- Describe the moment you realized I was in love with you.
- Oh man.
It'll probably be the moment when you actually
agreed to learn how to do my hair,
because that's like really time consuming and I don't know.
I'm pretty sure it was pretty different for you.
Like, I don't think you ever did anything like that before
- I thought you were going to say something else.
- That was like pretty important for me.
When is the last time you considered
ending this relationship and why didn't you?
- The last time I considered ending this relationship was
that one time, this was a long time ago.
This was like still on Riverside.
Was when you left your phone.
- Oh yeah.
That was the last time. That was a long time.
That was a really long time ago.
That was like the very beginning.
But I hadn't thought about, about it ever since then.
Yeah. But yeah.
- Yeah. It still feels like yesterday to me.
- That's so weird.
Right. Well see, that's Riverside.
- But yeah.
- I mean, I ain't got that cause we, they
we haven't really spent prior to that
we hadn't spent any nights where we weren't together.
- Yeah, I know.
- So it was, it was really different.
And then, so I was in my head, I was like, well
maybe this is the end and this is no, I, I,
I don't know.
- Really?
- Yeah.
But I didn't end it is because it was just that connection
that I really couldn't just let go of.
- Well didn't I only go to the house.
- Yeah. But I didn't come on.
We weren't talking.
So I didn't know where you were.
- Okay. Well, yeah. That's so long ago.
It's my turn.
What is one experience you wish I never had.
- Well, that one's easy.
- Really?
- When, when, when you were going into labor
and it was boring and, and we had this conversation
and you said that you felt like I wasn't really there,
there like, there for you
as much as I, I guess, could have been.
- Yeah. But you also didn't know.
I mean, it was, it was both of our first child.
- Yeah. I know, but
- I didn't even know.
- I'm not a woman, so I don't really know exactly
like what you were going through, but I
I know that there's things that I could have
done better to make, to make that process a lot smoother.
- That's nice.
I appreciate you saying that.
- But I mean, at least now I know for like the second child
like I guess I have an idea of what I'm supposed to do and
and how to make that, that time easier for you.
- Yeah. And you don't have a choice cause it's just
going to be you in there this time.
But I'm, I mean, I'm excited
but I do appreciate you saying that.
Okay. Yeah.
- Okay.
- How were we raised differently and how do you
think it's influencing the way we are raising our children?
- Oh, that's a really good question.
These are really good questions.
So I think we were raised differently in the sense
that your mom gave you a lot of responsibility
in the beginning of you growing up and everything with her
she definitely gave you a lot of responsibility.
I mean, like, you know
cleaning, you had to do different things like that.
I guess I grew up a little, well with a lot more freedom
in terms of not having much responsibility,
i.e. cleaning and things like that.
And so I don't want to make it seem like spoiled
or anything, but it's as if like you weren't super spoiled
but my family kind of spoiled us on our end.
That's kind of reflecting on
because he is so stinking spoiled and there's no way
out of it because now he's stuck like that.
But yeah, that's just kind of how I see it because, yeah.
I don't know.
- The other day when he was in the pantry grabbing a snack
and you were like, what are you doing?
He's like, I'm grabbing a snack because I could do
what I want.
- And it's, I mean, that pretty much sums it up.
But I mean, I feel like that's, that's the, both of us
like we kind of implanted that mindset in him.
It's as long as he grows up to, I guess have self-control
then like, I feel like that's gonna, that mindset is really
going to help him in life.
Cause he should feel like he can do whatever he wants.
but he also has to learn eventually that, you know, there's
there are consequences.
Like if you do things you're not supposed to.
- The same people that spoiled me, spoiled him. So.
- I mean, that's going to happen regardless though
because I mean, my family's the same way.
Like whenever he goes to granny's house or grandma's house.
- Yeah, he gets whatever he wants.
- Yeah. But I mean, I think it's supposed to be like that.
It's, like I said before, it's kind of like get back for us
given our parents such a hard time, they spoil our kids.
So that would be when they send him back home to us, he acts
all crazy.
- Yeah, he does act crazy.
- So maybe we could do the same thing
to our grandkids in the future.
- What are you hesitant to ask me?
- Hmm.
I guess, do you, do you feel like taking our relationship
to this extent was truthfully what you wanted?
Like in the beginning?
- Oh yeah.
Like I always knew since even high school
like I always, you know, I wanted to get married, have kids
like that was always the goal.
It was just a matter
of finding someone that was right to do that with.
And someone that, you know
felt the same way about me that I felt about them.
- I guess I just always wondered because
in the beginning it was a little rocky, so I didn't know.
Well, obviously we progressed
to where we are now, but I didn't know.
Like, did you still see that in the beginning?
Like, did you actually see us making it
to where we are today?
- Like I said, where we are now, I saw it.
It's just a matter, I didn't know how to get to where we are
and I didn't always know if we'd make it, but you know
I always had faith and that's pretty much what I just relied
on is, is from the very beginning, like I knew, well
I told myself that like, if this is going to work, then I
I just had to really accept you as who you are
and figure out how I can grow as a person to make this work.
And I figured that as long as I did that
then things will work out in the end.
And I guess I was right.
- Why do you love me?
- Because we are so similar.
We're similar and you know kind of how we think,
we're similar in our goals,
we're similar in just what we want out of life
and you know, what, what we want to be as people.
And so I think because of those similarities
like, we're just so compatible with each other.
And I like, if I, that would really be
just be my why of why I love you.
It's just our connection.
What about you?
- I love you because you, you did teach me a lot
and you still do teach me a lot.
Like I said, I really wouldn't be where I am growth wise
if it wasn't for the things that you've taught me.
Whatever you learn, you teach it to me.
So that's, I guess just the continued growth that I gain
from you and the positivity that you put off.
You've never made me really ever feel insecure.
And that was something that I always struggled with.
And those were just, that just kind of makes me see you
as something really, really great.
So that's why I love you.
And I don't think it's changed and I
I don't see it ever changing
because we just continue to get better and better, so.
- Absolutely.