Hey, it’s Renee here from TheFeminineWoman.com.
Welcome to this video on the 7 Signs a Man is Being Low Value.
Now, it might seem mean or arrogant to deem someone as having low value, or low mate value.
However, the harsh truth is that in the dating world, men and women unconsciously and consciously
size up the opposite sex for their mate value, whether we like it or not.
As humans, we always gravitate towards value and move away from things and people who have
no value to add.
That's why we as a culture, gravitate towards celebrities and move away from poverty.
For the purposes of this video, by mate value, I mean the signs that show a man’s overall
value as a romantic partner.
Mate value also refers to his potential reproductive success.
For example, a strong, confident man would most likely have more reproductive success
than a grown man who is unhealthy, lazy, unconfident or has bad genetics.
As women, we owe it to ourselves to choose good men.
Not only that, we owe it to evolution and to other women around us who are watching
us as an example, to choose good men.
There’s no need to feel guilty about judging a man’s mate value…Men evaluate women
harshly too – I’m sure you already knew that.
And men understand naturally, that when they invest in a woman, that she better be a good woman.
No man wants to willingly put his emotions, money, time, energy, or resources into a woman
who shows up low value.
And, women don’t want to invest their time, energy, money, resources and emotions in a
man who shows up low value, only because it doesn’t serve us – and it doesn’t serve
the future generation.
It doesn't serve us as a species.
So, remember that the world isn’t always kind.
And that’s okay.
We all have to do the best for ourselves.
Which man you choose in your life is perhaps the most important decision
you’ll ever make for yourself!
So do pay attention.
A quick disclaimer before we begin: a man can exhibit one or two of these signs and
still be a high value man.
Sometimes, a man has a bad day or a bad period in his life.
However, if a man continually exhibits two or more of these signs, then it could indicate
deeper and more chronic problems.
So let's begin.
Here are the 7 Burning Signs a man is being Low Value
Low value sign number 1: He can’t tolerate you saying ‘no’.
Women in general sometimes have fears around saying no.
And there’s good reason for that!
Sometimes when we exert our boundaries, it upsets people.
However, there are many moments in which you as a woman will want to and need to say ‘no!’.
And if a man responds to your ‘no’ with pressuring you even more, or tries to trigger
your fears, then he may just want to use you and therefore cannot handle your ‘no’.
Now, to be clear: it requires a good woman, who is not in a fearful state, to properly
interpret whether he truly cannot tolerate your ‘no’.
To truly appreciate if he can tolerate your ‘no’ requires you to not be in a fearful
state, but rather, be present.
You see, a lot of us carry a lot of fear around in our bodies when we interact with people
and we don’t even realise it.
If you decide in a fearful state that a man didn’t receive your ‘no!’,
then you could be wrong about him.
So how do you really know if he can tolerate your ‘no’ or not?
First of all, don’t tell him ‘no’ from a place of judgement or resentment.
Many men will pick up on that and have his own negative feelings towards that,
and that’s fair enough, right?
Tell him ‘no’ because you strongly feel a no.
Say it with conviction and authenticity.
Don’t say ‘no’ just for the sake of seeming higher value.
Provided you are not in a fearful state, and you are present with a man and you say ‘no’
to being touched or grabbed, or say no to anything else,
and instead of respecting your boundaries, he blames you
or gets angry at you for not giving him what he wants,
then you can be pretty sure he’s being low value.
Unless of course, you guys already have a long history together of being in a turbulent
relationship, in which case his anger could be related to that history.
In general, a man of real value will enjoy women being able to say no to him, because
he can trust women like this more, and of course, he’s already got enough value in
his life and doesn’t need to take every little thing he can get from women.
Low value sign number 2: He puts you down.
It’s not only me who says this – scientists say it too.
Putting a woman down is an insecure, low value man’s way of trying to keep her CHAINED to him;
reducing her self esteem; making her feel like her ‘other options’ in men out
there are non existent or limited.
It’s a low value man’s way of controlling a woman’s sexual resources.
The smaller a woman feels, the better it is for these types of men.
The more a man can make a woman doubt herself, the more likely she is to stay with him for
a sense of certainty.
Women can get stuck in this type of cycle with a man because we tend to feel strong
guilt very quickly – and some men sense this about women and play on it.
They keep you "hooked” in to relationship with them by inducing guilt in you.
Don’t play that game.
Low value sign number 3: He is very concerned about his image.
For these types of men, everything is for show.
He is so afraid of doing his own thing, of losing other people’s acceptance,
that he clings to a fake image of himself.
How can you trust a man who spends more energy painting an image
than he spends in his own actual business?
As the saying goes, the empty vessel makes the most noise.
So, the men who FEEL like they have the least value, the men who truly have low self esteem,
they may craft a nice, loud image to try to take from the women who get sucked into it.
To be clear: it’s not a strict THING men do that makes them image focused.
It’s not, say, driving a ferrari or an extremely "extra" sports car.
Some men drive a ferrari or a sports car just for the joy or the novelty of it.
Conversely, some men go into huge debt or scam people to get the ferrari for the image.
So it’s the place a man comes from.
Often, a man who is image focused, can’t stay connected to anyone, because he’s too
afraid and feels too unworthy to connect.
He’s focused on image and he spends a lot of time on his image, because he thinks that
will make him worthy of love and connection.
Unfortunately, most of these men will never experience what a genuine connection feels like.
When you go too far in creating an image for yourself, you lose your ability to genuinely connect.
Men who spend money they don’t have on nice cars, men who start businesses to scam people
and never commit to actually building a long-lasting business entity...these are all examples of
a man who is too focused on his image.
Believe it or not, a lot of men do this.
Don’t fall for an image.
It has no substance.
Be patient and see through the facade for who a man really is.
Sign number 4: He always chooses friends who are bottom of the crop.
Sometimes, out of fear, men will chronically choose less than average friends.
That is to say that he hangs with friends who are at the same level or below him.
Sometimes it is because he feels mediocre, and because of that, his ego feels afraid
at the thought of associating with people who are ‘ahead’ of him.
They key is this: Look for whether he’s open to opportunities to befriend high value,
high status men.
The key is his level of openness to befriend other and perhaps more successful men than himself.
There are men out there who purposefully never make friends with men who are better than him;
as he doesn’t feel good enough, and wants to hide from the reality and the challenge
of making something of his own life.
Low value sign number 5: He is quick to criticize others.
When we feel like we’re not enough; and we’re happy to settle for that exact feeling
in our lives; never striving for more, we tend to want to put others down.
We will literally seek out and paint situations where we get to put another person down.
And we put others down because we need to in order to avoid feeling the deep pain and
trauma of feeling unworthy.
If instead we brought others up, we’d have to acknowledge that the place we’re at is
not ideal…and sometimes, that’s too painful even though it could be beneficial.
So - chronic criticism and putting others down is the tool of a man who feels scared,
who doesn’t want change, who likes to stay small, and who believes other people’s success
is at odds with his own.
I believe a truly successful man (or woman) is willing to learn from others; and knows
that if someone else does well, it is an indication of what is possible for them, too.
Low value sign number 6: He is stingy, not just to you, but to other people as well.
You don’t want a man who is so out of touch that he pours out all his money and lavishes
you with gifts – without really knowing you; all in an attempt to buy your love.
Some men don’t feel they have a lot of worth to a woman besides lavishing them with gifts or money.
You also don’t want a man who is so un-attuned and so stingy that he seems to withhold everything
of value from you: connection, attention, and offers of help for example.
Generosity is one indicator of how resourceful a man is.
By the way, not having money is not an excuse for not being generous.
True generosity is about having an energy of being willing to share things of value.
Whether that’s money, knowledge, emotions, connections or experiences.
And for the most part, I would much rather a man be generous with his time and energy
than his money.
Think about it.
If a man is not generous to any degree, what is this a reflection of?
It’s a reflection of how he feels about the world, the resources that are available
in the world, and it’s a sign that he doesn’t feel confident taking charge and being resourceful.
Of course, you should never ever expect a man to just be the only generous ones.
This is not your permission to just take without giving anything back.
Whatever you want to take from others, you should also be willing to give.
So make sure that you’re not putting outdated rules upon men, thinking that they have to
keep giving to you and you just receive because you’re the ultimate feminine being,
because that’s just silly.
In a real relationship, it has to go both ways.
That’s what establishes real trust and connection.
Otherwise, it’s just a transaction, not a relationship.
Low value sign number 7: You feel physically ill at the thought of sleeping with him.
Your body doesn’t lie.
And I don’t mean, because he has food in his teeth, or bad breath.
Remember, every time you let a man in to your body, that’s a ‘vote’ for what traits
will be continued in your offspring.
So your body has an inner wisdom that you may have to start listening to.
If all else about him is A grade, but you can’t sleep with him without feeling sick,
then all you’re really doing is trading sex for his resources.
Nothing wrong with that, many women have made it work like that in the past, even if it
comes with a huge price.
I believe that a man can have high provider value and high spiritual value, but if your
body is consistently closed off to him because your eggs are screaming ‘no!’ to his sperm,
then you may need to re-evaluate.
Alright those are the 7 signs a man is being low value.
Now of course, on the flip side of the coin, there are certain things that women do that
men typically perceive as low value.
Some of these things you may not even be aware of right now.
You see we as women think and feel through our feminine filters.
Men don't.
So here's what I have for you.
I've put together a special report on the 7 common signs a woman is low value in the
eyes of men.
I want you to have it for free so that you can get a glimpse into how men perceive women
as well as perhaps how you can avoid being seen as low value.
So go download this report for free.
It's a digital download, so we're not going to be wasting any paper here.
I'll make sure to add a link down below somewhere so that you can download this and go through
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Otherwise, if you can't find the link then just go to 7CommonSigns.com.
Anyway, go read it, it might just open your eyes and change your life.
Anyway, that's all from me.
I do hope you enjoyed this video and I'll speak to you soon.