- Time of the year it is?
It's that time!
People are making resolutions
It's almost the New Year,
How have you not known this, have you been living under a rock?
But today we're gonna talk about New Years Resolutions, now you know
That I hate them.
But you know what I do love?
Self-improvement. That's right, I love it.
And so today we're gonna talk about making those New Years Resolutions stick.
Now the first tip for self-improvement that I wanna offer is setting daily or weekly goals.
Setting yearly goals is just overwhelming from the get-go.
365 days is way too much to commit to on the 1st of January.
That already makes me wanna stop doing something, that's way too much.
So I would encourage you instead to look at weeks
And days, and things that you wanna slowly improve.
And I think making those goals small and achievable will help keep you motivated and make you feel good about yourself,
Which is the whole point of self-improvement.
And my second tip: Stay away from all-or-nothing goals.
The 100% or nothing, the black and white thinking
It's not good, it's terrible, it makes us feel bad
And then if we do one thing wrong, we're like, "Ah, fuck it, it's all done."
"I'm over this, I can't do this."
And that just leaves us feeling worse.
And so I would encourage you to change small things.
And know that if it doesn't quite go perfectly, we can try again tomorrow, because guess what?
We're making daily and weekly goals, not year goals, it's not all-or-nothing.
We don't have to just do it every day or nothing at all,
Make it small and achievable.
Because making it all-or-nothing just ends up making everything worse.
And the third thing, and what I think is actually the most important:
Make sure your goals are something you actually want to do.
Otherwise, it just feels like more work.
Make sure that you set - If there is a goal that feels more work-like to you,
But you still find it really important and really wanna do it,
Make sure that you also set a goal that's really fun.
I want to be more social, or I really want to try rock climbing, or I really want to take a ceramics class.
Whatever it is, make sure that's it's something that you really want to do, and that you're in -
Like, completely interested in.
Otherwise, you're just giving yourself more work, and it gives you all the more reason to not wanna do it.
And the fourth tip: enlist a friend and a group in it. (sings) *Dede!*
Things are so much more fun with other people, and also it keeps us more motivated.
When we have someone else that calls us like, "Hey,
"Are you drinking those 8 glasses of water that we're trying to do this week?" And they check in on you?
You're like, "Oh yeah"
And you're more apt to do it. And also,
It's just more fun. And then it also gives us another reason to socialize and spend time with those that we love.
Win, win, win, win!
And the fifth and final tip to help with self-improvement, AKA make the resolution stick:
Write them down.
We find that actually writing things out and seeing it (sings) *Ah!*
Helps our brain absorb our goals, helps us realize the things we're writing down, and holds us accountable better.
It's like our brain will all of a sudden bubble up and be like, "Hey, remember? We're doing that thing, we wrote it down.
"I read it, I saw, I saw you do it."
And it reminds us, and it helps us keep better on track.
Also, you can put it up where you see it every day, and then that's just another reminder.
So that it keeps you motivated, keeps you excited
And I would encourage you to cross them out or check them when you're done
Because that really keeps me going.
Cause I'm like, "Hey, I've done 3 of the 5 things I wanna do this week, yay!"
And I can get super, super excited.
I hope that this was helpful, I know New Year's can be really annoying and everybody's wanting to do certain resolutions
That people do every year after year and they never do them.
But this is a way for us all to better ourselves, because we're all works in progress, right?
It's a process, not perfection.
And in the spirit of getting more people involved and having a group and friends involved in the resolutions
and self-improvement, I'm gonna share with you a few of the things that I'm gonna work on this year.
And the first is, I'm going to be nicer to myself.
I know that sounds silly but, you know, things aren't easy for me, I'm not perfect either,
And sometimes I do get caught in those negative thought cycles
And so I'm gonna be a little gentler on myself, and know that I can make mistakes,
I can mess up in videos, I can say things that are silly or not true, or tweet things that are not spell checked.
I can do all of those things. And so, this year in 2017, I'm going to try to be a little bit nicer and I'm actually going to practice what I preach a little bit more.
And every night I'm going to try to say some positive things and things that I'm grateful for.
And the second thing that I'm working on is that I wanna get outdoors more.
I don't know if any of you know this, but when Sean and I met, we used to go outdoors, like, every weekend.
And I just miss it. I miss the quiet, I miss the smell of the trees, I miss going to Mammoth.
And if any of you are OG viewers, you know I used to go all the time.
And we just don't have the time anymore.
Well, I'm gonna make that time, and I wanna get outside, and I wanna do things, and so
My goal is to do that more often, and I'm gonna set weekly ones, like this week I'm gonna do it
These aren't, like, yearlong goals, but overall, this is what I'm working on.
And the third and final thing is I want to go on more dates with my husband.
Because often we have work events, we have things at night and I have meetings, and he's doing this and that,
And I just want to spend time with him where we don't talk about work, we just hang out.
How nice would that be?
Those are things that I'm looking forward to, and things that I'm working on.
So share in the comments: What are some of the things that you're working on?
What are some of the things that you're looking forward to in 2017?
And I'd love it if you held me accountable. Check in on me throughout the year.
Ask me how these resolutions are going.
Because it's really important that we work together towards a healthy mind and a healthy body.
I'm wishing you all a wonderful New Year filled with lots of love and adventure.
*Kissing noises*
Bye!
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