hey there this is clay with modern love dot life and this is relationship in our
game in this video we're going to be continuing on our series of videos
talking about texting your ex and specifically if your ex won't respond
there is probably something going on now remember your ex is having this whole
journey through reactants that we talked about in your exes 5 stages of getting
back together so keep that in mind and that definitely could explain why your
ex won't respond to you but all of that aside there is one thing that people
often do that actually discourages their ex from wanting to respond to them and
this is through the questions that they ask this is through the the way that
they text their ex or the way that they reach out to their ex or the way that
they contact their ex now first of all people oftentimes some don't put a
question in what they text off to their ex right so if your ex just gets some
message from you and it's like look what I'm doing or something like that they
don't know that you want them to respond right they might think it's just an
update so if you don't ask them a question they might not know that you
want them to respond okay kind of simple but yeah you need to ask a question and
point number two is you don't make a big ask when it comes to texting your ex one
of the main mistakes that people often make is they they try to get their ex to
get back together with them through a text message or through one a text
message rather you know they might send the wall of text like we talked about in
a previous video or at the end of their wall of text or sometimes a different
message they might directly ask their ex will
you give me another chance will we get back together
can you ever see yourself dating me in the future and these are big asks for
your ex these are very big asks they might not know the answer to that
question right now because again they're going through their own emotional
journey in the process of getting back together with you or they're going from
wall reactants do test drive to writing the dragon to crisis point and
eventually to new beginnings and if they're like way down here then they
might not know if they want to get back together
you said they might not respond because they don't know how to answer it or they
don't want to make you feel bad by saying no or something like that and so
what we need to do is you need to meet your ex where they're at and really
speak to where they're at on an emotional level and this is going to
help them to feel a little bit more comfortable responding to you also get
in the habit of having smaller tasks so instead of something like will you get
back together with me will you go out on a romantic date with
me will you consider leaving your rebound so that we can give our
relationship another shot maybe you could try a bit of a smaller ask like
what's the last thing that made you smile are you reading any good books
right now what's the news that about that event
that you told me that was coming up you know something as simple as that
could make the difference between your ex just not responding to you at all and
actually wanting to engage with you on an emotional level so keep that in mind
when it comes to interacting with your ex now of course this is all based
around the idea of meeting your ex where they're at emotionally and building a
solid foundation of emotional connection between the two of you if you'd like to
really become sort of a master at developing an emotional connection
between you and your ex or really you and anybody else here's what I'd like
you to do head down below this video and if you're watching this video over on
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love dot life and I hope that this video has helped you improve your relationship
in your game and I'll go ahead and I'll talk to you in our next video please
take care
you