all right so today we get to talk about one of my favorite people
which is jordan peterson we're going to talk about what i've learned from jordan peterson
that has helped me get out of porn and masturbation addiction i'm a huge fan
i've listened to probably thousands of hours of george jordan peterson content whether it's
podcast videos got his books right here reading his books i i just i love what he's got to say
and a lot of his principles have really helped me in lots of areas of my life
and so today i want to share some things and share some things that i learned and that i applied to
getting sober from porn and masturbation so let's just get started so rule number one
compare yourself to who you were yesterday not to who someone else is today i'll say that again
compare yourself to who you were yesterday not to who someone else is today so there's a common
problem with a lot of guys that are trying to get out of porn and masturbation addiction right
the problem is is the shame cycle okay so we go a week we go a month we go a few months whatever
it is and then boom a stressor happens and we relapse right and then we get this thought in our
head okay well i've already blown the two months that i've been sober i might as well binge right
and that's one of the worst things that you can do binging is so bad and so with this principle one
of the things that i've applied to myself in my thinking on getting and staying sober has has been
comparing myself to who i was yesterday not who i am today so if i relapsed yesterday well i need to
get sober today yesterday doesn't matter yesterday was yesterday today is the day that i need to be
sober and if i was sober yesterday my job today is to make myself even better so that i can stay
sober today and be sober tomorrow as well right so compare yourself to who you were yesterday not
to who someone else is today right number two work as hard as you possibly can on at least one thing
and just see what happens i've applied this principle to like so many things in my life
so sobriety the reason that i am doing this right now that i'm talking to people that
i'm trying to help people get sober is because i wanted to become an expert at sobriety i was
already an expert at addiction i knew plenty about addiction because i was addicted for so long to
porn and masturbation and all these things right so i needed to become an expert on sobriety so i
listened to podcasts i read books i went to school i did all these things so that i could be sober
and then now i can help other people get and stay sober as well i did it in my career when i worked
at a bank one of the things that when i heard this principle was i was working in a career i
didn't love i was like you know what i'm going to work as hard as i possibly can
and see what happens and what happened i started getting promotions i started getting opportunities
to make extra money i started getting opportunity to impact how the direction of the bank i got all
these opportunities because i just picked a thing and i worked as hard as i possibly could at it
right now i'm working at chess because i love chess but i'm not the best but i'm working at
it every day to be just a little better so it doesn't matter if it's you want to pick
sobriety your career or a hobby pick a thing get really good at it because all the time you spend
on chess or getting better at your career or sobriety is that much less time that you spend
looking at porn or wanting to look at porn right okay so number three do not do what you hate now
this rule seems kind of obvious but i'll tell you people don't follow this rule in their lives
let's talk jobs specifically so people work jobs that they hate right they dread going to work
every week sunday is a problem because like man i got to go in tomorrow and i just don't want to go
in because they hate the job they're working right so i was just talking about the bank job i didn't
love the bank job i did my best at it but then i began building ways to transition out of that job
right i went to part time i started taking classes when i went into school full time
then i reached out to dr lee so that i could start working for her and now i'm doing school
and i'm working and i'm pursuing something i'm actually interested in something i actually
enjoy doing you can do the same thing you can do the same thing as me okay i'm not special
you can say hey i'm going to make a lateral move i'm going to move to a job where i'm getting paid
about the same and benefits are about the same but it's doing things that i'm more interested
in at the company i'm in or you've got to do the hard thing of like finding a job at a different
company and finding a position that you would actually enjoy some people got to do the difficult
thing of actually taking a demotion of taking a hit on their salary so that they can do a career
that they actually enjoy doing i understand it's complicated i understand that people have families
and they have responsibilities but you have to find a way to begin doing things that you actually
enjoy doing okay the last principle that i want to talk about the last rule is actually something
i covered in my last video but i'm gonna i'm gonna we're gonna call it a bonus rule today
just because i've taken it so seriously and i love it so much which is tell the truth or
at least don't lie if you read any material on addictions if you listen to podcasts or any of
this you'll you'll know that a common theme in a lot of these materials is to tell the brutal truth
you have to do it that's what it requires to get and stay sober so i love that rule that he says
tell the truth or at least try not to lie okay at the very least all right so if you need any help
with getting out of porn addiction or masturbation addiction if you if you want some help i'm here to
help you you can click on the links below i'm a coach i work for dr trish lee at porn brain
rewire and i would love to help you overcome this thing that you've been wanting to work on for so
long that you've been wanting to get rid of for so long i'm i'm here to guide you through that okay
so click on it sign up i would love to help you okay thanks for watching we'll see you soon