BABY,
BABY, WHY
BABY, WHY DON'T YOU JUST MEET ME IN THE MIDDLE AGE. WHEN
YOU'RE YOUNG YOU THINK YOU KNOW
EVERYTHING BUT WHEN YOU'RE OLD
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO THINK YOU
KNOW EVERYTHING SO WHERE DOES
THAT LEAVE YOU WHEN YOU'RE
MIDDLE-AGED?
MIDDLE-AGED? A GROUP OF WOMEN SET OUT TO
TACKLE THE CHANGES IN THIS PART
OF LIFE AND SOMETIMES MISERY
LOVES COMPANY AND THEIR
STRENGTH IN NUMBERS AND YOU
HAVE THE STEADY RESOURCE FOR
ANTIAGING TIPS.
ANTIAGING TIPS. PLEASE WELCOME THE CREATORS OF
THE BLOG, LET'S GROW GIRL.
YOU ALL ORIGINALLY STARTED AS
NEIGHBORS WHO MET UP TO PLAYED
BUNKO. THEN YOU REALIZE
THERE'S PROBABLY MORE TO LIFE
THAN THAT.
THAN THAT. SO YOU DISCOVERED ONLINE
ACTIVITIES. AND YOU FOUND A
LOT OF THINGS CATERED TOWARD
MILLENNIALS OR OLDER PEOPLE BUT
NOT REALLY THOSE OF US IN
MIDDLE AGE.
MIDDLE AGE. >> WE WERE LOOKING FOR THE FUN
THINGS TO DO WITH THERE
GIRLFRIEND THAT DID NOT REVOLVE
AROUND DRINKING ALL THE TIME
>> OR GOING TO RESTAURANT AND
EATING ALL THE TIME IT WAS
GEARED TOWARD MILLENNIALS AND
MORE IF THERE WAS SOMETHING FOR
WOMEN OVER 45 IT WAS ABOUT
FASHION AND BEAUTY WHICH WE
ENJOY THAT AS WELL BUT IT'S NOT
ALL WE ARE.
>> ALL OF THE FASHION AND
BEAUTY STUFF IS ABOUT TRYING TO
MAKE YOURSELF LOOK YOUNGER AS
OPPOSED TO WHERE YOU ARE.
>> LET'S GROW OUR INTERESTS AND
OUR FRIENDSHIP GROUPS AND LET'S
GROW OUR MINDS BECAUSE I THINK
SOCIETY WANTS TO SHRINK US AT
THIS AGE AND IN FACT WE SHOULD
BE DOING THE OPPOSITE IF YOU
HAVE MORE TIME OR RESOURCES.
>> WE BELIEVE IN GROWING UP AND
NOT GETTING OLD.
I'M GOING TO GO THROUGH --
RANDA, YOU ARE ABOUT TO BE AN
EMPTY NESTOR.
EMPTY NESTOR. LET'S TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR
FAMILY PICTURES.
FAMILY PICTURES. HAVE 2 NEWS SONS ONE ABOUT MY
AGE.
AGE.
AGE. AND
AGE. AND THE GUY SHE'S MARRIED TO,
THAT IS DAVID PAUL HER CHIEF
METEOROLOGIST.
METEOROLOGIST. AND YOU AND I HAD KIDS ABOUT
THE SAME TIME.
>> THE LAST TWO YEARS THAT HE
WAS IN THE HOUSE I PRETTY MUCH
WANTED TO KILL HIM EVERY DAY
AND I KEPT THINKING IT WILL BE
EASY TO SAY GOODBYE BUT THEN
WHEN YOU DO THE DROP OFF IT
AFFECTED ME SO MUCH MORE
DRAMATICALLY THAN I EXPECTED
AND SO MUCH LONGER.
>> YOU START TO THINK, MY
PURPOSE.
PURPOSE.
PURPOSE. A MOMMY FOR SO LONG AND IS THAT
PURPOSE GONE AND YOUR BASICALLY
SELF-SUFFICIENT.
SELF-SUFFICIENT. SUZANNE, TOLD ME ABOUT YOUR
FAMILY STRUCTURE.
FAMILY STRUCTURE. >> I'M MARRIED TO A MAN NAMED
BRIAN WHO IS IN THE AUDIENCE
TODAY.
TODAY.
TODAY. I
TODAY. I HAVE -- HE HAS RUN 50
MARATHONS ONE IN EACH STATE AND
IS WORKING ON THE CONTINENTS
RIGHT NOW.
RIGHT NOW. I HAVE A SON WHO IS A SENIOR
ABOUT TO GRADUATE AND GO TO
COLLEGE SO I'M ABOUT TO BE AN
EMPTY NESTOR.
EMPTY NESTOR. >> HOW DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL?
>> GOOD BECAUSE I HAVE THIS.
I HAD SOME TIME ON MY HANDS,
I'M A RETIRED ACCOUNTANT BUT
THIS HAS FILLED THE GREAT GAP
FOR ME.
FOR ME.
FOR ME. >> BELINDA, YOU ARE A
GRANDMOTHER.
GRANDMOTHER. >> I'M A GRANDMOTHER, I HAVE
THREE WONDERFUL GRANDDAUGHTERS.
FROM TWO DIFFERENT CHILDREN A
SON AND A DAUGHTER WHO I'M VERY
PROUD OF.
PROUD OF.
PROUD OF. AND MY HUSBAND IS ALSO AN
AUDIENCE.
AUDIENCE.
AUDIENCE. >> I DON'T THINK ANY OF US ARE
AT OUR AGE WHERE HER PARENTS
WERE AT THAT AGE.
MY MOTHER WOULD NOT HAVE GO-GO
BOOTS ON LIKE I HAVE TODAY THAT
IS ALSO THE THING THAT IS
CONFUSING AND WE ARE LIVING
LONGER TODAY SO MIDDLE-AGE IS
DIFFERENT.
DIFFERENT. >> WE ARE HEALTHIER AND WE TAKE
BETTER CARE OF OURSELVES.
GET WITH YOUR GIRLFRIENDS,
THERE HAS BEEN A STUDY DONE
THAT WAS PUBLISHED IN PSYCHOLOGY
TODAY THAT SHOWED A DEFINITIVE
LINK BETWEEN LONELINESS AND
DEPRESSION.
DEPRESSION. >> EVEN WHEN YOU'RE MARRIED YOU
CAN BE LONELY.
>> ABSOLUTELY.
>> ABSOLUTELY. I HAVE SEEN PEOPLE THAT ARE
EMPTY-NESTERS AND THEY DON'T
KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE.
THEY FEEL LONELY AT HOME
VACUUMING AND COOKING AND DON'T
KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO
>> WHEN WAS THE FIRST MOMENT
YOU REALIZE THERE WAS A SHIFT?
FOR ONE OF MY FRIENDS, HER
DAUGHTER CAME HOME AND THROUGH
HER STUFF ON THE COUNTER AND
SAID I'M GOING TO MAKE ENDS
HOUSE AND LEFT AND SHE SAID SHE
DOESN'T NEED ME SO SHE WENT OFF
TO LAW SCHOOL.
THAT WHEN WAS THE MOMENT THAT
YOU SAID --
>> WHEN MY SON STARTED GETTING
UP ON HIS OWN AND GOING TO
SCHOOL ON HIS OWN AND I COULD
SLEEP LATE.
SLEEP LATE. I WORK OUT OF MY HOME AND IT
WAS GREAT BUT IT WAS LIKE, THE
PURPOSE IS GONE.
AND THERE'S A BIG HOLE.
AND HOW DO YOU FILL IT? YOU
CAN FILL IT THE WRONG WAY OR
FILL IT IN A CONSTRUTIVE
PRODUCTIVE WAY AND THAT'S WHAT
THE BLOG HAS BEEN ABOUT.
>> NO MATTER HOW GREAT YOUR
PARTNER IS THERE STILL A NEED
IN EVERYWOMAN TO BE WITH
GIRLFRIENDS.
GIRLFRIENDS. IT'S GREAT FOR YOUR HEART AND
YOUR SOUL.
YOUR SOUL. >> I RECOMMENDED TWICE A WEEK.
>> THERE IS AN ARTICLE ON THAT.
>> WHAT WAS YOUR MOMENT OF
RECKONING?
RECKONING? >> LAST YEAR WHEN WE WERE
THROWING AROUND THIS IDEA, LIKE
I SAID, I HAD RETIRED FROM
BEING AN ACCOUNTANT FOR YEARS
AND YEARS AND I VOLUNTEER THAT
WE HAD THIS -- THIS LITTLE SEED
GREW INTO THIS BLOG AND IT'S
BEEN A SUPER CREATIVE OUTLET.
WE'VE TRIED SO MANY NEW
DIFFERENT THINGS WE NEVER
WOULD'VE DONE HAD THIS NOT COME
ALONG.
ALONG.
ALONG. >>
ALONG. >> AND FOR YOU?
>> THE MOMENT FOR ME WAS THE
BLOG AS WELL. IT WAS -- I WORK
AND HAVE MY OWN BUSINESS SO I
REALIZED I WAS DOING EVERYTHING
FOR EVERYONE ELSE AND I NEEDED
SOMETHING FOR ME.
I FOUND THE JOY A LOT WHEN I
WAS WORTH WITH MY GIRLFRIENDS
IN CREATING AND IT WAS ABOUT ME
. IT HAD BEEN ABOUT THE KIDS
AND IS STILL IS.
BUT I'VE LEARNED HOW TO JUGGLE
IT FOR ME AS WELL.
>> I WAS TURNING THE CORNER AND
WHEN YOU GET OFF THE SOFA AND
USUALLY JUST POP UP BIT -- AND
WHEN MY WORKOUTS WERE NOT
WORKING. AFTERNOON NAPS WE
MISS THE CARPOOL AND THINGS
LIKE THAT.
LIKE THAT. WE WERE LOOKING AT A VIDEO AND
ALL KINDS OF THINGS THAT YOU
DID WHERE WE DO THINGS WHEN
WE'RE YOUNGER AND WE ARE
ADVENTUROUS AND THEN WE GET
AWAY FROM IT BECAUSE WE GET IN
A RUT BUT YOU DID BACKYARD
BEEKEEPING.
BEEKEEPING. >> WHEN MY OLDEST LEFT IS THAT
I'M JUST GONNA THROW MYSELF
INTO EVERYTHING AND I DID A
SELF-DEFENSE AND WORK OUT AND
IT'S VERY EMPOWERING FOR WOMEN.
THE BEEKEEPING, WE STARTED A
HIVE IN THE BACKYARD AND I'VE
LEARNED SO MUCH ABOUT THE
BIOLOGY OF B'S AND IT'S
WONDERFUL TO CULTIVATE THE
BEAUTIFL HONEY AT THE ENTRY OF
THE SEASON.
THE SEASON. AND OF COURSE IT'S DANGEROUS.
STRUCK AT YOU HAVE A BEEKEEPING
OUTFIT?
OUTFIT?
OUTFIT? >> YOU HAVE TO.
>> POLLO.
>> POLLO.
>> POLLO. >> YES I'M GOING TO TAKE A
POLLO CLINIC.
POLLO CLINIC. POLO CLUB IS THE LARGEST
CLIPPER PAINT PLAYER IN THE
WORLD AND 50% ARE WOMEN OVER
40.
40.
40. 65%
40. 65% ARE WOMEN AND 50% ARE WOMEN
OVER 40.
OVER 40.
OVER 40. WOMEN LOVE HORSES ESPECIALLY IN
TEXAS BUT IT'S SUCH A BEAUTIFUL
SPORT AND IT'S AN ACTIVITY
WHERE YOU ARE HAVING TO ENGAGE
YOUR BRAIN AND BODY AND DO
SOMETHING TOTALLY OUT OF YOUR
COMFORT ZONE THAT IS DANGEROUS
WHICH IS WHY I LIKE IT.
>> THE KIDS ARE ON THEIR WAY.
CAP K-9, WHAT IS THAT?
>> SHE DOES THESE TERRIFIC
VIDEOS WHERE SHE GOES OUT AND
WALKS THESE ANIMALS AT THE
SHELTER.
SHELTER.
SHELTER. THEY ARE SO AMUSING AND GREAT
AND I'M HOPING THEY'RE GETTING
ADOPTED.
ADOPTED.
ADOPTED. >> EVERY SUNDAY SHE POSTS ONE
OF THESE AND THEY ARE VERY
POPULAR.
POPULAR.
POPULAR. >> IT'S A WAY OF GIVING BACK.
SO WALKING SHELTER DOGS IS A
GREAT WAY TO GET YOUR CARDIO
AND GIVE BACK
>> WE WILL BE RIGHT