So hey awesome ones I think that most of us can say that lately we've been
feeling a little bit drab. Well I'm here to bring you out of the drab
and into the fab and I'm not just talking about fashion here I'm talking about self-esteem
and worthiness. I think this video is going to be very enlightening. So let's go!
I have a question for you. How do you want to feel moving forward in life? Well how about
intelligent and strong and worthy and most of all visible. You know that studies prove that as
a woman ages she feels more and more invisible. And in this video I really want to address that.
Now having done these videos for a long time now I really know what goes on with this
and there was a time when I had really really gained weight and what I wanted to do was wear
dark clothing like this. It was oversized. It was black or dark dark colors and what I was trying
to do was I was trying to hide my weight but I was really just doing the opposite. What I was becoming
in my personality was unseen, invisible and really my self-esteem and my confidence
it just really started to drop. Now I had had two kids and my former model personality it was gone
and I actually dressed in these bulky oversized extra large clothes for years. Yeah I said years.
What ended up happening to me is I became a shrinking violet. I really just started to...
well I wasn't Heather anymore. |I wasn't outgoing and that was 30 years ago. I also find it very
interesting as I was losing my self-esteem, my marriage was falling apart and my former husband
he started to become abusive and actually one night it got so bad that I called a women's shelter
and they said come on by and it was a women's shelter for abused women and they said pack three
bags one for yourself and one for each of the girls. It was really interesting how I only packed
one dress. The rest were the large black bulky clothes. Now believe it or not I was a realtor then
and while I was at the shelter I was thinking to myself I want to be a really good single mom.
So I decided I needed to look for a nine to five job and of course as fate would have it somebody
mentioned to me a great opportunity. I was off to the interview. Now that one purple dress was
all that I had for the interviewing processes and as I was moving up the hiring rank I found
that on the third interview still wearing the same dress I was face to face with the president
of a fortune 500 company. There are a lot of contenders for that job but I got the job.
I was so happy so grateful and now I was a single mom with a good paying job and
I was self-sufficient. You know i really wish I still had that dress to show you.
It actually was a dress with a blazer over top and of course I think it had the shoulder pads
in it as well. And it had on the blazer they were beautiful beautiful brass buttons and in the old
days they used to call them a power suit. And I actually threw a power suit into that bag and
it was an iconic look for the 1990s. I often wonder how I would have fared if I was wearing
you know the all black oversized clothing. Would I have become Heather the shrinking violet.
You know something happened when I put on that power suit. I put it on and I felt...I'm back
baby! You know I never went back to old heather. I never went back to the ex-husband or invisibility
as a matter of fact about a year later I had the confidence and the courage to start up
my own business but that's another story. So my hope is that my story and the rest of this video
will really help you especially if you're stuck. So the question is how do you want to move
forward with the rest of your life? I want you to find that youthful vibrant
exciting you that is really inside and I've got eight tips right now to help you find her.
By the way if you are kind of liking this video don't forget to subscribe and
also click on the bell. And guess what? I have hit a hundred thousand subscribers!!!
Thank you so much for that. A little while ago I did talk about having a draw. So stay tuned till
the end of this video when I'll do a special draw. But let's get back to the eight tips.
So number one is take a look at your closet. How is the ratio with the dark black kind of dreary
self-hiding colors to the vibrant colorful ones? You can see this is sort of a cross-section of
my wardrobe I really have the rainbow there of colors. Remember the purple dress? Yes it was a
power dress but the purple really really helped to elevate up my spirits. Tip number two is show
those curves. Stop hiding behind the oversized clothing and start wearing clothes that actually
fit you. You may think that wearing the oversized clothes is really hiding all the extra weight that
you have but actually what it's doing is it's making you look bigger. What I'm going to do
at the end of this video is I'm going to attach you know a link to one of my slimming videos
for you and that'll be on the end screen of this one. Tip number three is add a little bit of
va va voom or ou la la! What you want to do is you want to add maybe a pair of ray-ban wayfarers or
maybe some over-the-knee boots or a pencil skirt. How about all three? Number four is throw out those
age rules. Yes you can wear long hair you can wear pencil skirts, jean skirts, dresses, moto
jackets, whatever you really want you know as long as it's not looking like a teenager. I also did
a video on this on breaking the age rules and I'll put that on the end screen of this video as well.
Tip number five is to find a group of women who lift you up and they don't tear you down.
Right here in this community is a great place to be. And also don't forget that every wednesday at
8 pm eastern standard time I'm live at amazon.com/shop/awesomeover50 I talk about beauty and makeup
and hair and fashion of course and I even throw in some self-care and home decor.
Tip number six is to celebrate who you truly are. Who is the authentic self and what's the fun
side like. In my wardrobe I've got fringe jackets, I have boho looks. I have mini dresses that I
wear with leggings and I have a lot of fun hats. You know when I go to a summer festival I'm
already feeling the vibe of having a great time. Tip number seven is get ready for the compliments.
You know how I always say put on a little bit of rouge and a little bit of lipstick?
You're bound to hear with you know your vibrant fashions that you'll be wearing,
you look really great or have you lost weight. And you might even hear you look marvelous. Reason
I say that is because in my book here which is Awesome Over 50. 50 ways to embrace this chapter of
your life. Tip number 15 is you look marvelous. And and even if you're just looking in the mirror as
you're walking out the door it's that kind of vibe that you give to yourself that you really feel and
look good. So my next tip is to wear maybe a couple of the trends that are going you know for me. I
have I've got a few of them now. The moto jackets. I've invested in the over-the-knee boots and also
lots of patterns you know lots of polka dots and paisleys and different patterns. And you know what?
I feel marvelous. So in a minute I'm going to draw 12 names and do you remember the video
that I did a while ago where I said put in the comments 'keeping it awesome'? And when I get to a
hundred thousand subscribers I'm going to draw 12 names for a dozen of my books. and
Just before I get there though I do want to say to you that this is the time this is the
time to go from drab to fab to really elevate your wardrobe and and elevate your life for that matter.
It's time to get our groove back. Get our confidence back and get some power too. And talking
about power thank you so much for subscribing and encouraging me to keep on doing these videos.
Now if i pick your name what I would like you to do is go to our website at awesomeover50.com
Go to the contact us and there I would like I just want to make sure that it's you so I'd like you to
of course give me your address and also just tell me what your little symbol looks like you
know on youtube you know that little thumbnail picture of you or maybe it's just a symbol. And
also let me know what message you would like me to write in your book because I really would like
to personalize it for you. But without further ado let's do the draw. Now there were a lot of entries
so thank you so much for entering the contest. Let's pick our first name and the first name is
L nell one okay so let's do this L-n-e-l l-1 Yay all right let's pick another one
and here we go and the next one is silver foodie all right silver foodie.
And if i don't pick your name remember you're an awesome one you're still a winner.
Okay so let's go ahead and pick another number or another person I guess and that is
rosie c. All right rosie c congratulations. All right let's do another one. Number four
and that's deborah crawford c-r-a-w-f-o-r-d
congratulations. All right next
I don't want you to think I'm looking at them because I'm not. All right here's one here
and that is nadia murray m-u-r-r-a-y. Let me just put these ones down a little bit here all right
next is number six halfway there and that is katherine schwartz s-w-a-r-t-z. All right next okay
jodie harris j-o-d-i harris. All right next
and that's carolyn hill. Carolyn Hill all right and
number nine which one's this one here diane snyder and that's s-n-y-d-e-r.
All right how many more Bill? We're at number 10? Okay I don't want to look like I'm looking at them.
This one is crystal morgan c-r-y-s-t-a-l morgan woo-hoo all right. So next we have number 11
and it's shirley phillips, all right. Very good. One more Bill? One more all right come on pick me pick me......
catherine richardson. So thank you so much for entering and as I said just go to
AwesomeOver50.com contact us with your information and what your profile picture looks like and also
a message that you would like and your address and we'll get those books out to you. Like I said
before you're all winners. So I'd like to take this opportunity to thank you once again for all of
your support. You know it's the uplifting beautiful lovely comments that you give me or the likes or
the follows and that really helps to encourage me to do these videos and also to do those Lives that
I do on those live streams that i do on amazon. And you know I've said it before we're all on
this journey together. So let's be vibrant, youthful and energized and above all visible awesome ones.