- Heya playa,
knowing when a girl doesn't like you
is almost as important as knowing
when she does.
Being able to read different signs
that she gives off
and things that she says so you can know
to stop pursuing her.
What are those signs?
I'm gonna share them with you right after this.
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Now before I show these signs,
I think it's important to point out
that every situation is different.
Sometimes your crush will be
a little bit more subtle
in how they don't like you.
Sometimes they'll be more straightforward.
The point isn't so much how they show you
they don't like you.
It's for you to recognize that they're showing you.
Don't push through waiting for the note,
the direct note,
because sometimes you may not get that.
It's important to recognize signs
and to act on those rather than
always what they say.
So on that note,
the first sign you should be looking for
is that she doesn't really respond
to your messages or she doesn't respond at all.
Maybe she'll give you things like "cool",
"hey", "haha", "K",
all these tiny little messages
just to kind of answer your question
without actually engaging in it.
If the conversations between you two
are kinda lackluster,
it could be a multitude of things,
like you're not really sending interesting messages,
you're catching her at a bad time,
but I would take her lack of response,
her lack of willingness to really engage
in the conversation as a sign of disinterest.
You may wanna try again by talking
to her in person,
or messaging her at a different time.
But take that social cue that she just
not that into talking to you right now.
And you might only make it worse
by continuously messaging her,
thinking that the more you send her messages,
the better chance you have of her responding.
Actually it's all about deeper engaged messages
that really matter.
The quantity isn't really what you're looking for,
it's quality above all else.
The second sign is a very very subtle one
that you have to really pay attention to
in order to pick up on,
and that's when she refers to you
as something like a brother,
or says she can only ever imagine you
as a friend.
If she's boxing you into that category
of BFFL or brother or best friend,
then chances are she can't really even
imagine a romantic relationship with you.
She enjoys the type of friendship that you have,
and the idea of taking a chance on a relationship
might be so foreign and just out of her comfort zone.
Now the mistake a lot of guys make here
is that they think by continuing in that role,
they have a better chance with the girl.
But actually the deeper you go in,
the more of a best friend you become,
the harder it's gonna be for you
to develop something with her later on.
So you gotta make that choice.
Do you wanna continue being friends
or do you wanna pursue her in a romantic way?
The third sign that she doesn't like you
is that she starts to talk to you
about other guys she has crushes on.
Maybe she'll tell you all about a guy
that she likes or she wants to ask out.
And she seeks your advice to figure out
how to talk to them.
Well, in those cases,
I think it's clear-cut that she does
only see you as a friend,
but even telling you about other people
is her making it obvious.
"Hey, I don't like you, I like someone else."
I dealt with this
with one of my high school crushes and it stung.
Hearing her talk about another guy that she liked
only made me angry and upset.
And instead of recognizing that hey,
she doesn't actually like me,
I just blocked it out and pretended
like it didn't exist.
And there's probably a number of reasons
why she's telling you about other guys.
But one of those reasons usually
ends up being because she wants you to recognize
that she doesn't like you,
and that she likes other people.
The fourth sign is another subtle one,
and that's whenever you're talking to her,
she's never really engaged and is always
trying to find ways to escape the conversation.
Now this usually plays out by her
not really responding to you
and making eye contact,
but looking around for other people
that she knows so that she can get their attention
so they can come in and save her
from the conversation.
Now when you realize this is happening,
it stings, it hurts.
But instead of directing your anger at her
and being upset that she's not
fully present and engaged,
recognize that she doesn't feel comfortable
in that moment.
She doesn't know what to say,
and she just may not know you all that well
to feel okay talking to you.
If she knows that you like her,
or she suspects that you do,
then she's gonna assume that you talking to her
is you kind of asking her out
or propping your feelings on her,
or doing something like that.
So it might make her feel uncomfortable
because she won't know how to respond
when you actually say something like
"I like you, what do you think about that?"
In those moments,
it's easier for her to kinda find someone else
to bail her out,
so don't take it so personal.
Just recognize that it's her own discomfort
coming to surface.
And the fifth sign is as straightforward
as straightforward can get.
She flat-out tells you she doesn't like you.
A lot of times this is hard for guys to take in
because while you still have feelings,
you're hoping that one day
you can change her mind,
or get her to think differently.
But if she's flat-out telling you
she doesn't like you,
then respect that.
Don't push her to be in an uncomfortable position
where she has to say it more aggressively
or more forcefully.
If she tells you she doesn't like you,
accept that.
I know guys,
it hurts getting rejected.
But if she's worked up the courage
to tell you that she doesn't like you,
then she's just being honest with you.
And that's the most you can ever ask from someone.
She's telling you to stop pursuing her,
stop hoping that you have a chance,
and to just realize that she's not that into you.
And sometimes it's better
when the person's honest with you.
You don't have to deal with mixed signals.
You don't have to deal with confusion
about how they feel,
and reading into all their behaviors.
When they look at you,
when they smile at you.
You just know that you can move on,
talk to other people,
focus on building yourself,
and you don't have to keep investing time
into something that's not gonna lead to anything.
So my question for you is:
does you crush give off any of these signs?
If they do,
it's time for you to check out my next video,
which is all about when to give up
and stop pursuing your crush.
Talk about how to do that in that video,
so tap it on the screen right now,
and on that note, guys,
I'll catch you tomorrow.
As always,
love and peace.