what's up guys mad artist in here from the attractive man i'm in a coffee bean
right now which is a very common date first date spot
nowadays so I figured I do a quick little video on where to go for your
first date because the been you that you pick or venues can make or break your
date
so first of all you have to understand the point of a first date or the goal of
a date what is your goal when you're asking a woman out on a first date
now some guys a lot of guys will say to have sex with her and that may become
your goal or you know you're the reason you're on the date with her at some
point as you're getting to know her and she's proving yourself to you and she
has some of the qualities that you're looking for in a woman that you would
want to date or at least sleep would but if it's a first date and you don't
really know her at all yet you just met her on the street or at a bar or
something like that was a pretty short interaction then how do you know you
want to sleep with her yet she might be beautiful but could be crazy you don't
want to be the crazy girl trust me it's not worth it if she you know stocks you
or cut your penis off
probably not worth it so you want to find out if she's crazy or not so it's
part of the day is getting to know each other right
the mother part of the date or points of going on a first date is to have fun a
lot of guys missed that purpose of the date so it's the have fun have a good
time and get to know each other so the venue or venues that you pick should
help facilitate those two goals you should be able to get to know each other
in the venue and it should be fun or at least it doesn't have to be like you
take you to Disneyland or something like that doesn't mean that but it should at
least be the venue that you can have fun in so for example let's take the common
date dinner and movies so dinner can you get to know each other
yes is it fun not really
some restaurants can be fun sure but most restaurants are not really fun and
you can really have fun in there they don't facilitate you having a good time
they facilitate you staring at each other and you know having awkward
conversation in between bites of your food you know food falling out of your
mouth you gotta talk like this and they don't see you you know talking with food
in your mouth and it's just kind of awkward and here's the thing two about
restaurants is that it's better especially don't know the girl yet to
pick venues that are very small compliance or small investment rather
because she doesn't know you yet she doesn't know if you're cool or crazy or
anything you need same with you you don't know she's cool or crazy so
picking a dinner that you that's going to take over an hour is not good because
now you're stuck with a friend out what if in 10 minutes you realize she's crazy
this girl's nuts and you want to leave while it's too late already ordered I
mean you can leave that the order food
but it is better to avoid all that goes somewhere where it's just very low
compliance first very low investment i should say somewhere more casual and
i'll get to some examples in a second what about movies movies could be fun
fun movie but you can't get to know each other you can't have a normal
conversation in the movie so that could be great
second door well not even second i would say fourth fifth sixth day once you're
really starting to get to know each other
same thing with restaurant I'll take a girl to a restaurant on maybe a third
date fourth date i'll cook for her as a sometimes even a second date i'll cook
for her
what about going to a club now that could be a lot of fun for some people
you like clubs but again you can't really get to know each other the
music's really loud once there's an outside area that could be the exception
so pick venues like bars or lounges are great to get to know each other because
it's fun to fun environment sometimes there's fun things to do in the
environment like pool tables darts and things like that little games you can
play and you can usually get to know each other and was not too loud if
there's a really loud band playing that may not be as good so pig doesn't just
normal average barks your typical bars even dive bars can be good sometimes
maybe not as fun but you can still do fun things in there you can people watch
and play games with each other you know make up your own games thumb-wrestling
fuck marry kill things like that so those are some pretty good venues those
what I like to do now you can also even if you don't drink we can still take her
to a bar you don't have to order an alcoholic beverage still take her to a
bar
what about daytime low coffee shops can be fine but they're not really fun now
daytime in general is not like a fun you know people don't associate the daytime
as somewhere to have fun for the time of the day to have fun vs nighttime usually
go out at night to have fun so coffee shop can work but i recommend ice cream
go get ice cream because it's more fun associated ice cream with a reward or
sometimes playfulness and fun
really so that can work really well unless you're going on a lot of daytime
dates then you'll be eating a lot of ice cream I had that problem i had three
daytime dates one day and that was a lot of I script I felt sick afterwards so
sometimes you want to switch it up you walk through the park things like that
can be great during the day too i recommend check out your city and just
do a google search citysearch and find different events and different things
that are going on in your city if you live in a big metropolitan area then
there's tons and tons of things to do in your city
I guarantee it you just need to find out what those things are then you can
invite girls to him other fun venues include roller skating like a roller
rink or a nice drink ice skating arcade you live in America there's Dave and
Busters and other types of bars local bar sometimes they also have video games
in them that can be really really fun because you can get to know each other
and you can play some games you don't have to worry about so much conversation
because there's a lot of built-in conversation as you're playing games so
interesting venues like that can be great too because again lots of built-in
conversation even just venues that have some interesting things on the wall
least that gives you some things to talk about
I like hard rock cafe because a lot of times there's a band playing especially
the one here in the city i'm in manila right now that every night of the week
is pretty much a band play
and that's kind of loud so we can get to know each other too much but then
there's a room right next door so we can go back and forth into the different
rooms and have fun and then go get to know each other
have fun watching the band go get to know each other is also a full table and
there's so many things on the wall so many rockabilly or uh yeah rock
memorabilia that you can talk about and it's interesting for me so that brings
up another quick point is go to venues that you enjoy
don't just try to pick the best venues for her don't ask her what's your
favorite restaurant i'll take you there
what's your favorite bar i'll take you anywhere you want to go take your places
you want to go and bring her along for the ride
that's what a woman wants she wants to be taken into your world wants to see
what you're all about what your world is and see if she fits in that world
another good point is pick multiple venues don't just go to one venue like
that again the traditional date is dinner and then you take her home back
to her place and kiss on the cheek or whatever it's awful
instead I like drinks like to grab drinks so i'll go to tell her to meet me
at a bar grab a drink then maybe go for a walk if there's like a nice park or
something like that maybe we'll grab another drink at another bar and then
maybe we'll grab ice cream because I don't wanna go to all different i don't
want to go to bar after bar bar bar that's a lot of drinks so go to like
four or five venues that are near each other typically walking distance for at
least a short cab ride away because each venue you go to it's a new experience
it's a new memory so she's gonna feel more connected and feel like she knows
you a lot longer if you go to multiple venues and have multiple experiences
just have one go to one venue and you just sit two hours you have great
conversation she's still not gonna feel like she really knows you she's not
gonna feel comfortable she might know a lot about you she's not gonna really
feel that comfortable with you yet so its key
make this a must when you want days you go to multiple venues I i suggest
minimum three there's really no maximum up to you and say minimum three though
if you want a really successful date and again they don't have to be bars because
that would be too much alcohol and i only have one drink per venue it's not
always alcoholic a lot of times we'll just get tonic and lime
there's no alcohol in it but I never get to three drinks in one venue only one
once that drinks gone and she's done with her drink time to move on to the
next video that's going to be much better you how much more successful date
if you just implement that rule i guarantee you you're gonna start having
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