can NLP help you meet and date the women you desire especially when it comes to
overcoming the fear and anxiety that holds you back keep watching this is
life mastery gym I'm Damon Cart and I teach people just like you cutting edge
NLP processes and techniques so that you can take charge of your life and master
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channel so you can get these videos on a regular basis NLP neuro-linguistic
programming has kind of a reputation for being about seduction and manipulation
but can men use NLP to get more dates to meet more women and do it in a way that
creates a positive experience for everyone involved yes absolutely you can
and that's exactly what I'm gonna show you in this video in this video I'm
going to show you how it went from almost zero social life to having the
social life of my dreams and make sure you stay tuned to the end of this video
because I'm going to show you how to take this even further with some free
training the first step I'm going to show you is the approach but before I
get into that I'm just curious have you ever used NLP for dating
if yes or no please type it into the comments below
so the first step might be a bit obvious it's the approach at some point you
actually have to make contact with a woman if you're ever going to be able to
ask her out on a date unfortunate thing though is that this is usually the
hardest part for any man to overcome the fear and the anxiety of walking up to a
woman and introducing himself and so much so that most men would rather sit
home on a Friday or Saturday night swiping on tinder hoping to get a day
that way but I've also linked some videos that I've done I have a complete
playlist on overcoming fear overcoming fear and
pretty much any situation and I've linked that playlist to this video so
just click the I if you'd like to check those videos out what stops you from
making the approach is fear obviously but what are your fears about are they
fears of humiliation rejection fear that she's going to say no fear that if she
does say no that that means that you're not good enough and then we have all
these limiting beliefs about it well there's no way a woman's going to say
yes to me who I just walk up to on the street and ask her out she's never going
to say yes it's never going to happen so we have a lot of these fears in these
limiting beliefs but the weird thing about this is is that none of these
fears are really founded in a physical threat of something bad happening to you
they're they may feel that way and that's the interesting thing about this
is that the fear feels the same as the fight-or-flight response that we get
when our life is actually threatened or we're threatened with physical harm but
there is no physical harm there that's the interesting thing about this this
this step is that we will experience that kind of fear yet there is no real
threat of that kind of fear so one of the things we can do is we can
experience that fear as excitement because it's really not that much
different the fear that we experience or the anxiety we experience is
neurologically very very similar to excitement so it really has to do with
the meaning we make of the fear the meaning of that that rush of energy that
comes through us is it anxiety and and and threat or is it actually excitement
you can make this shift there are very specific NLP techniques that can help
you out with this state management NLP techniques such as a circle of
excellence and anchoring but you can also use things like new behavior
generator and mapping across and just remember it don't try to use any pickup
lines there are some ways that you can use pickup lines that can be funny and
playful if you can pull that off then go ahead the first if you can make a woman
laugh upon first meeting her then you're off to a really good start
but I even some of the pickup lines that are like these indirect openers like
asking a woman's opinion about something and then slowly trying to transition and
to showing her that you're interested don't even bother with those I would
first start off with just a compliment and that tells her that you're
interested and so she's not wondering why you're trying to talk to her or why
you're trying to ask her opinion about something out of the blue which sets you
up to make this much longer or of trying to transition a simple
conversation into something more meaningful why don't you just start with
just giving her a compliment that'll just tell her right from the start that
you're interested in her and then proceed that way but oftentimes we're
trying to protect our feelings so much we're trying to protect ourselves from
being rejected that we're trying to not let her know that we're interested in
her which just makes this incredibly difficult just start from the beginning
letting her know that you're interested with a very simple compliment look at
her see what you find interesting about her and just tell her that once you've
made the approach the next thing you want to do is you want to connect with
her so if you're if you're not at a bar or a club you're likely going to be
approaching her during the day which I definitely recommend when you approach
in the evening at a bar or a nightclub you're competing with a lot of other men
and she's also got has her guard up because she gets hit on a lot at bars
and clubs because that's in our weird way of thinking of things is the
appropriate place to meet a woman or to talk to a woman aren't to approach a
woman but I definitely recommend approaching her during the daytime in
public if you do approach her during the day it's quite likely she's on her lunch
break or she's on her way to say meet friends so you won't have a whole lot of
time you'll want to connect with her as quickly as possible sometimes you might
only have five minutes now that might not always be the case maybe she is not
on her way to meet anyone and she has plenty of time but the better you get at
connecting quickly and rapidly the better off
you are in any situation what are some ways to connect with her really really
quickly in NLP we have lots of ways to do this we want to build rapport as
quickly as possible and if you've ever taken any NLP trainings we talked a lot
about rapport essential NLP skills to build rapport
rapidly or things like matching and mirroring also you can use sensory
acuity and calibration to really tune in to her deeply so she feels like she's
known you for a really long time last but not least you can use reframing to
frame the conversation to have her think about doing fun things with you before
you've even asked her out on a date overall the thing that you need to
remember is that whether you're doing sales coaching therapy or dating is that
everything happens in rapport all change happens in rapport if you want to
influence someone's behavior it needs to happen in a in the framework of rapport
two words that are other or additional words for describing what rapport is is
trust and familiarity so when you get someone to experience trust with you and
you make that person feel like you're familiar to them then they're more
likely to do what it is that you want them to do you're more likely to be able
to influence their behavior and like I said that's with anything and in
coaching in therapy in sales were influencing behavior so the same goes
with when you're dating if you want to influence behavior
you need to be in a state of rapport or that person needs to be in a state of
rapport with you and they need to feel like they can trust you and that you're
very familiar to them which brings us to the third and final step but before I go
into that if you would like to attend a free training where I go into much more
depth on all three of these steps in fact I chunkin down even more I give
even smaller steps to the bigger steps of exactly what to do for now I am
putting out there a free training that you can attend you will find the link in
the description right down below or you'll find it in the comments down
below there's a pinned comment and it's that link where you can get access to
this free training for now I'm I'm going to keep it up but for now you
can jump on that and take advantage of that the third and final step is the
clothes now you might be wondering what I mean exactly by that but if you're in
sales you probably don't the clothes is when you go for whatever it is that you
want in sales it's when you ask for the sell and dating I use this word to mean
when you ask for the date now I use this word from sells because let's be honest
when you're approaching and meeting a woman and you ask her out on a date
essentially you are truly selling yourself it's really not any different
than sales well the difference is is that you're not exchanging money here
you're exchanging time so you want to show her that it's worth her time to go
out on a date with you and so you can check each other out and see if indeed
you want to go further with this now a lot of people won't like that because it
makes it sound like love and fade and all of these wonderful romantic things
it turns it into a sort of a numbers thing or it turns it into sales and well
let me put it this way I'll be the first to add then I believe in true love I am
a hopeless romantic and I don't think these two things are are mutually
exclusive I think they're one in the same I think you can be a hopeless
romantic I think you can believe in true love which you can also understand too
that if you don't put yourself out there to the right people to the right woman
you never get to meet that special someone you often will just settle for
whoever's around you and that a lot of times does not make the best
relationships so if you think like a salesperson you think like a marketer
you put yourself and the right in front of the right woman and you also know how
to communicate the best in you to her and you really sell yourself then you
can experience all those wonderful things like true love and you can be a
total hopeless romantic in this whole process you don't have to treat it like
one or the other it's not an either/or thing when you do ask your
on a date don't make it a big deal don't ask her out for dinner and a movie that
takes a bigger commitment of time and and so again what you're asking for her
for here is her time so make it really really easy for her to say yes an easy
easy way to do that is to ask her out just for something very very simple like
coffee you ask her out for coffee it implies that there's it's very temporary
but if you both want to spend more time together you get to know each other a
little bit and you realize yeah I do want to spend more time with this person
then you can move it somewhere else besides coffee you can then go have
dinner you can go watch that movie but start off with something really easy for
her to say yes now here's the other thing too is you don't really know if
you want to spend a lot of time with her either you just met her so you're kind
of letting her know that you're you're not being too pushy you're not being
desperate you're wanting to get to know her better as well you're just checking
things out here and again if it's a mutual decision you both like each other
then you can move on from here so a great way to gently and playfully
introduce the clothes you want to do this playfully because you don't want it
to make it seem like this is a big serious deal you want to make it easy
for her so a way that you can do that is to say if there's nothing preventing you
from having coffee with me so that we can get to know each other better I
think we should do that immediately now again this one you want to do this sort
of playfully and with this you have some presuppositions involved in this
sentence which is basically that if there's nothing preventing her of course
there's nothing really preventing her unless she has a boyfriend or a husband
that might prevent her or time but you're making this so that you're not
being so specific about the time you're just saying immediately so immediately
like immediately now or immediately like first chance you get so this is sort of
somewhat left open but it implies it presupposes that she can absolutely do
this and that she would want to get to know you a little bit better the other
thing it's not necessarily bad that you get a no from her right away getting a
no from her would let her know where she stands in this whole thing so
she might be saying no I can't do it immediately and so that's what you would
want to say and she's likely not to just say a flat-out no she might have a
boyfriend she might have a husband so if she says one of those two that's for me
I would just move on I wouldn't try to really test that every once in a while
when I was single I would test out the whole boyfriend thing because then it
might just be a quick knee-jerk reaction she might just be throwing that out
there and it might not be true the other thing is is that there are plenty of
women who will date guys simply because they don't want to be single and the guy
that who they're dating isn't necessarily someone they really want to
spend a lot of time with and if given a better choice she might leave that guy
to go and be with you so she says no it's really no problem then you say okay
so you can do it immediately what about later this evening or what about
tomorrow you want to make sure that you get the date as soon as possible from
the time that you've actually met her the longer that time goes on the more
likely she's going to flake or lose interest so you want to get that date if
you can immediately maybe you can't do it immediately either so you do it as
soon as possible so if she says no you said okay great well when what would
work for you so now you've got her to say no to a certain time that doesn't
work so now you can pivot off of that and then ask her okay well what exactly
when what exactly would this work for you and then you're working out from
there like I said you definitely want to make sure you go on the date as soon as
possible otherwise she starts to lose interest or she starts to forget that
initial meeting and the fun conversation that she had so do it as soon as
possible now you know the three main steps to using NLP to approach meet
connect and close but what you don't know are the finer details that make
these three steps work so that's why I created the training that I mentioned
earlier in the video again you will find that in the description right down below
and you also find it in the pinned comment down below so again I don't know
how long I'm going to keep this training going so you want to jump on this as
soon as possible now you know these three steps what are you
going to do let me know in the comments below whether or not you're actually
going to put this to use for you and while you're down there make sure you
get your hands on that free training in the comments section below just click
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