Hey playa!
Is there someone out there that you like so much that you just can't get them off of your mind?
They're all that you think about night and day?
Well that's the question that Alex Hudson asked when he said:
"How do you get rid of oneitis? I'm way into this girl
and I can't find a way to get over her".
Don't worry, Alex. There are a lot of people out there who suffer from oneitis,
and today I'm gonna share the cure with you.
For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh,
and every single Monday through Friday
I make videos sharing tips, ideas, and stories teaching you how to be your best self.
And "oneitis" is something that I've talked about in the past,
But it NEEDS to be revisited.
Some of you might not know what oneitis is, and you might be thinking,
"Is it deadly? Is it contagious?"
Don't worry- "Oneitis" is simply having strong feelings for one girl and only being able to focus on her.
And I don't mean just liking someone, I mean obsessively liking someone
to the point where it consumes you, it's all you think about, and you feel like you can't focus on anything else.
It sounds pretty serious, doesn't it? Don't worry. If you do feel that way, you're not alone.
There are so many guys and girls out there that feel this oneitis feeling,
but there is a way to get over it, and the reason for why you have oneitis usually varies,
but generally comes down to a person liking someone else but either not pursuing them
and never making it happen, or actually pursuing them and getting rejected, but still liking them.
First and foremost, I want you to know that there's nothing wrong with feeling this way
It's a pretty natural thing that happens.
Just because someone's rejected you doesn't mean your feelings just suddenly go away.
However, it tends to become a problem when you seek comfort in the
idea of still liking them, despite the fact that you know that they don't like you back
It's incredibly easy to just daydream or fantasize or just hold on to the hope that things would work out
But in doing that you're only hurting yourself
You're holding on to this one-sided relationship, and not allowing yourself to move on and grow.
Think about it like this:
Let's say a monkey is walking in the jungle and he comes across a dead tree. In that dead tree,
he sees a narrow little hole, and in that narrow little hole, he finds a bunch of berries.
Well, the monkey will naturally stick his hand in and try to grab the berries to pull them out,
but if the hole is too narrow, then his hand's gonna get stuck.
The monkey will sometimes stay there keeping his fists clenched,
knowing that he can't pull his hand out that way,
but not wanting to let go of the berries.
In this case, you gotta let go of the berries.
It's one thing if you have really intense feelings for someone,
and you've just never put into play the idea of the two of you
potentially going out.
It's a totally other thing when you know that they don't like you back,
and they don't want anything to do with you
So how do you get rid of oneitis, how do you get over that slump and move on from that person
100% completely?
Would you believe me if I told you that's impossible?
It's certainly possible that at one point you can lose all of your romantic feelings for someone
But the memories of how you felt will always be there
So what are you left with at the end of the day, then?
Well, if you choose the path of moving on, there are two things that are going to be required of you
One is going to be to stop talking to them stop communicating with them stop opening up to them
That'll help you stop thinking about them
And the second is to talk to other people you may not have any crushes on anyone else right now
But go out there and start networking start communicating start making more friends
You might develop crushes as you get to know other people better.
Now will the new feelings that you have for someone replace the old feelings you have for someone else?
Probably not,
but what it definitely will do is push your old feelings back further and further into your mind,
And that's the best that you can do. Just like with the flu shot, you have a little bit of the flu inside of you,
but it's not enough to make you sick,
and that's how your body is able to kind of cope with it,
manage it, and move on so that you don't catch the flu again.
Those feelings will linger,
And you'll probably think about that person from time to time. Hey-
You might even be going to school with that person and
see them so often that it's hard to just get them out of
your mind, but like I said, you have to move forward and you have to grow-
It's the only way you're gonna get over your oneitis.
What do you think, though?
Have you ever had oneitis for one of your crushes before?
leave your comments down below And we'll talk about
it if there's something on your mind,
And you want to talk to me about it in private,
you can always shoot me a DM over on Snapchat or Instagram
I do my best to answer as many messages as I can
before you head out though,
if you feel like that feeling of oneitis is still super strong in you,
definitely check out my friend zone playlist.
I go more in depth on how to move beyond someone,
how to let go, and how to start pursuing someone else so you don't
end up in the friend-zone or stuck with your oneitis feelings.
Definitely check out those videos, let me know what you guys think
As always love
and peace :)