Heya playa, have you ever sent a girl a text message only to be met with nothing in return?
Figuring out what to do in this situation can be a bit challenging.
Do you leave her alone or do you message her again?
To answer this question, I want to bring in the dating expert Hayley Quinn to help you
guys out.
Hi my name is Hayley Quinn and I am very grateful to be on The Josh Speaks channel, um as you
can see I am a dating expert and I am based in London.
I'm going to point to the most Londony thing in the background here which is our tube sign.
Hayley's gonna share 5 detailed strategies to get a response from the girl that's ignoring
you right after this.
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So you get a text, or you send her a text on What's App and you get the dreaded thing
where you know that's either ignored it completely, there's no two blue ticks on What's App or
she hasn't responded.
Now I think this is becoming more of an increasing problem in our internet age where lots of
people are meeting via dating sites and dating apps because we're under the constant illusion
there's always more people to meet.
And because of that, standing out especially as a guy in the dating scene becomes a little
harder.
And I want to help you out so if you identify as Mr. Friend Zone, Mr. Nice Guy I want to
be your best friend here and give you some great tips so in this video I'm going to give
you a few ideas or strategies about how you can reinitiate contact if she's gone AWOL.
And the first strategy which is not going to be one that you like but I'm just gonna
put it out there anyway is just don't do anything.
Because I think not responding to people is rude and as a guy I wouldn't have standards
that says you know what she can't be bothered to invest in this interaction if she can't
move her fingers or you know, type a message to me, I'm not gonna bother with her, there's
loads of other women to meet.
But I bet if you're watching this video this is not the response you want to hear.
So I got some different ideas and I want you to think about just as if I was working with
you if you were one of my clients I'd be thinking ok, what is the best strategy depending on
you and the woman in this particular situation.
So if you are slightly more mature guys, I'm thinking you are over 30 or over 35 particularly
and you're speaking to a woman who's maybe over 27, then there is a logic sometimes in
just ringing her.
Now, she may not pick up the phone because picking up the phone for someone especially
after you've ignored their messages is quite a scary thing to do but what it does suggest
to her which I think is quite powerful is that, that's just not good enough by not responding
to the message and often she won't pick up the call but it will prompt her to reply to
the message because it let's her know that you're serious.
And that is a bold strategy but it's actually quite good and personally I love it, I love
it when guys call.
I think that's very sexy and very manly.
Second thing you can do is you can send her a message.
Now, it's hard to send a follow up message that doesn't make you seem like, a loser is
a strong word but it doesn't make you look bad if she's already ignored one message so
we have to acknowledge the fact that she's ignored the other message.
You can't just say "hey how are you" or "how's your Saturday going" because it's just like
if someone ignores your message, that someone who has self respect in a nice way you have
to say something about that or at least show that you appreciate it and understood it.
Um I wouldn't go for like a cliche, for those of you guys that don't know much about me
I used to work in the pick up artist industry for many years before doing my own company,
I now work with many women as well and I know that some of the cliche messages that some
of the pick up artists might advise you to use which use to work really good in the past
and now aren't going to come across right so don't say something too silly like "Have
you been abducted by aliens?" or "fallen down a hole" or whatever those old lines were because
they've just been overused and they're gonna come across as lame so instead let's just
be direct and transparent um, and also not take on all the blame because there is a decent
likelihood that it's not all about you and that something else has happened in the rest
of her life which means her life admin, she's behind on it so that's the headspace and mindset
I want you to have because you should be coming from a position like "ok, she hasn't responded.
I don't know why.
I think I'm a good person so there's no reason why she wouldn't want to say hello to me again
so I have to assume that something else is going on with her life and that's why she's
chosen to not respond".
So the exact message you would send from that mindset is quite simply, I'd be like "hey,
not sure what happened over the week.
I'd still like to see you though so LMK (let me know), let me know what your schedule's
like for next week".
So you're very direct, you say you don't know what happened because you don't know what
happened, um, you don't say it in a way that's judgmental or accusational, you say "look,
I'd still like to see you again" so you show that you're not bothered by the fact that
she hasn't responded to you and you're not like writing poetry about it.
And then you say, keep it short and say LMK, let me know what your schedule is like next
week so you just push actually for her to tell you her next availability.
So that could be a cool thing to do.
Now if you think, ugh I don't really want to call her, I'm not a phone person and you
know sending her that message about "Hey, I'm not sure what happened.
I'm not sure what happened earlier in the week, I'd still like to see you, lmk, let
me know what your schedule is like next week" if you think that's too strong and you're
definitely going to get blown out for saying that, um I have some other ideas for you.
Idea number four, you can leave it sometime and in like a week or two in like 2017, it
feels like forever, and then you can send her a message which is slightly different
to re-engage.
Now, I like multimedia messages which can be like a photo, a little boomerang video,
it could be a song on Spotify, something that is memorable about your interaction so I would
say it's a song you were maybe talking about or an artist that you said you like or maybe
what passed where you first met her, send her a picture of it and send that, um, and
sometimes that will actually prompt a response and it does it in way that because what you're
sending is pretty engaging and quite creative, I think that sometimes that comes across better.
So actually number five which is my last one is, if you really think this is doomed, and
you maybe sent her the picture or the song and she never responded to that, but two months
have gone by and you're still thinking about her which is so annoying like, we've all been
there, I would actually recommend swapping which platform you contact her on so if you
contact her on iMessage or What's App, maybe try liking an Instagram photo or liking a
Facebook status or respond to one of her Instagram stories by direct message so that usually
comes across as extremely spontaneous and spur of the moment which kind of detracts
from the fact that you might be pining after her a little bit.
And then if she enters into some dialogue with you, you can probably assume that her
circumstances have changed and she's slightly more open to meeting you again so, five different
strategies you can choose from.
One, do nothing because screw it, people are just appear lame.
Get rid of them, you don't need it.
Two, if you're a slightly more mature guy, I'd call her up, be direct.
Three, send a message that again doesn't really shows that you've assume that her non-response
has nothing to do with you and just communicate clearly what you want and what you need which
is exactly what you should do in all dating interactions.
Four, if that's too strong, use some multimedia or something fun to re-engage, often waiting
some time.
And five, if a long time has passed and you still want to talk to her and she's definitely
not responded on any other form of messaging, respond to an Instagram story or post a comment
and contact her via some other channel uh, because no one wants to open a message thread
and see three un-responded to messages, that's very awkward so maybe if you swap that up,
things would change.
And you know what, often if a woman doesn't respond it's not all about you, who knows
what else is going on in the rest of her life whether she's been dating other guys, really
stressed at work so don't take all that responsibility on you.
Your responsibility is just to communicate clearly what you want and then listen to her
response.
And if her response is consistently nothing, then the right way to listen to that is to
think well why am I pursuing somebody who's not giving me anything in return?
No matter how awesome and funny and attractive you thought she was, if she's not showing
emotional availability or physical availability for any kind of relationship, seriously you
can do better.
If you like dating advice that is directly up front and is looking out for you, please
check out my channel and there will be a link beneath this video, you can other videos there
about dating and I'd also really advise you to head over to hayleyquinn.com/approach so
you can get my advice on how to speak to women in real life, I've got some free mini-ebooks
for you there you can download and just have on your phone so if you want a Hayley Quinn
in your pocket in a nice way you can head there.
What do you think though, do you ever run into the issue of having the girl you like
ignore your text?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
Thanks so much for listening to me, thanks so much Josh and I will see you guys another
time.
Thank you so much Hayley for coming on the channel and sharing your awesome advice.
I really appreciate it and I know everyone else does too.
If you guys want more advice like that, go check out her YouTube channel and go download
her free e-book.
The link will be in the description below.
As always guys, love and peace.