What's up Rach
Very excited seriously, what's up, but? I'm a little bit nervous. I'm scared the uncertainty of everything I do
Last time rich, and I spoke I've made the point of telling her what my family dynamic was
And she seemed to take it with an open mind, but it's a little nerve-racking you look amazing
Thank you ever since my mother passed away when I was 15. I've essentially done everything on my own
Ivan's my father in two years you're giving my brother's Brad and Ross
Brad's girlfriend Ashley, and my sister sky, you're gonna be my father
He's a converted Kundalini yogi
Like Sikh so he like you know wears a turban and I was like a beard done his bellybutton his name is param Roop
Say it again param Roop. Ha what does he want me to call him Parham Roop parm room?
Yeah, it means divinely beautiful, and it's itself given name so that speaks a little bit to
But this is new as of six years ago
So like he's not the father that I had growing up like this is new
Essentially you're gonna meet his wife whose name is sent on tire. It's entire tax lien sent on fire suntan tar
I only met her like twice which would be there all right?
And and it's gonna be interesting because you will be the first woman to meet my entire family under one roof
I am
But thank you for being here with me of course it's gonna be awful. It's gonna be fine. Just I'm good right
I'm gonna be right here
So Tonto isn't it, but you weren't in there
Bob and there's that squad
Waiting for King Dean where's the table that why are we on the floor?
These are for you
Thank you for having me this
Is the organic seed to Spade gloves that pops hey? There's skinny one my father was once a very traditional, man
he has since converted to be a Sikh of some sort and
I'm suppressing every single emotion that I'm trying to feel just keeping it down buried as far as far as I can go so
Welcoming
Thanks for welcoming us into your home you're quite welcome
I played the gong it's kind of a neat thing and the gong is an energetic cleaning
It's a wonderful sound so I'd like to share that with you, and I'd like everybody's head pointed that way to the God
so this is quite different of an experience, but enjoy it, just just kind of let yourself go and
Hold it right there hold it hold it hold it as long as you came and exhale now
Dean's hometown is it like anybody else's just because they're not your typical family
No, but I kind of like this the energy felt good to me
I mean everyone was very welcoming accepting very excited to see myself Dean what you got there dad
Also, I was thinking about how I could welcome you Rachel. You know you're this guest of honor
I guess says you would say tonight, but also my children
I believe are the culmination of my wife's there mom she did pass a decade little over a decade ago and
Debbie when she passed on you knew she had told us that feathers would be actually her little sign, so I
Thought it is as the as the Debbie feather because she was the most amazing woman except for my wife
Today that I've ever experienced I mean we're married 27 years, and she was an incredible lady
So these are just symbols of just the love that she gave us
That I want to share and welcome you to wherever it takes you and for life, so let me share that with you
So thank you so much
Thank pops your client welcome. Thank you both really you're amazing people so let me share that
He doesn't cry so
James dad presented us with feathers and said what they meant?
He got very emotional about Dean's mom and I was not expecting that I love
Symbolic things and I thought it was beautiful that he incorporated something from the past
with the president
And it kind of had a little bit to do with the future - I thought it was absolutely beautiful
Dean's told me that he hadn't talked to his dad in a really long time like almost two years
How's their relationship I?
Think I just had to with my mom's passing and not being there yeah like at all
and so I think that's like the biggest thing and
There's this anger it takes time to
be able to say it to that person, and so I don't think that they've actually said that to each other yet, so
Need to have that talk maybe today Dean's been through a lot of stuff in his life
And he's been really strong through all of that stuff. I've actually admired him because
It's okay
He's been through a lot, and she's always been like the strongest person
I've been really weak and so to see him sense so strong
It's really cool. I really admired about him so much I
Mean don't forget
I've seen you since you've been like you know that big so and you know and just to see the leaps and bounds of progress
It's pretty cool. So essentially it's like oh, I must be a pretty great dad because lick it my son
You know do you feel like yourself applying things as a father?
What
Do you feel like as a father yourself fulfilling things
With you I hardly talk to you or Ross. I mean Brad
I ache to talk to mark Asian Lee do you earn the disagreements that we had when I was high school though after mom passed
Away, how things were yes
And do you think that you and I have changed substantially from those arguments that we've had
Well III didn't have the arguments you did
But do you understand my frustration at that point. No how could I understand your frustration? I have no idea
What is like to you?
I have no idea what it's like to lose their mom do you think you stepped in a full right after mom passed away to?
Be my father though
Absolutely you don't understand why I was angry at you in those times no
I mean I I worked my ass off to get you through school
We were there financially you were supportive right I guess my biggest gripe with everything is when mom passed away
I was a 15 year old my most vulnerable state my life and
My father my brother is my sister like none of us came together and like came into like a moment of solidarity and be like
Hey like this sucks for all of us like let's
Be with each other and like let's build off of this there was never that moment
Well
You're correct, and I was I was angry. I mean I was really angry away and mom dying. We're all I
Remember the exact moment Tuesday morning 6 a.m.. My TV was off. I was on the left side
I remember every single thing about that moment
He walked into my room you sat on my bed
And you put your hand on my shoulder and you said Dean mom died 30 minutes ago
I remember exactly deal with it literally which I don't even want to get into it says please. I would love you
I've never gotten into you with into at that point that we're both adults at this point that I'm
26 years old I am an adult
And I can you understand okay whoa sorry
It was horrible watching your mother die watch her stop eating watch her shrivel
Just to see herb get smaller and smaller and smaller and all my life
I did everything I could do to try to make the best life for the family
That was what that was what I did I mean, and then your mom stayed home and created the best family life
That was possible here - good - so right she did it was an amazing thing
That's why I was angry because it ended it was over. It was gone
I don't know like it's hard if you even talk about the like I
I
Didn't love you. Is that what you trying to say?
I had a very loved by your father's that were you saying it wasn't as maternal as it may be you
In hindsight need it to be because I didn't know how to do it. I didn't know how to do anything
I was just like I had never been a mom I'd never had a new attic cook
I almost like knew how to do is go out and make money, right?
But there's still like a lot of moments where like I personally felt abandoned if you really feel that way
And if you really think that was my purpose, then there's really no need to carry this conversation
I mean really sure
Because of my teaching we believe the other person is you so whatever you think of me is really of what you think of yourself
No, I was quite angry at my dad, but my dad took off
I never saw the son of a bitch that I'm trying to work those with you
But you're allowing you're not allowing me to like you're being stubborn to the point where you're not allowing us to work
What is there to work through Dean?
I'm here. Honoring you I've come and I've opened my house up
And I and I certainly welcome the whole idea of of whatever it is that you you want to do
And I'm certainly and I get that I appreciate you opening your house into accepting mine and Rachel's experience right now, but like you
You're closing yourself off
And it's like it's a it's it's disallowing us to have a relationship like but you and your coming out and making such such bold
Statements that I didn't care that I wasn't there you've admitted to not being there absolutely how's that a bold statement when it's true
Well fine because you're still living there obviously you still got one foot stuck in the past
Yeah, okay fine. I I give up
My good a blessings Dean
And I do wish she's the best theory maybe thought I look there I love you regardless whatever
Tonight was tough for me Ian for Rachel to be there through this every step of the way it allowed me to
Really, see you know who she is
Alright, I know that what her and I have is powerful and it feels great
It's up to Rachel
You guys
This has been a very very hard week for me
because all of you guys are so great and
making the decision that I have to tonight has not been easy and
To the person that I have to say goodbye to tonight
I'm so sorry and I
Want you to know that I believe you are an absolutely amazing person and
I'm so sorry that I have to do this
Dean I'm sorry take a moment say your goodbyes
Dean Unglert takes Rachel Lindsay to meet his estranged Sikh convert father on this emotional hometown on The Bachelorette US Season 13.