- This video I'm gonna show you the three traits
of extremely attractive people,
of people with extremely attractive energy
that will make you irresistible
if you apply it in your own life.
Now there's certain things about every person that you meet
that make them either
attractive, and it either magnetizes them to you
or repels them away from you.
And in the same way
you have the ability to embody
both non-attached magnetic energy
that literally becomes irresistible
to the people that you want it to be irresistible to as well
because you can become irresistible to narcissists,
that's not necessarily a good thing.
So this is about understanding that a magnet
can both attract and repel based on its polarity.
And the key to this is understanding
that based on the energy you are embodying,
you are either going to attract
or repel based on what that energy is.
Everything in life is a reflection of your energy.
Now, on the other side of that non-attached energy,
there is attached energy.
There is needy energy that literally repels people from you.
And in this video I'm gonna show you the three traits
that make up that of non-attached magnetic energy
in extremely attractive people.
And now understand this as well.
Sometimes with attractiveness
we think, "Oh it's all about looks."
Energy is what is really at the core of this.
So of course there's certain level
with biology and everything and symmetry and you know,
it'd be foolish to say that there's no impact
on that at all.
However, the degree to be magnetic,
to have your energy be that way makes a huge difference.
And that's really what attraction is all about,
it's about energy, it's about polarity,
it is about that magnetism that comes from the inside out.
Now the first thing to realize
and the first one I wanna share with you
that is one of the most important values to have
that make up your identity
for you to really be magnetic and irresistible
is having that of something called vulnerability.
Vulnerability.
Now you look at that and say, "Well
"isn't vulnerability to be weak?"
"Doesn't that mean that you're like showing
"the weak parts of yourself by being vulnerable?"
And it's actually pretty much the exact opposite.
Being vulnerable means you have courage.
Being vulnerable...
It takes vulnerability to walk up to
the man or woman that you're attracted to
or the non-binary person or whatever.
Whenever you see somebody that you're attracted to,
and you go and you talk to them, that takes courage,
that takes vulnerability.
That takes you putting yourself out there.
And there is a chance that you could get rejected.
And if you have the ability to do it anyways
that shows
not only the real you and your real interest,
but that shows that you have courage,
and it is attractive.
Now for me for a long time,
I would hide my vulnerability
because I valued other people's approval and validation
over vulnerability.
Now what this means
is I would try to change my own center of gravity
to make other people happy.
This meant I was afraid of showing what I really thought
and how I really felt.
If I was dating someone,
sometimes they wouldn't find out that I was like,
I wanted to date them until like months into
what would be considered dating.
They'd wonder
like I've had times where
they literally wonder like does he...
Is he sexually attracted to me?
Does he like me?
And really, it was like, there was...
I was almost putting myself into a friend zone
because it felt safer than the chance of getting rejected,
and then I'd have fucked up polarity.
My polarity would be like,
I wouldn't be in my own masculine energy.
I'd be like, "Like, oh, is everything okay?"
I'd be always tuning myself.
What I eventually had to do though
to be vulnerable meant I expressed the real me.
And then what happened is when I started...
There was a switch for me when I was dating
where I was like, "Wait,
"I'm gonna start to express the real me."
I'm gonna say what I want,
I'm not gonna hold myself back,
if I have feelings for someone I'm gonna express them
and this is what I'm gonna do, I'm gonna be vulnerable,
that changed everything.
Because then my focus was on expressing the real me
versus on impressing someone
and making them feel a certain way,
getting their validation or approval.
So vulnerability is literally the ability
to show your wound.
And it doesn't mean that you're like, "Oh,"
like you're always crying,
and it's like, everything's always wrong.
Vulner means wound
ability means ability to go into the wound.
So for vulnerability
what this really means is it means the ability to like
express and to show the real you.
And what that means too
is if you're being in that vulnerable state
you're more likely to attract somebody
that also is in that emotionally available state
because that's one thing you wanna do,
is you wanna realize that the more...
You attract based on the energy you're putting out.
So if you're not being vulnerable,
you're gonna attract somebody else
that's not being vulnerable.
And that means they're not being the real them
and expressing that
they're afraid of showing that side of themselves,
and only it's shame,
to believe I'm broken or something wrong with me.
I can't show this because I'm gonna get rejected.
When in fact if you did show it you'd be more attractive,
which is very funny.
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Now, with that being said
everything we're talking about with vulnerability,
the ability to open up your heart.
It's about understanding that
when you are opening...
Really that's like honestly
the key to attracting love as well.
Think about it.
The energy of the heart is
thousands of times more powerful
than the energy of the head.
So when you are opening up your heart,
even though sometimes it doesn't feel safe
because in the past as a kid,
there were times it didn't feel safe to open up your heart,
or to be the real you.
When you open up your heart,
literally the energy expands
way further than the energy around the head.
The HeartMath Institute has shown this many times.
And that's why I think a powerful energy exercise to do
is to just,
for five or 10 minutes in the morning and at night,
to sit and to put the hands over your heart,
and to feel the gratitude inside of your heart,
and to focus on expanding the energy in your heart,
wherever you put your attention
is where your energy goes.
Doing this has had a profound effect on my own life
and my own sense of gratitude and just how I show up.
So that is something that will help make you
way more magnetic,
is focusing more on your heart,
opening your heart, being vulnerable, expressing yourself.
You'll notice that you have more
because you're also not attached to outcome.
Think about this.
Needy energy, attached to outcome.
It wants validation, approval, sex, whatever.
So when it comes to attracting love,
that's something that repels.
On the other side,
this one is focused more on being in the moment.
This one is more focused on expression.
It's more tuned to the own energy
versus tuning to other people's energy.
It changes everything.
So that is the first part of this,
is understanding the power of vulnerability
to open up your heart.
The second part of this
is one of the most powerful techniques I've ever shared.
It's called the frame technique.
It's bringing the energy inside of your body.
When you think of somebody else
you're literally energetically sending them energy.
And a lot of times you're...
Some people may be thinking of someone they're like,
"I wish they would be different,
"I wish they would do this,
"I wish they would do that,
"and they're not doing what I want, and I need them."
Needy energy repels.
The key is pulling your energy back.
Bringing it inside of your own hands,
bringing inside your own body,
because when you do that,
you then focus on being present and being in your own body.
Now think of this like,
when you are...
And I've done this exercise many times,
I've shared about it,
and I've seen people go out and do it,
and I get so many DMS from people
and people reach out to me and they're like,
"Wow, that's the most powerful thing,
"like the most powerful thing I've applied is doing that."
Because I say,
try this when you go out to whole foods
or your grocery store
or wherever you're from, you go out in public
put the awareness in your hands and your feet
and feel the separation between you and other people.
As you do that you start to feel safe in your own body.
You start to feel present because normally
it's a childhood I think trauma,
where we walk around tuning to everybody else to feel safe.
Our energy's being scattered.
And when our energy is scattered, there's less potency.
One of the things that makes you magnetic
is you being safe in your own body
and you feeling inside of your own body
that literally brings your energy back
and magnetic people that are not attached,
they're in their own frame of reality.
They're also living according to their own values,
their own values.
Like, you know, I live now according to the values
of vulnerability and authenticity
over the values of significance,
approval seeking and validation.
And how I do that is I just know it's a part of my identity.
I ask myself, "Is expressing this the real me?"
"Is people pleasing the real me?"
And I can tell that,
oh, the people pleasing is this trauma thing
that was formed for me to get my needs met,
and I just...
When in the moments I catch myself, I just don't do it.
When a friends ask me to go do something
and I don't wanna do it,
I'm abandoning myself in order to do it,
I don't do it, I say no.
And then as I choose myself,
I then feel in my own frame
and that also communicates value.
So one of the most magnetic things you could do
is actually pull your energy back,
pull your energy in your hands and your feet,
feel the separation between you and other people.
Realize if your mom or your dad doesn't approve of you,
maybe that's their shit not yours.
Friends are mad at you 'cause you won't come to a party.
Maybe if you say no that's their shit not yours.
Their approval, their validation is not your responsibility.
Even your parents, it's not your job to please your parents
so that they can
like think about you a certain way.
If that means you're abandoning yourself.
For years I thought that I had to go to college
and become a lawyer
because I knew that that's what my dad wanted me to do
or to become a firefighter
because that's what my dad wanted me to do.
I realized that wasn't my passion.
And if he had all was disappointed about that
I knew that, oh, that's his shit not mine.
If I have said no to like hanging out with friends
or to traveling when I knew that it wasn't convenient
'cause I know there's things going on.
Instead of beating myself up,
I realized oh well, they're mad about that,
that's their shit not mine.
See this mantra alone will change your life.
That's their shit not mine.
Doesn't mean you don't ever take ownership by the way.
But it means you're able to delineate
what is their stuff versus what is my stuff?
You still have stuff,
you still have stuff to look at.
Doesn't mean everything is everyone else's problem,
and it's their stuff to deal with.
No, it means there's still gonna be your own stuff
to look at but,
it also means you're able to delineate
because as kids as empaths,
we tune ourselves to our environment,
and sometimes we see that light gets a little bit blurred.
So that makes a big difference.
Now the third thing and probably one of the most powerful
magnetic traits of extremely attractive and magnetic people
is to be present.
To be in the body and to be in the moment.
Like imagine somebody goes on a date
and they're like, "Okay,
"this is gonna be..."
They don't say this consciously,
"Like this is gonna be a very transactional date."
"I'm gonna go on the date.
"They're gonna think amazing things about me,
"I'm gonna share all the cool things I'm doing in the world,
"and then they're gonna either have sex with me
"or there's gonna be this awesome
"like thing where they validate me
"and I'm gonna feel freaking awesome."
Guess what, that's manipulation.
That's trying to exchange to get your needs met.
But imagine someone goes on a date
and they're like, "You know what?
"I'm gonna go on this date, I'm gonna have fun."
"I'm just gonna enjoy myself,
"I'm gonna connect with this person
"and see if there's a connection.
Even realize the questions you ask if you go on a date,
if you go on a date and say,
"I wonder if they're gonna like me."
"I wonder if they're gonna gimme their number."
"I wonder if this, I wonder if that,
"I wonder if my childhood needs are gonna be met."
But imagine if instead
you ask yourself a different question.
"I wonder if we have anything in common."
"I wonder what this person's values are."
"Do we have similar values?"
"Wonder if I'm gonna like this person."
"Wonder if I'm gonna get along with this person."
"I wonder if I'm gonna be
sexually attracted to this person."
"I wonder if we have great polarity."
Those questions are coming from place of power.
They're not coming from a place of like
I hope, please, meet my needs.
They're very different.
So being present to the moment is about
focusing on the present moment of like having fun,
of being curious,
of being in the moment,
of enjoying the process.
These all are traits of extremely magnetic people.
And also like I think doing what you love
is a powerful part of this too.
Like being the real you.
Be proud to like be yourself.
That's really the key.
The funny thing about like attracting love
is like really the answer is to just be yourself.
"Just be yourself bro."
It's what they say like in the pickup industry and stuff
the people are like, "Just be yourself bro."
"Like what do you mean?"
Well is it myself to be this nice guy people pleaser guy?
Or is it myself to be vulnerable and open up my heart?
And to...
Like this one feels more familiar,
and the thing is you have to become aware of that,
and then say, "Oh, that's not the real me,
"that's the trauma based me that
"like lived in that pattern because it feels safe,"
and then make the choice to be the real you,
which may not feel familiar at first
but it changes everything
the more that you begin to embody it.
So with that,
if you haven't also joined Magnetic Mastery Membership
that was mentioning early,
now's the time to do it.
I wanted to remind you at the end of this video too
because I know sometimes people watch the videos
and then wait till the end
that ends...
Enrollment ends on Friday for that.
Also there's a video on the five traits
of extremely attractive people
where you go even deeper on this.
Watch this video next,
watch how it changes your life
and wires all these ideas in.
These are the five traits of extremely magnetic people.
So people that you perceive to have very contagious energy,
energy that kind of pulls you in,
makes you desire more,
makes them in a way irresistible,
I'm gonna show you what those five...