- Heya playa.
Most likely, you've already entered that age
where you're starting to feel hormonal
and you don't really know what to do about it.
Well, that's the question that HeadlessHorseman
asked me when he said, "Can you do a video
"on how to avoid sexual feelings in high school
"or something like that?
"I don't want to date, I don't want that now,
"but I'm just hormonal, so what do I do?"
There's a lot of people out there who just
wanna focus on their schoolwork and getting
by in school and don't wanna deal
with the dating thing yet, but they have these feelings.
I'm gonna share what you can do about them right after this.
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Now, dealing with hormones doesn't have to be a problem.
You can work with it or you can work against it.
You could look at those natural feelings
that are developing and tell yourself,
"This is wrong, this is bad, I shouldn't
"have them," but the truth of the matter
is that they're going to come anyway.
That's why I think you should look at it
as a sign of growth.
As you get older, you're gonna naturally
start developing feelings for other people
in different kinds of ways.
Now just because you have the feelings
doesn't mean you actually have to act on them.
Developing a sense of self-control
might be something you wanna do.
In HeadlessHorseman's case, that's exactly
what he wants to do.
He doesn't wanna have to worry about
a relationship or dating right now,
he wants to just do his own thing.
Doing your own thing can have a lot
of different meanings though.
On one end, it could just mean that you don't
wanna settle down and be in a relationship.
Maybe you wanna talk and flirt and date
other people, but on the other end it might
just be complete celibacy.
If you're on the side where you just don't want
a relationship, that's okay.
Just make sure that whenever you're flirting
or interacting with someone where
it's potentially leading to something
to let them know where you stand,
that you're not looking to date anyone.
Now if you're on the other side, where you don't
want any kind of sexual interaction with anyone
or in any way, I would say take on the NoFap Challenge.
For those of you that don't know,
the NoFap Challenge is choosing a set period
of time and deciding not to masturbate in it.
Some people that take on the NoFap Challenge
say that it helps them maintain
their sense of concentration.
When you start to pull yourself away
from watching porn or thinking about sex,
your mind starts to focus on other things
that you can prioritize.
Let's be real though.
It doesn't mean that sexual thoughts
are poof, completely gone.
It really requires a bit of effort on your end,
hence why it's called a challenge.
For you though, you might actually want the opposite.
Instead of dating people, you wanna just take
care of yourself so you don't have to worry
about interpersonal relationships, and you can
just focus on school and getting your own
kind of gratification.
I personally think that it is possible to date
and interact with people while also staying
focused on schoolwork.
It really just comes down to setting the right
kind of boundaries that work for you.
One of the reasons why people are sometimes
scared to date while they have big things
to worry about for school is that they're afraid
that their minds are gonna get sucked into that.
They're always gonna be thinking about
their relationship, they're always gonna
be thinking about girls or guys, and they're not
gonna actually be able to concentrate.
Hormonal feelings really start to kick in
when you're a teen.
That's why choosing the right path
has to come down to what you really want
out of the equation.
Take the NoFap Challenge if you really want
to concentrate on things that aren't sexual in nature.
There are tons of people who post videos
about their own challenges, how many days
they're doing it, and their whole experience
through the process.
Or let fapping be your outlet if you don't really
wanna have any sexual interactions
or date anyone at the time.
Now I do have to say though that I do think
it's healthy and important to form relationships
with people, to connect with them, to interact,
and to see how you can develop sexual things in the future.
So even if you're not gonna date right now,
it is still important to build on those sexual
interactive skills, that way when you get older
you're not jumping into the game and you find
yourself being socially awkward in some way.
And the third option is to find a way
to balance dating and schoolwork.
It is possible.
I have tons of videos talking about how to focus
on schoolwork and how to focus on dating.
Take the best of both of those worlds
and put them together.
What do you think though?
Is dating or being in a relationship something
that's on your mind?
Could you ever imagine yourself taking
the NoFap Challenge?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
I'm sure if you have questions, there's a lot
of details that maybe you don't wanna
make public, so you can always shoot me a DM
over on Snapchat or Instagram.
I do my best to answer as many messages as I can.
Thank you so much for watching.
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Let me know down in the comment section below.
I wanna make more videos talking about
these things, things like the NoFap Challenge,
how to really balance schoolwork and dating.
I think these are important topics to cover,
so let me know what you guys wanna see.
I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.