hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 10 signs she was never really
in love now let's begin number one missing an idea does your ex actually miss you or does she
miss the idea of you hmm in many relationships partners realize they were never in love with you
as a person they had actually just fallen in love with a concept they like the idea of you instead
of loving you for who you are now on paper you probably check off all of their boxes you have the
job and the car they find you attractive smart and funny they like your facts and figures but when
it came to your actual personality they just kept trying to change you they wanted to make you into
something that you're not at first she may have said things like hey you're the perfect guy for me
or i've been looking for someone like you she was looking for someone like you but she wasn't
looking for you if your ex didn't like you for who you are then she was never really in love she
was infatuated with an idea instead of falling in love with a real person number two constant
stress what was the mood of your relationship were you and your partner happy and playful or
was your relationship stressful and argumentative when love is not there partners tend to suffocate
each other everything annoys you about them and everything annoys them about you this
ever-present stress and tension especially early on means that there's no love in your relationship
so it's no surprise that you're constantly fighting creating distance and taking breaks
now if that tension is coming from one partner and not the other it means one partner is unhappy with
a relationship as a whole in other words if she was always creating conflict if she wanted to
fight more than she wanted to make up there's a good chance she was never really in love with you
number three familial distance one of the hardest parts of a breakup especially in long-term
relationships is leaving behind family and friends when you become intertwined in each other's lives
you build bonds with your partner's loved ones you establish personal relationships with these people
even outside of your partner when the relationship ends you feel like you've not only lost a partner
but several friends too however if love isn't there she may have never bonded with the important
people in your life she may have avoided your friends and family or just never tried to get
to know them when you do finally break up your friends and family may not miss her in the
slightest because she never really bonded with any of them now on the flip side you may never have
connected with her family either she may have kept that portion of her life a secret from you she
may have made dozens of excuses almost like she was hiding you from the other people in her life
but maybe you only met her friends and family a few times during your entire relationship
now if this sounds familiar to you there may have been something missing from your relationship
number four total ambivalence when strong couples break up romantic feelings will linger for weeks
months or even years afterwards if you truly love another person those feelings will not
immediately disappear when the relationship ends there's an unavoidable amount of grief
sadness and frustration that comes with any serious breakup but what if your ex is ambivalent
to your breakup as a whole their feelings for you seem to have vanished completely and in their
mind you're just a stranger now almost like your relationship never even existed this reaction is
common among people who were never really in love that love never blossomed in the relationship so
the fallout is far less devastating but how do you know when a partner is ambivalent towards
your breakup well after breaking up many couples continue talking they may regularly express their
lingering feelings for each other even though the relationship has ended you keep using nicknames
you preserve the same inside jokes and in a lot of ways you may talk like you're still together
now if your ex was never in love she'll talk to you in a completely different way she
will suddenly change your tune treating you like you're not an important part of her life anymore
she may even ignore you not because she's grieving but because she was never really in love with you
number five refusing to fix your issues many partners after a tough breakup find ways to
rekindle their relationship they take some time apart to think about what went wrong and then they
try to solve their problems that way they can maintain a stronger relationship in the future
when two partners love each other they don't want to stay broken up they find ways to be happy
together they're willing to make sacrifices and work hard on the relationship but what if your ex
isn't interested what if she refuses to work on the issues that broke you up in the first place
now if she has no interest in problem solving then she just doesn't want to get back together she may
not feel as strongly about the relationship as you do maybe her love for you was fated or maybe she
was never in love at all number six rapid feelings did your relationship pick up steam right away
did you get too serious without any real feelings behind your relationship many partners mistake
strong feelings of infatuation for genuine love they're swept up in the excitement and
passion of a new relationship so they imagine a stronger connection than there really is
they're convinced that love is the only explanation but as the dust settles as
the honeymoon phase begins to fade away well they realize they're not feeling love at all
these short and fast relationships fall apart at the drop of a hat it feels like one day you're in
love and the next day you're complete strangers there may have been plenty of things she liked
about you but after the first wave of passion a relationship needs love to hold it together
if your relationship dies as quickly as it starts well there probably wasn't much love to begin with
number seven sense of relief did she seem happy and relieved after your breakup
does she say your separation was the best thing that ever happened to her partners often feel this
sense of relief like a weight off their shoulders when a stressful relationship comes to an end
why is that well because her feelings for you were never really there maybe she felt like she
was forcing herself to stay in the relationship or maybe her life was simply moving in a different
direction either way if your ex felt relieved when the two of you called it quits well then
your relationship may not have been as strong as you think number eight's forgetting your
birthday even after a breakup many exes can't help thinking about their partners they often remember
things like birthdays and holidays and they use those occasions as excuses to check in to say
hello and to make sure their ex is still doing okay even if you two are not in a relationship
anymore ah but what if your partner doesn't even bother remembering these important occasions what
if she lets birthdays and holidays pass by without so much as a text to check in now if your partner
doesn't mind letting these moments slip away she may not have been in love with you chances are she
no longer thinks about you her feelings for you have faded over time and she's completely moved on
number nine moving on is your ex already dating someone new beginning a new relationship is a
serious commitment and requires a large amount of emotional investment after a strenuous breakup
most people don't have the emotional capacity to even consider a new relationship let alone invest
in one so what does it mean if your ex is seeing someone new well it means she got over you a long
time ago she can commit herself to someone else because her emotions weren't as invested in her
relationship with you this is especially true for brief passionate relationships which get serious
way too quickly in the moment it feels like your entire life is bound to this person but as soon
as you call it quits you realize how little you actually invested in your relationship it may
only take you a few days to get over her because you were never really in love and neither was she
number 10 searching for signs the last sign that she never really loved you is that you're watching
this video if you're suspicious of whether or not she loved you she must have given you a reason
when someone loves you their love is usually clear to see they vocalize their feelings they
express their affection they make an effort to be close to you and share intimate moments
the simple fact is you know your partner better than any video or list ever could
so deep down you know when something's wrong so if you're looking for signs that she never really
loved you if you're questioning her feelings for you your gut's trying to tell you something
listen to it no matter where it comes from there's a reason you feel this way it's easy
to go back and forth in your relationship to doubt yourself and wonder if you're reading
everything wrong but no one understands your relationship better than you do hey thank you
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