The easiest way to build self confidence - there's no magic button.
Repetition Repetition Repetition.
I did my speech, I practiced in front of the mirror.
Da da da da dadadada - Hey I'm sounding good!
And then I went in front of my kids, then I get in front of the Glen Gool, Oh my goodness
I'm a little more nervous.
By the time I get to the ACG, I won't have a single ounce of nervousness because of my
ability to practice.
How many of us bail after the first bit of failure?
JK Rowling - you know how many publishers she took her Harry Potter book to?
I believe the number was 12 or 13?
I mean 12 times somebody said No.
Maybe it shouldn't be repetition, maybe the answer should be persistence.
So that's one way to build self confidence.
The other one is self talk.
We all have a self talk tape that plays in our head.
If you're a woman, the first thing that always comes: Damn I look fat in these pants.
And if you're a man, it's the opposite.
- Oh God I have no muscle I'm so flabby.
We need to get our own self affirmations.
Muhammad Ali, what was his self affirmation?
"I am the greatest!"
Who else is going to tell you?
We need to reaffirm: I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate.
How do you build self confidence?
Get away from the people who will tear you down.
There's enough of that.
Because I make enough mistakes and people around me will recognize it and they'll tear
me down and pretty soon I'll begin to believe it.
There was a time when my confidence was really low.
I had to bring out my self confidence letter.
Ivan, congratulations on getting your PhD before 40.
Good job on raising three good kids and marrying the right woman.
If you'll watch, you'll see some athletes, they'll have a little bandage or a little
band around them.
Lance Armstrong's a perfect one.
Livestrong.
He would move that from one arm to the next arm when doubt and fear came into his mind.
We are coaches or educators, we are teachers, we are people who will create value in the
world.
I am a coach, I want you to score a goal.
Ball went over high.
Dangit!
The ball went high!
Thank you coach, I know that...
Ignore what Johnny does wrong and find Bob or Sally or Frida over here.
Great goal, Frida!
I love how you kept your knee low, you followed through, great job!
Johnny's not demoralized, his confidence isn't shot and what I've done is built up Frida's.
Catch them when they're good.
We forget it, it's simple!
Last and certainly not least.
Self confident people interpret feedback the way they choose to.
I asked my son, how was the game?
Oh great!
I scored three goals I got two assists!
I'm like I did not see him touch the puck!
But he has his own perception of how he did!
If I could give you one thing to take from this, it is: No one will believe in you unless
you do.
We're supposed to be different, folks.
And when people look at us, believe in yourself.
Thank you.