Hey there, Adam LoDolce from SexyConfidence.com where I help the 21st century woman create
the love life that she absolutely loves.
And in this video right now I'm going to be talking about the 3 qualities that you must
absolutely have to keep a man interested in you and the relationship.
Keep watching.
Alright, so think of this scenario.
You meet a guy on Match.com, things are going really well, he's clearly very attracted to
you, and you followed the Sexy Confidence principles and things are going really, really
well.
And then before you know it, suddenly you find yourself in a relationship.
Now, if you're like most people, that transition from being single to a relationship can be
really f****** hard.
When you're single you get to do what you want, when you want, how you want it.
And then suddenly when you're in a relationship, your needs and your wants suddenly get kind
of cut in half and now you're focusing on that other person's needs and that other person's
wants.
Now, ideally in a healthy relationship or a strong relationship you focus on their needs,
they focus on your needs, then those two things put together make both of you much happier
than you ever were when you were single.
But without keeping in mind these 3 qualities, then that transition from single to a relationship
might be really, really hard and that could result in what I call an UBU: acronym for
unnecessary break up.
When a new relationship suddenly turns to s*** because one or both people in the relationship
refuse to transition from a selfish single mentality to a relationship focused lifestyle.
No one wants an UBU.
So here are those three qualities to keep in mind to avoid the UBU.
1.
Number one is adaptability.
That dude that you just met on Match.com, he might be in a great place in his life right
now or a not so great place in his life.
And then it's going to change.
He's either going to go to an even better place or maybe even a worse place and life
is just going to change.
And you need to expect this.
The guy that you're with right now will not be the same guy in 2 years.
I think I need a new job.
In 10 years.
I definitely need a motorcycle.
In 20 years.
What's the point of life?
In 30 years.
I'm old
Those of you who resist change and think that everything's going to stay the same are going
to constantly find themselves unhappy in life and relationships because people change and
thus, your relationship will always change.
Remain adaptable.
Now, sometimes relationships change to the point where they no longer even make sense
for you anymore.
I hate everyone and everything.
Baby, you want to move to Thailand to poach baby monkeys?
I think I'm gay.
Clearly when those things happen, you just move on and find a new guy.
Don't be adaptable in those situations.
2.
The second quality is empathy.
Empathy is simply just having awareness of the feelings of other people.
And I find that that's one of the hardest parts of transitioning from being single to
being in a relationship is realizing that you're now dealing with not just one set of
feelings, your own set of feelings, but now two set of feelings that sometimes just don't
really line up with one another.
I want to spend more time with my family.
I really think I hate your family.
When that happens, it's absolutely paramount that you're able to relate to your partner's
feelings or else we all know what's going to happen.
It's not going to work out.
So if you find a situation where you're clearly in disagreement and you're not really sure
how to resolve the situation, just simply ask yourself, "How would I feel if this happened
to me?"
and just try to put yourself in their shoes as much as humanly possible.
And just being aware of this, you're so far beyond most people in relationships who only
think of themselves and their own feelings.
3.
And number three is self awareness.
Self awareness is really just having kind of a clear understanding of your own personality.
Both your strengths, but also your weaknesses and being able to kind of step outside of
yourself when you're being kind of an ass.
I'm going to make her real jealous tonight.
I'm going to flirt with girls right in front of her and then she'll know how I really feel.
Dude, Adam, stop being such a conniving asshole.
If you're really feeling jealous right now about how she's making you feel, just have
an open dialogue with her and tell her how you feel.
Being able to step outside of yourself and your own negative tendencies is the only way
that you'll be able to learn and grow as a person.
Step outside of yourself and say, "You know what?
That shit I did right there?
Not cool.
I'm going to learn from this and grow from it as a person."
So there you have it, those are the three qualities that you must have in order to find
and keep a great relationship and a great guy in your life.
So I hope you enjoyed this and if there's one of these that really relate to you I'd
love to hear from you right there in the comments, right there below.
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