There's nothing worse than a man pulling away
For a moment for a day for weeks
it doesn't matter how long it's always painful because we're talking about a man that you've invested your energy time and
emotions into so why do men pull away and
How can we deal with it in the best way possible?
How can we deal with it in a way, that's feminine and home value. Let us find out right now
Hey guys
It's Renee here the founder of the feminine woman dot com where we teach you how to show up as a high value
high status woman whom easily inspires a deep sense of emotional commitment from men
Now before I begin
I just wanted to let you know that the full piece of contents of this topic is in the blog post that's right
There's a lot more to it than just this video
So if you want to get the full piece of content and all the insights
Please click on a link below in the description all the details are in my blog post
That being said let us talk about why men pull away from you and from the relationship
And how you can do with it as a high-value feminine woman
Every day my team and I get questions about this topic of men pulling away
Because the reality is that men will withdraw and pull away from you and from the relationship
It's bound to happen pulling away is a part of their masculine instinct
to prevent them from doing so to prevent them from pulling away is like telling the Sun not to rise or
Telling a flower not to blossom
You see the truth is most men can only take being connected and deeply to you
For a certain amount of time before they need to remove themselves to find their equilibrium again
They need to re-engage with their identity in their mission their goals and their masculine passions
Even when a man is very much in love he will get to a stage where he needs to do this
I mean sure a man in love can usually spend more time with you before he needs to pull away
But each man is unique and each moment is also unique
However having a man pull away doesn't mean that your man isn't in love with you
Sometimes the more in love he is the more he realizes that he needs to feel like he is enough
Through his goals and missions and passions, so it's important for us women to realize the truth which is
Your men will pull away at some point of course this not mean that your relationship is doomed
Quite the contrary when he pulls away or withdraws from the relationship that is the exact time that you get your
make-or-break moment
To show and prove your value as a woman in the relationship because you know what?
No
Man wants to give up his freedom and masculine missions in fear that he has a woman
Who will restrict him and pull him back? I only say this because most of us myself included
Have a tendency to respond with fear and neediness when a man pulls away and look
there are good survival and protective reasons for us doing this and there's really nothing wrong with becoming needy and
Fearful when he pulls away
You just need to be aware that it can strip value from the relationship bank
Every time you respond in fear or from fear
There's a chance that you're stripping and value from your man and from the relationship
This is not something for you to fear
this is just something for you to understand and
Even appreciate of course I understand that none of this will change the truth of how you feel when he pulls away, though
When he withdraws it hurts. It's real pain wouldn't you agree?
I mean you may not say it, but it hurts you may get angry
Sad you may feel unloved and you no longer feel like the princess that he once
Treated you as so do not make your feelings wrong. I'm not here to tell you that your feelings are wrong
absolutely not because the truth is if we women have become attached or connected to a man or
If a man has any value to us at all then we naturally become
Irrationally afraid that he's withdrawal could mean and the key word is could
Could mean one that he might sleep with other women and all his resources will go to the other woman
Which is not always true. It is usually much less truth than we women tend to think it is to
That he may never come back and to the woman's primitive brain
this could mean that she might not survive and
Hey, let's be honest here sometimes going through the pain of a man pulling away
Really kind of feel like we might die that's how intense our feelings can become
So even though in this day and age
We don't need a man
our feelings can become that intense and
Because they're that intense we tend to try to resist the pain and perhaps get angry at him or even
We proceeded to beg him to stay in
other words we act out of those primitive fears and
the third thing number three
We think that a man pulling away
Could mean that she has just realized that she had been used perhaps
It was only a casual sex situation or that he got what he wanted and now she will never see the man again
These are all legitimate fears that we have
So what can we as women do about this and how can we show up as a feminine yet higher value woman in those moments?
Where we are fearful and our primitive brain or primitive fears have taken over well
Before I address that I want you to consider this first think about when you're in a relationship, and you feel kind of suffocated
That's the stress levels going up from too much closeness
This too much closeness happens much sooner for men than for women
When in the context of emotional bonding and I am talking about emotional bonding here?
So keep that in mind
This does not mean that women don't also feel suffocated at times because of course we do
But what happens is as men get closer to you things are going well the oxytocin levels go up
And they start bonding to you and you to them
then men will tend to want to pull away in order to rebuild their testosterone levels through their masculine missions and
even if it isn't conscious
This is how it works because it is through a man's
Masculine missions that he is able to provide and bring resources to the table
That's how he gets to feel like a man, so
Him pulling away cord real positive intent. I want you to really understand this
but for us women it's harder to relate to that because
Our default is to stay in relationship mode. We truly feel at home in relationship and connecting
So instead we get kind of confused and we may ask questions from our own feminine brain like
Why are you pulling away?
Why didn't you call? Do you not love me anymore? What's going on?
The real problem here, is that men and women are hardwired?
completely differently
Sure, we're all human. There are aspects that make us all human
But of course there are also elements that make us completely different like the fact that most of us women see the world
through our own feminine filters and
It's not so easy to understand a man's masculine behavior through our own filters because what is intuitive to us?
In a relationship is not what is intuitive to a man?
What is intuitive to a man can be completely foreign to us as women and?
So a man withdrawing can cause us in great uncertainty and sometimes a lot of suffering
However a man withdrawing or pulling away from the relationship doesn't have to cause you that suffering
Your suffering really comes from the meaning that you give it when a man
Withdraws the meaning that we give an event or an action changes everything and a bad meaning
Comes from a lack of understanding of men and you know what we as women can give it a different meaning
Which would lead us to having a totally different experience of course I know that's much easier said than done
But by having a greater understanding of men and their masculine world
then we become able to create better meaning and have the ability to show up with more confidence and
more intrinsic value and also remember this
Remember that the reason why you were probably attracted to that man in the first place
was his masculine energy his masculine presence and
Direction so what does your man really want from you when he pulls away well
above all else he wants to feel like he has a high-value woman a
High-value woman that's there
Waiting when he comes back you know what?
Unfortunately a lot of people frown upon the idea of waiting when it comes back these days
It says if this kind of loyalty is mistakenly seen as a sign of weakness
Well, let me tell you loyalty to a good man is not weakness
No
How much no matter how much pain you may be in
So the key is to keep your high value in spite of the confusion or the fear that you're feeling
How do you do that?
Well you show that you are still loyal to him when you feel fearful
You show that you can stick around with an open heart and be open instead of closed off emotionally
Unfortunately most women kind of do the opposite they don't show that they will be there emotionally for a man
But I do want you to know that staying high value does not mean that you have to act perfect or act happy
That's not what this is about it. Simply means not
Disconnecting deliberately cutting him out emotionally or pulling yourself away from the relationship
You know that game of you know contact me
so I don't contact you staying high value also means to not shut off to your own deep desire for connection a
Lot of women push this desire way down
And it causes them to shut off and close off and this type of closure in a woman
Scares a man deep down inside, so how do you show him that you are still loyal and high-value?
well
You must get yourself into an emotionally resourceful place
Before you do anything at all so to get to an emotionally resourceful place the first thing to do is
to breathe and keep breathing and go to a safe place and
Let your feelings be felt and when you are sure that you feel more empty of your hurricane of feelings
Then follow these guidelines the first thing is to leave him alone
you're allowed to be sad and you can miss him, but don't act out of fear stay open and
Understand that whatever he is doing. There is a reason for it
Even if you don't understand it right now
Just like there's a reason for everything that you do and now before you do this
I want you to remember that the point is not to just leave him and that's it to close off
That's not what I'm suggesting at all
The point is to give him his freedom
While still loving him and not shutting down or closing off to him
And this is not to say that you are not allowed to have feelings. You are just be ready to own your feelings
Even if it means that you cry when you see him if he's not comfortable with your feelings
That is when you need to be the most comfortable with your own feelings
tell him it is okay that you just feel a little sad and
That kind of thing happens from time to time and that he has done
Nothing wrong and that all will be okay
And I also need to tell you that you are allowed to hate him you are allowed to have authentic anger
You are allowed to miss him love him hate yourself hate all of this want to give up who when he pulls away
None of that is wrong or what that is okay to feel it is okay to experience all of them
The only key is don't blame him or intentionally want to make him feel bad about himself
Because by doing that you pull him back and you pull him down
You just have to actually allow yourself to feel everything even anger and not resist feeling it by criticizing him
Cutting him off giving him the silent treatment or being passive-aggressive
You know that kind of aggressiveness where you're angry, but you're not comfortable feeling your anger
It's you're resisting that and resisting him being a man
That will cause more damage than anything else
Because it's when you resist yourself, and you don't allow yourself to feel that all connection and hope is lost
When he does come back to the relationship
Try to receive him openly
does that mean to act happy nope it means to breathe and try to not be in fear and
Stay connected to him even if he isn't doing what you want him to do
it
means opening your heart and
Opening your mind and forming a connection in the moment with him now doing this wouldn't make you a woman who is being used by
Her man
Unless he truly is a bad man all this means is that you care about him enough to give him freedom and at the same
Time not withdraw your love if something is truly wrong, and he's just not the right man for you
You are much more likely to find that out when you are open to connecting with him
Then when you are cutting him off and acting like you don't need him or punishing him a good way of
Successfully completing this step is simply to remind yourself to breathe and to breathe through your fears
And if all of this stresses you out beyond your ability to cope
Then ask yourself do I really want to be in a relationship with another woman?
Or do I want to be in a relationship with a man the more that you act from your fear?
fear of his need for freedom
The more I want you to remember that this is your chance to bring you and your man closer
to cultivate more emotional attraction
and to deepen the connection and the commitment you see the truth is that if you show up as a high-value woman and
You're happy giving a man his gift of freedom
Then he's going to truly come back to the relationship stronger with more to offer you does that make sense
All right, if you want a deeper understanding
Perhaps a step by step and guide on how you can show up as a high-value woman when your man pulls away
Then I have a perfect thing for you
I've put together the perfect resource for you to be able to show up as a high-value feminine woman
Whenever your man pulls away and withdraws
So that you can feel more confident the details of these resources are in the description below
Again this video was an abbreviated version of my blog post where the full content is
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Please do go ahead and read my blog post and that
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That's all from me. Please do leave a comment below and share with us what you've learned and share with us your personal
experiences sometimes we learn the most from each other's experiences and stories so feel free to share your story too and
Remember to never make your feelings wrong or push them down
Your feelings are incredibly powerful as we all know and they are indeed here to serve you
Sometimes fear and confusion is here to tell you to find better and deeper understanding
So that you can feel assured and certain in knowing the truth. Okay, that's all from me. I'll talk to you very soon
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