Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is titled never chase a girl when she pulls away avoid
these 7 mistakes that ruin her interest in you. Have you ever had feelings for a gorgeous gal
but she started to pull away and you didn't know why and you didn't know what to do? It's painful,
right? That's never a situation you want to find yourself in. Would you like to get her back? First
you need to know why this happens, you need to know these big mistakes because if you're making
them you're going to lose her permanently. And you need to know what to do instead so you can
move forward in a positive direction. Does that sound good? That's what we're going to
be covering in this video so make sure you watch to the end. Now before I share these mistakes with
you if this is your first time watching one of my videos, welcome! My name is Melannie. I'm a
Christian dating coach for men. I teach you how to stop wasting time and energy on bad relationships
and dead-end relationships that go nowhere by just learning the skills you need to instead have your
dream girl and your dream relationship. The best part is I'm a certified coach so what I teach is
based and backed by science instead of mind games. So if you're looking for a no mind game approach
this is the place for you. Make sure you give me a big thumbs up, subscribe, and ring that
notification bell. Okay friends, never chase a girl when she pulls away. It's not effective,
it does not work. And if you feel her pulling away and you want to know how to get her back
these are the things you need to know so pay very close attention. The first thing you need to know
about why you should never chase a girl when she pulls away is that chasing actually doesn't work.
So mistake number one is chasing her in the first place. If you ever felt like you needed
to chase her at any point in the relationship that's going to cause your relationship to fail,
to not go anywhere, to not be good. I want you to pretend for a second that my hands are two people.
Now if one is chasing the other then the other is running away, right? That's not any kind of
a relationship. So what you want instead is a relationship where both people are close.
That's a real relationship. But if one person is chasing the other you never get anywhere,
right? You never have that closeness that you're looking for. So ultimately chasing
doesn't work. Instead you need to learn and understand the basics of a healthy relationship,
what creates a healthy relationship, what a healthy relationship even means. Because chasing
is not included in a healthy relationship. Only by understanding what a healthy relationship is
can you actually create that. And that's how you create the closeness. Two people who are
crazy in love with each other, who are loyal and supportive. Two people who are close. Does that
make sense so far? So the next thing you need to understand about why you should never chase
a girl when she pulls away, our next mistake, is not understanding what pursuing actually
means. There's a big difference between pursuing and chasing. We just discussed why chasing is not
effective and why it doesn't work and why it's a terrible idea. But pursuing, pursuing a woman,
oh my goodness, that lights a fire in her soul, guys. That makes her insanely attracted
to you. God created women to be attracted to men who pursue them. But you need to understand what
pursuing actually means because chasing is not pursuing. And I'm going to be completely
transparent with you guys, it's really not your fault if you misunderstand what it means to pursue
because so many people are teaching you lies about what it means to pursue. And it's really not your
fault that they're teaching you the wrong things. So let me clear the air and briefly explain
what pursuing the right way entails. Pursuing her the right way means that you understand how to
read her signals. It involves the right mindset, it involves moving at the right pace. Pursuing her
means that you understand how to interact with her the right way and let her know you are interested
in her and attracted to her. It's flirting with her all in a way that builds attraction instead of
scares her away. Because chasing is a really good way to scare her away. Honestly this is why I love
teaching these principles in my program and to my clients. Because when you have the right mindset,
when you understand how to read her signals and how to be confident, all of these things, they're
insanely powerful, you guys, but they don't require any kind of mind games. This is how you
get the girl the right way. This is how you pursue the right way. But if instead you're pursuing the
wrong way, which is the way most people teach you, you're going to freak her out, guys. That's what's
going to cause her to pull away, that's what's going to cause her to lose interest, to walk away,
because it's freaking her out. So it's very important that if you're going to reattract her,
if you're going to stop being in that situation where women reject you and you have no idea why
you need to make sure you understand how to pursue the right way. This leads us into the next
mistake that will ruin her interest in in you. And this is not educating yourself about why women
pull away. Why does that even happen? If you don't understand it how are you going to prevent it? You
can't, right? So it's very important that you understand why women pull away. Now I do explain
this more in this video. There's a link in the description below if you haven't seen it yet.
Make sure you watch it. But I'm going to briefly sum up. Some of the most common reasons women pull
away are one, she's toxic. But I'm not teaching you how to attract toxic women so we're not gonna
go there in this video. But the most common reason, guys, is if you don't have those
dating and relationship basics, if you don't understand how to create a healthy relationship,
yeah, initially she's attracted to you but then she goes "wait, he doesn't know how to have a
healthy relationship. He's not going to make a good lifelong partner. I've got to go find someone
who will," so she loses interest. That makes sense though, right? If this keeps happening to you over
and over again, if you frequently have women who just lose interest or women who pull away, guys,
it's a sign that you need additional skills. It's as simple as that. I have a free masterclass for
you that's going to teach you the three biggest mistakes that cause you to stay alone forever,
that cause this vicious cycle to keep going. And I also teach you the three big secrets to instead
getting the girl of your absolute dream. So you want to make sure you know what's
in that masterclass, right? There's a link in the description below. I will also put a link in the
pinned comment. It's a completely free masterclass that's going to create some real clarity for you.
So if you're tired of being rejected, if you're tired of women pulling away, if you're tired of
being single and having so much to offer and not knowing why you're single, you need to make sure
you watch that free masterclass. Again there's a link in the description below. Okay, the next
thing you need to know about why women pull away and a huge huge mistake men make is being
too aggressive. A lot of people teach you that being too aggressive is pursuing. It's not. That's
a really good way to only attract toxic women. A lot of people will tell you that you have to be
dominant to win her heart. That's a bunch of nonsense, guys. She's looking for a real human
being to be in a relationship with. She's not looking for a bulldog, okay? Yes, I said it.
This is why again understanding the appropriate way to pursue her is critical. She wants a real
human being, not an overly aggressive bulldog. Now another thing that causes a lot of men to come
across way too aggressive is being committed to her emotionally before they're actually committed
to her. Something I mention in my program over and over again is, guys, do not marry her before you
marry her. It's very normal to meet somebody cute, to be attracted, and say "yes, she's the one."
But what that does is it puts a ton of pressure on her. She doesn't even know you yet,
she doesn't even know how she feels about you yet, because frankly, you guys haven't gotten to know
each other yet. And so until you're at the point where you should be in a relationship, you should
be committed, do not be committed. That will freak her out and cause her to pull away so fast. Is
this making sense? If this is making sense so far and frankly if you would like more videos
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The next thing you need to know about why you should never chase a woman when she pulls away is
a big mistake is being too needy. And chasing her can be very very needy, guys. Let's just talk for
a second about what makes a person needy. Well, someone is needy if they have low self-esteem,
someone is needy if they lack confidence, and frankly, if they're feeling desperate. Desperation
makes someone very very needy. They have no idea how to get their dream girl, they have no idea
what they're doing, nothing they've ever tried has worked, and they become desperate. Have you ever
felt that way? If you have it's a little normal so don't beat yourself up about it. But when you
rely on her for your feelings of self-worth, if you need constant approval and constant attention
and constant validation that is draining to her. That is exhausting to her. She meets a man who
can stand on his own two feet. And if you're needy you are pushing her away. So how do you fix this,
right? Because the obvious goal here is to fix it, to not be needy anymore. This is again why those
skills are so important and why gaining that confidence is so important. This is why I love
teaching people about confidence. When you are confident so many other things fall into place
naturally. When you're a confident person you are not a needy person. Make sense? Okay, the
next mistake that is very easy to make but causes her to pull away is being completely clueless
about how she pursues you too. I get comments all the time, guys, all the time, from men saying "why
do I have to put in all the work? Why do I have to do all the work?" Guys, you don't have to do all
the work. As a matter of fact if you do have to do all the work you're hanging out with the wrong
types of women, okay? What it comes down to is men and women both pursue. It just looks different,
right? Because men are masculine, women are feminine. God created us differently. So the way
she pursues you is going to look different from the way you pursue her. But just like I showed
you earlier in a healthy relationship there's that closeness, right? This means she is pursuing you
while you are pursuing her. If she's a classy woman, if she's a high quality woman,
then she's actively pursuing you. She's actively interested in you, she's actively invested in the
relationship and getting to know you better. She is just going to pursue you in a different way.
Now many men, they have no idea how to pick up on these signals. They have no idea how to know
that she's trying to pursue them too. I'm gonna be completely honest this is one of the benefits
of having a female coach, am I right? Now as a woman she thinks it's really obvious,
okay? She thinks she's being insanely obvious that she's interested. But if you don't know
how to pick up on that, ouch, that's rejection. She's hurt. She's really hurt. She's embarrassed,
she's mortified. Why did she even try? And so she's gonna go find somebody else. Somebody else
who does pick up on those signals and who does reciprocate the feelings she's trying to show.
So if you don't see those signs, yeah, she's going to pull away. And if you don't act fast
she's going to pull away permanently. If you want this vicious cycle to stop you need to
make sure you understand how women think and you understand how to read those signs and again how
to pursue appropriately. Okay, next up on why you should never chase a girl when she pulls away,
a huge huge mistake people make is trying to play games with her. Ignoring her, walking away, the no
contact rule, making her miss you. Guys, that's manipulation, okay? Those are mind games. How
in the world can you create a good relationship, a healthy relationship, a positive relationship,
by using negative games? You can't, can you? Want to know the way to lose a really good girl fast?
Play mind games with her. Toxic women love mind games. A lot of people teach you these mind game
tactics because they do work on toxic women. But toxic women aren't worth being in a relationship
with. You don't want a toxic relationship, do you? Then you want to avoid mind games because
they only work on toxic women. If you haven't yet seen this video make sure you watch it to
learn more about why. There is a link to watch in the description below. So what do you do instead?
When you start to feel her pull away it's hurtful, right? And you can become a little bit desperate.
And so sometimes mind games feel really appealing because it's kind of a quick fix that a lot of
people just hope "oh, I'll just ignore her for 90 days and then all of a sudden she'll love me
again." But what do you do instead? Because it doesn't work. All that's going to do is push her
further and further away from you. No matter what your dating or relationship challenge
or question is the answer is always that you need the right dating and relationship skills
and you need the right game plan. Your game plan is how to actually use those skills and use them
effectively. When you have the right skills and you have the right game plan dating and
relationships are fun, guys. They are simple, they are not complicated, they are automatic,
and attracting a classy high quality woman is easy. It's not something that you have to stress
over. Does that make sense? I teach you more about this in that free masterclass I told you about
so do make sure you watch it. There's a link in the description below and a link in the pinned
comment. Okay, let's sum up what you have learned already about why you should never chase a girl
when she pulls away and the mistakes that are going to ruin her interest in you. First up,
chasing never works, right? You don't want a relationship where one's running from the other,
right? You want a relationship where there's closeness. So anytime there is chasing involved
in a relationship it's not going to work. The next mistake is not understanding what pursuing should
actually look like. And again it's not your fault if you don't understand this because most people
teach you a lot of nonsense. But if you don't understand what pursuing should look like
it's going to cause you to push her away. And if you want to stop that, if you want to instead
have that closeness it's very important that you do know what appropriate pursuing is. The next
mistake is not educating yourself about why women pull away. You can't prevent it if you don't know
what's causing it, right? That just makes sense. Again if you do want to learn more about this
make sure you watch my free masterclass through the link in the description below.
It's going to help you so much with this. The next mistake is being aggressive. She doesn't
want someone who's dominant. Not if she's classy, not if she's a high quality woman. She's looking
for a real human being. Someone she can be in a happy healthy relationship with. Not a bulldog
who's always trying to be dominant. It's also important that you are not committed emotionally
before you're actually committed. This causes you to come across as aggressive, freaks her out,
and makes her pull away. Our next mistake is very similar and it's being needy. Now when you're
needy you can also be aggressive but neediness really comes from a low self-esteem. And it causes
you to always need her approval and her validation and it's exhausting to her, it's draining to her,
it's not an equal partnership, so she's done. The solution of course to this is getting that healthy
confidence and understanding again those basics of a healthy relationship. Another massive mistake is
being clueless about when she's pursuing too and what her signals look like. Women pursue
just like men it just looks differently. And if you don't know how to read that that's going to
cause her to pull away because she feels like it's rejection. So if you want to change that you need
to make sure you understand what it looks like when a woman is pursuing. Another massive mistake
is playing mind games with her. Making her miss you, trying the no contact rule, ignoring her,
all of these things, guys, they don't work. They only work on toxic women. So if you play those
mind games with her she's going to pull away farther and farther. And that's not what you
want. Instead again you need to understand those dating and relationship basics so you can instead
be a magnet for her instead of her pulling away. Thank you so much again for watching my wonderful
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