will always get hung up on the information,
and so they'll be able to look over at the other guy,
and be like, "Ha-ha, that sucker, he's just like me.
He's getting tripped up on the sensory."
Whereas with the rival type, it's like,
"Hey why isn't he getting tripped up on the sensory?
It's not fair.
How does he do it?
Why can't I just do it the same way as him?
Why can't he get tripped up on the same stuff
I get tripped up on?"
Here's a good question.
If you are, for example, an INFP,
does that mean every time in real life,
or even most of the time in real life,
when you come across an INFJ, your rival type,
that you will in the sensory,
in the real world, be rivals with that person?
Should you hate them?
Should you have mad beef with them?
And the answer is, of course not.
This is just the word that I am giving
to this type interaction based on a theoretical analysis
of the types and their cognitive functions,
and how they could theoretically interact.
Thanks for watching, and until next time,
stay cool and attractive.
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