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- Why, hello, welcome to my office,
where we discuss various things.
In this video,
(laughs loudly)
what we're talking about today is what personality type,
which of the 16 Myers-Briggs personalities makes
the best friend.
Who do you wanna seek out, put in your friend group,
and which of your friends do you need to kick to the curb
because they're the wrong personality type.
But here's the thing, it all depends on what kind of friend
are you looking for?
It's not a one-size-fits-all kind of deal,
so that's what we're talking about today.
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All right, so which personality makes the best friend?
Let's start off by (laughs) saying,
I think you should have a friend of every personality type.
I would never discriminate against someone
or someone based on their personality type
because every type brings something different to the table,
and there is a lot about each individual
that is not directly tied to the personality type.
Am I gonna get sunburned (laughs)
while I'm making this video?
Will you see some tendrils of smoke coming off of my arm?
The other thing worth pointing out
is that I'm gonna be giving you some qualities
that each type will possess as a friend.
This isn't to say that the other types don't possess that,
but when I'm thinking about the types and what they bring
to a friendship, this is the number one thing
that I think of.
Okay, so enough of that crap.
Who's the best friend?
(laughs loudly)
Frank, just get to the point,
tell me who the best friend is.
Well, what are you looking for in a friend?
Do you want a friend who is reliable?
If this friend says they'll show up,
they'll actually show up.
The friend who you know is gonna remember your birthday.
The friend that you don't have to worry about suddenly doing
something totally random that you didn't expect.
If that's what you're looking for,
I think the introverted sensing types,
the ISTJ and ISFJ might be up your alley.
These types, they like routines
so you always know where they're gonna be.
They're not the kind of people to say they're gonna do
something and then not do it.
Duty is something that they think is important
and it's no different with the duty to their friends.
And let me just point out with this particular type,
this goes for all of them,
but anyone of any type can be reliable
not just these two types, but that is the feature
that looms most prominently in my mind.
But maybe with a friend, your primary thing
that you're looking for is someone who can enjoy life
and maybe someone who's a little bit adventurous,
just the kind of person who knows how to have a good time
and as good at finding new ways to have a good time.
If you're looking for a friend like that,
an ESFP or an ESTP, the extroverted sensors,
they got you covered,
but watch out with these types of friends
because if you're the kind of person
who doesn't wanna get out of your comfort zone very often,
they're gonna try to drag you, kicking and screaming
out of it so just a heads up there.
Now, maybe you're looking for a friend
who is all about the tough love,
someone who keeps you accountable,
someone who's kicking your butt
but in a friendly way.
(laughs loudly)
Now, for these types, you gotta have
a little bit of a thicker skin
because they're gonna shoot you straight
and they're gonna be like, "Dude, What are you doing?
You gotta get back on track.
You said you were gonna do this,
doesn't look like you're getting it done."
For these types, you want the extroverted thinkers,
ESTJ and ENTJ as your friends.
They don't mince words, and they're gonna throw a lot
of words at you.
They're gonna ask you a lot of questions
about what you're doing and how you're going about things
but it's all because they care about you.
They wouldn't bother to do it if they didn't care,
but like I said, you gotta have a little bit
of a thicker skin because they are saying these things
to help you out but that doesn't mean
that they're gonna say it necessarily
in the most sugar-coated way.
But maybe you like the sugar coating,
maybe you want a friend who isn't so much there
to kick your butt into gear
but a friend who was there to support you,
and who's just like love on you,
and validate you, and all that stuff,
a friend who's gonna be asking you how you're doing,
checking in on you, making sure that you're doing okay,
making sure that if you are feeling down,
that they're helping you to feel better.
If you're looking for a friend like that,
the extroverted feelers, the ESFJ and ENFJ fit the bill.
These types are all about emotional harmony,
but you gotta watch out because that harmony,
while it often means making people feel better,
can sometimes mean making people feel worse
if that will cause the harmony to happen.
If other people in your friend group are sad
and you're feeling good, these types might be like,
"Hey, we gotta feel sad also,
that's what's fair, that's the right thing to do
in this situation."
But usually they wanna be cheerful,
they wanna be happy, they wanna bring the feelings up,
that's why these people are great to have
in your friend group.
What do you mean these people?
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But maybe you want a friend
who's always gonna tell you the truth,
the kind of friend who isn't necessarily beating
you over the head with it or kicking your butt,
but the kind of person who if you ask is gonna be like,
"Yeah, dawg, this is the harsh truth of the matter,
let me just tell you how I see it."
If you're looking for a friend like that,
the introverted thinkers, the ISTP and INTP,
they're who you're looking for.
Now, unlike the extroverted thinkers,
these introverted thinkers,
they're not gonna be bugging you about all this stuff
all the time.
They're gonna be a lot more reserved.
They're in a way, they're gonna be the kind of friends
who you maybe don't hear from very often,
but if they like you, they will be there for you
and they will tell it to you how it is if you ask them.
So if you wanna be with a friend who values the truth,
these two types are who you wanna find.
But maybe the primary thing that you were looking for
in a friend is someone who is just loyal,
someone who you can make a deep connection with,
someone who is like your brother or sister,
in that case, you're looking for an introverted feeler,
an INFP or an ISFP.
But here's the thing though,
it's not a guarantee, if they don't like you,
they don't like you.
So if you can find an INFP or ISFP who likes you,
they take friendships very seriously.
They will get super connected with you,
they want to have that close friendship.
So if you're looking for that deep, authentic connection
with someone, finding a friend who is an INFP or ISFP
is a good idea
if they will accept you as a friend.
And the other thing is, even if they do accept you,
they might be hard to get ahold of,
all the IPS are gonna be the kind of friends
who may be kind of like don't return your texts or say
they'll be somewhere and then kind of ditch on you.
They're not trying to be mean,
they're just in their own world and doing their own thing,
so if you can handle that, if you can ride the waves of that
and not take it personally,
great friends to have, let me tell you.
Maybe you're looking for a friend who is really open-minded
and the kind of friend who you can just explore
a bunch of ideas with,
have these intellectual, philosophical conversations.
That's your main concern,
that's what you're really looking for,
someone who is just very imaginative with how they think,
I think you wanna find an ENTP or ENFP friend.
That is their bread and butter.
That is what they love to do all the time,
it's just like think up new, crazy stuff,
look at things from every angle,
explore all the possibilities.
And a lot of times, they love talking about it,
sometimes it can be hard to get them to stop talking.
But I always find it fascinating to be around these types
because of how their mind works,
because of how they can make
all these connections so quickly.
One of the downsides is, they are so creative,
so imaginative, so out there with a lot of this stuff
that it can feel like hard to keep up with them
and where their mind is going.
But then, maybe you're looking for a friend
who is just very insightful,
who isn't necessarily trying to think of everything
that could possibly be, but is just trying to get
one deep insight into whatever you're talking about
or into something happening in your life or whatever.
For that, you want an introverted, intuitive friend,
an INFJ or an INTJ.
These types are really good at looking at a situation
and just honing in on one little thing and being like,
"Well, it really all comes down to this,"
which could be great if you understand
what they're trying to say,
if the insight becomes apparent to you.
But other times, it can be like,
"What are you talking about?
This is not clear."
And these types will kind of struggle sometimes
to express their insights,
but if you have the patience to work through it with them,
you can eventually figure out,
"Oh man, dude, I see what you're saying, I think."
Thanks so much for watching.
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And until next time,
stay cool and attractive.
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