- Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to my channel
and my second cup of coffee.
Today we're gonna be talking about how for the INFJ,
life tends to be kind of a string of disappointments.
That's just how our brain is wired
but there's a good side to it.
I mean, actually the good side probably outweighs the bad
but there's a double-edged sword to everyone's strength
if you're going by the Myers-Briggs thing.
Your main function is giving you this big superpower
no one else has
but then you're extremely deficient in this other way
that ends up causing issues in your life.
So when you go to all these MBTI sites
with the cute cartoon characters
and the questionable celebrity types for each one,
the INFJ is often called the counselor or the mystic
or the seer or the visionary.
What they're saying is that INFJs
because of that introverted intuition,
they're always looking into the future.
We can see what's probably gonna happen
and we can also see what could happen
if we do other things now.
That's why these sites call the INFJ the vision,
whatever, blah, blah, blah
because I didn't even say any real words there,
they call us the visionaries and all that
because that's our place in society.
Society needs us to be out there visionarying,
visioning, they need,
society needs us out there to help other people
to see where we can go to a better place.
INFJs man, we're very idealistic
which opens us up to being hurt all the time
but the world needs idealistic people
'cause it's, man, it's a cynical world.
So being a visionary could either be,
these sites, what kills me about it is that they,
like every type,
I don't know who's writing this stuff but every type
it's like this type would be great to lead a movement
or to be an agent for social change
and it's like, well, if everyone is like that then
and then they'll hold up these huge figures
like Martin Luther King and Gandhi and it's like well,
I don't, I don't want to be a big leader like that.
Yeah, INFJ could be as big of a thing
as I can see where we all as humanity need to go
but it could also be you work at a small company
and you can see oh, this is what we can do
to go into new uncharted territory
or it could be just with your friend
and you're counseling your friend
and saying if you keep dating these kind of girls,
you're gonna keep ending up in these same crappy situations.
All right, so a lot of this ability we have
comes from taking reality
and then turning it into these abstract concepts
to the point where
perhaps we don't really interact with reality
as much as we interact with the forms in our brain.
It's like we have the entire universe in our mind
translated into these ideas
and then when we come across actual reality,
we're like huh, this is a little different
than what is in my mind and so this is why for an INFJ
life can be one disappointment after another
because you've constructed the future
with all these abstract ideas.
You've created the perfect idealistic thing in your brain
about what the future's gonna be
and then it doesn't happen because it's reality.
It's not your mind, it's not the abstract in your brain.
This is how my whole life has been.
I remember being in third grade and being disappointed
'cause I thought it was gonna be so much better
than it turned out to be.
I'm like, well, third grade sucked.
My second grade self was so naive and idealistic.
Thought college would be one way, it wasn't.
I thought relationships would be one way, they weren't.
The world is such a vivid place.
Maybe almost oversaturated in my imagination
where that intuition is.
The world, the universe, how it works makes so much sense
and it's like this beautiful tapestry
of interconnected meanings
and then I come face to face with reality
and it's like this grainy, desaturated,
messed up version of what's in my brain.
It can make you constantly disappointed, constantly hurt
and like you don't even want to venture out into reality
because you know, after a while you learn
this ain't, my mind, there's a disconnect
between my brain and the world.
There's a big disconnect.
It affects all parts of our lives really.
Maybe this is why a lot of us
feel like we're struggling to relate to other people
because we build up this thing in our mind
of what people are.
Oh, people are this and then we meet people
and we're like, oh, they're not that
or even like oh, I am this
and then it turns out I'm not that in reality
which is perhaps the most shocking thing of all
to really dive into yourself
and realize that you don't even match up
with your idea of yourself.
How messed up is that, man?
But at least we can recognize it and then we can,
I think that's why we are obsessive about self-improvement
is because we never really live up
to our expectations of ourselves
and we're constantly disappointed by the reality
and it seems to me that there's no way to fix it
except to just remind yourself
that what's in my imagination is not real life
and it serves a purpose but I can't let it dictate
my expectations for what reality is going to be.
You just have to realize that there is that disconnect
and you need, you don't wanna kill your idealism,
you don't wanna kill your ability
to see what things could be
but you also have to just be conscious and aware of it
that that's not how things are.
Temper it a little bit.
Learn to not be so disappointed with reality
by just tempering your expectations.
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