- In this video, I'm gonna show you step by step
how to apply the No Contact Manifesto.
I'm gonna show you what to do, what not to do,
how to actually use this in a proper way,
and how this will completely transform your life.
Now, the first thing to understand
is what is the No Contact Manifesto
and why is it so powerful
when you begin to apply it in your life?
Well, what happens many times,
when people move out of a relationship,
whether both parties wanted it,
whether one person wanted it,
the other person didn't want it,
what ends up happening is there's this energetic
separation that happens.
But if no contact,
the manifesto of no contact doesn't happen,
there's this loose energy that stays around
that actually continues to repel the person
that you may either want to come back into your life,
or it just has the opposite effect
of what you think it does.
You see, a lot of times,
we believe that if we let something go,
it's gonna leave forever and we're gonna be,
there's a loss within us.
But instead, there's an abundant energy where,
when you let go,
you are not only emotionally and energetically free,
but you actually allow the thing that you've let go of
to take whatever course it's meant to take.
And maybe that means coming back,
but maybe that also means you're able to feel so empowered
that you aren't attached to whether it comes back or not.
That's the power of the no-contact rule.
This is something that I've seen thousands of people
from my YouTube videos apply
and I get DMs every day from people that say
that it's completely transformed their life
when they applied it.
Now, there's a four-step simple process that I have
for the No Contact Manifesto to share with you
that is very simple that you can begin to apply.
Now, the reason you apply this as well
is look at this little diagram right here.
What happens in relationship,
when you're in a relationship with someone and you move out,
what happens is, is you have an energetic field
that goes around your body.
They have an energetic field that goes around their body,
and then between you,
within the relationship of the container,
there is energetic cords
and energy that flows between you both.
Now, what happens is when you let go,
and let's say you come over here,
and you're a little bit further away,
and you're not talking to them as much,
or you're maybe even not talking to them,
but feeling energy thinking about them,
you're still sending them energy.
And if that energy is resistance
because you want them to come around,
you want them to be a certain way,
you're sending resisted energy to them
that they are feeling, and that, many times,
will repel them from your energy anyways.
It has the opposite effect of what you think it'll have.
You think if I stay attached, I'm not gonna let them go,
they're gonna stick around.
They have a higher chance, a higher probability.
In actuality, when you actually completely let go
and pull your energy back and focus on you,
that's the best degree to which
you are gonna have the ability
to actually attract them back,
or to feel safe in your own frame
and to realize your own sense of self-worthiness,
where maybe it wasn't as,
the story that you tell yourself about it
wasn't as amazing as you thought.
That happens a lot too, because a lot of times,
we're attracted to people that replace
similar childhood dynamics that were alive when we're kids.
And once you start realizing your own sense of self-worth,
you may realize, wait, I don't wanna choose somebody
that isn't choosing me because they're leaving.
Or there's some type of energy there where you realize,
wait, there's something here for me to look at.
So energetically pulling away is a part of this process,
but you can't, we'll talk about this in a minute.
You have to do this because it's what's best for you,
not doing this because it's gonna get them back.
'Cause I'll be honest, it may result,
and once you pulling your energy back,
it may result in them saying,
"Ooh, I'm thinking about this person now."
Now, I don't have that energy being projected at me,
that resistance being projected at me,
and now, I actually have space to think about them.
Because think about it,
if someone pulls away, they want space.
They want space.
Maybe you guys were around each other a lot,
always in each other's energy field,
and that began to feel like too much.
They say, "I want space."
And then what you do is you say, "Uh oh, they want space.
"I'm gonna keep sending them energy
"I'm gonna keep thinking about them."
And then they feel that energetically,
and then they still want even more space,
when in fact, if you were to pull your energy back
and focus on you, they would feel that space
and they may even come around because of that,
because now they have the space for them to feel
and come to their own conclusions.
Because as much as you might think,
you just need to come around,
I need to tell you and I need to remind you
of our connections and stuff like that,
people need to go within to figure that out themselves.
They need to come up to their own conclusion.
I see it very often within coaching.
Like when I'm coaching people,
if I tell someone what I can see,
it many times doesn't help them.
If I ask them questions
that make them come to their own conclusion,
and many times, that means me asking a question,
then getting quiet, giving space.
They can then within themselves say the same thing
that I wanted to tell them, but then they say it,
and it's powerful because it came from within.
You want that energy to come from within
if they decide that they do come around.
Now, the first rule of the No Contact Manifesto
is very simple, but it's sometimes hard
for some people to do
because they make it a lot more complicated than it is.
The first rule, can you guess what it is?
No contact, none,
meaning you do not try to run in with them
to see them somewhere.
You don't go to the same yoga classes they go to
or whatever the hell else you do.
You're not always asking their friends about them.
Means no contact.
It means you stop contacting them and you focus on yourself.
So the second step to this is to pull your energy back.
Pull your energy back.
How do you pull your energy back?
Well, energetically what you do for this
is a very simple technique.
I call it the frame technique.
I've taught it to hundreds of thousands
of people on YouTube, and I get,
once again, DMs all the time about this
and how powerful of a magnetic energy tool this is.
It's very simple.
What you do is normally what I do
is I stare at a candle flame.
As I'm staring at a candle flame,
on my in breath, I focus on the flame,
and on the out breath, I keep my eyes focused on the flame,
but I focus on the peripheral, the space.
And then I feel the energy in between me and the wall,
me and the candle, like right now, me and the camera.
As you put the awareness on the space
in between you and this other person,
you begin to feel safe in your own body.
And when you feel safe in your own body,
you are bringing the energy back.
I have a little story about this I'll share real quick,
in case you haven't seen this in my other videos,
because sometimes I share this story.
But when I went to Costa Rica once,
there was this seminar that I went to
and there was an energy teacher there
that was a scientist actually,
and she was talking about energy.
And one thing that she did
is she was at the front of the classroom.
There was only like 30, 40 people in there, but she said,
"Everyone I want you right now,
"we're gonna learn about energy.
"I want everyone to send energy to me,
"send energy to me, send energy to me."
Everyone was sending energy to her,
thinking, sending energy to her.
She then said that she felt repelled.
And then she said, it literally pushes her away.
She said, "Okay, now I want you to bring the energy
"back into your body, bring it back to you,
"bring it back to your heart, bring it back to you,
"bring it back to you, bring it back to you."
And then there was this energetic pull that she could feel.
And then she'd have us do this with each other.
And it was so powerful 'cause we could feel the energy.
It was like, whoa, like it's so different.
The frame technique is a way of feeling safe
in your own body and pulling your energy back.
This alone may make it
to where you begin to separate the energy,
and then you give them the space
that they actually are asking for and they actually need.
And then you also give yourselves space
to get in your own energy,
'cause sometimes we tune to other people's energy
because we wanna feel safe,
but we abandon ourselves in the process.
Think about that.
We abandon ourselves to make other people happy.
And maybe being in this relationship,
were you abandoning yourself in any ways?
Were they talking down to you
or not treating you the way that you wanted to be treated?
And then you're just simply to believe
that this is what I deserve, this is all that I deserve.
When an actuality, when you bring your energy back
and you start asking, you start tuning into yourself,
what do I want?
How can I not abandon myself?
Am I abandoning myself by even chasing this person?
And a lot of times, that can be the case.
So you wanna pull your energy back
using the frame technique.
So simple.
I'll link the video at the end
for the frame technique as well. So you can check that out.
Now, the third step to the No Contact Manifesto.
A lot of people get this wrong, okay?
Third step, social media.
Many of you might be on social media
constantly checking their profile.
Who are they talking to?
Are they thinking about me?
What are they posting about?
Every little quote thing they put on their story,
you're wondering and looking into it
and doing the Da Vinci Code,
cracking the code of where they are emotionally.
The thing and the key is to stop tuning to them,
to bring your energy back.
Now, what I would recommend you do
is you either block them on social media or mute them.
If you mute them, you're not gonna see their posts.
If you block them, you're not gonna see their posts.
I'd recommend you doing one of those two things,
and then you're not, 'cause think about it,
if you have objects around your house
that remind you of them
and you're constantly looking at these things
or you're constantly looking at photos,
there's a photo on your wallpaper on your computer,
you're constantly reactivating the energy between you,
and you're also feeling the lack.
So energetically, it's making it very hard.
I would recommend you put away some things
that might remind you of them, if you can.
I'd recommend also, no run-ins.
Do not try to go to the same places,
hoping you run into them,
and then they're gonna see your value
or something like that.
They're gonna just see you and be like,
"Oh my God, I need to go back."
You need to really give space
and not focus on running in with them.
And don't ask friends about them.
Stop trying to acquire information about them,
and realize that you think this is about them,
but really this is your own ability
to feel safe within yourself.
And realize that the more you bring your energy back,
the more you stop abandoning yourself,
the more powerful you're gonna feel in this process
and the more empowered you're gonna feel.
So you do not want to focus on running into them as well.
Now, the other and the last step to this process,
this is the most important part of this process, all right?
The most important part is this right here.
It's called FOY.
FOY.
It stands for, focus on yourself.
Focus on yourself.
Focus on your own values.
Focus on what you're passionate about.
Focus on all these different aspects of your life,
your friends, your family,
focus on you instead of focusing on them.
And you will be bringing the energy back into your own life.
And as you do that, it will literally make you more magnetic
because you will be more present.
Now, one of the things you wanna understand about this too
is when it comes to attracting love,
if you want to attract somebody
that has a clear energy field,
that has a regulated nervous system,
then you must have a clear energy field
or a regulated nervous system,
because you get in life
that which is a reflection of yourself,
and sometimes even of what you believe you deserve.
So the key to this is really focusing on you,
regulating your own nervous system.
A very powerful modality for this,
by the way, is breath work.
Doing something like breath work,
where you breathe and you release this energy.
I just got done doing a four-day certification program
to become certified to run breath work.
And its something I'm going to be doing soon as well,
so I'll let you know of that.
But breathwork is one of the most,
it allows you to feel emotions
you haven't felt in a long time.
It allows you to regulate your nervous system
in a very powerful way.
Now, one thing as well for this is you wanna do this,
not because doing all this is gonna get them back.
It may result in them coming back,
but you're not doing it to get them back.
You're doing it 'cause it's an end of itself.
You're doing it because your happiness is worth it,
you are worth it.
When you put this energy more inside of yourself
and you're doing it because of that, it's way more powerful.
If I was making this video
because I wanted to get a million views or something,
then what would end up happening is you would feel that.
Oh my God, he just wants, he's doing this.
Like, please watch this video.
Please like this video.
It'd be a different energy than me just wanting to add value
and just enjoying making the video, being present.
When you're being present to enjoying your life,
when you're being present to pulling your energy back,
there's a different energy about you,
and it changes everything.
It completely changes everything.
Now, if you wanna be notified
when I'll be doing breath work,
you can go to www.whatsmyvibration.com,
where you calibrate your vibration,
and then get a meditation for bringing it to the next level.
But there, I will also let you know
once I'm doing the breathwork.
It's called somatic release breathwork.
I'll let you know about that as well.
And then also, if you want to learn
the most powerful, transformative,
magnetic process I've ever learned,
it's called the Frame Technique,
check this video right here,
do this meditation for 21 days,
and watch how your life changes.
We're gonna do this little activation exercise
that you can come back to for the next 21 days
and see how different your energy is.
Now, before, the way that I was
and the way I showed up in the world
is that I was hyper, I was hyper-attached.