- What's up buttercup?
Oh man in today's video we are gonna be spilling the tea,
spilling hot tea everywhere, all over the place.
All over the table.
Might spill down your pants a little bit.
A few months ago I did an award winning video called
what I can't stand about each of the 16 personalities,
a card above my head.
Whoa!
But that video was a lot more subjective.
Like what I can't stand.
How, how am I personally offended
and affronted by each of the 16 personalities.
Today this is gonna be a bit more like what are the actual
weaknesses of the types that make them come across in ways
that it's just like, I gotta,
I gotta talk to somebody about this man,
I gotta spill the tea on all of them.
So stay tuned to hear me spill the tea
on all 16 personalities, including your personality type.
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Okay, let's start spilling some tea.
And now of course quick disclaimer,
just because you happen to be one of these types doesn't
mean you necessarily have this issue.
This is just something that will crop up at scale
with each of these personality types.
Okay, first up, first person getting the tea
spilled on them.
I don't know what this is all about.
ISTJs.
Well you guys know I'm an ISTJ confirmed
based on the 16 personalities.com test card right here.
Oh, you know what ISTJ's do that is like, so cringey
and like everyone's like what are they doing?
A lot of times they fail to express any interest
in other people or any interest in connecting
with other people.
Sometimes it's like what's going on with the ISTJs?
Do they recognize us as living human beings
or are we just things to be sorted
and organized according to their logical ways.
Next we're spilling the tea on the ESTP.
ESTPs man.
Don't get me started.
Have you seen how they get like so upset,
like ridiculously upset when their patience is tested
a little bit.
Like when they're kind of stuck in a situation
where there's like, not a lot of mental stimulation,
they'll just like freak out and be like
this is the worst thing ever, this is terrible,
there's nothing to do right now, I'm so bored.
I mean everyone gets irritated
when those kinds of things happen,
but for an ESTP they act like it's the end of the world
and like it will never get better.
Moving on let's talk some smack about ISTPs.
ISTPs way overconfident sometimes.
They'll just be like yeah I got it under control.
I understand everything, I know exactly what's going on.
I'm just going to take this leap out here and do this thing,
get it done my way, I know what I'm doing.
And then they just crash and burn.
Everyone's like, wait, stop, please.
I'm not sure that you know what you're doing
and they didn't listen.
Then they'll be kind of hurt.
They'll be like you guys weren't looking out for me.
I can't rely on you.
I've got to keep relying on myself,
which ironically is what got me into that mess
in the first place.
Tea spilled.
Let's spill the tea on the ESTJs shall we?
ESTJs sometimes lose sight of the long term.
They see the task that needs to be completed now.
And all the people that they need to get in line
to get the task done.
And they will just like obliterate all of them
in order to get it done.
Not really thinking about hey,
in the longterm, everyone's gonna hate me.
They will just burn down all of these bridges
and then at the end be like, well, we got,
we got it done guys.
Didn't we, aren't you glad we got it done?
Even though I, you know, made you feel bad the whole time.
Next up spilling the tea on the ESFJ.
ESFJ is usually very nice and friendly to people,
but they have a very immovably judgemental side
where they will just zone in on one person and be like
that guy is a bad guy.
And you'll ask them to explain it and they as you expect to
hear like, oh, he a, that guy killed someone.
That guy embezzled millions of dollars.
That guy is a Philadelphia sports fan.
Okay Frank, you didn't need to go there,
but you'll ask VSFJ and they'll just be like I don't know.
I just don't get a good feeling, bad guy right there.
And it could be really tough to like talk them out
of that opinion they formed for basically no reason.
Now let's spill the tea on the ESFPs.
Ooh honey, those ESFPs.
How do I say this?
They believe weird stuff.
These types can be so superstitious,
like the most superstitious of all the types.
And so when things happen,
they're like aware of what's happening.
And then they'll come up with this really weird explanation
of why, what's going on behind the scenes.
Something a little bit out of the ordinary will happen
like I don't know,
a door shuts because of a draft in the house.
And they'll be like that was a ghost.
Or they'll like go out and party.
And the next day be feeling a little bit hung over
and be like it's 'cause Mercury's in retrograde dude.
It don't make no sense.
Now let's spill the tea.
I'm not, look like I'm gonna pour the drink.
I'm not.
Can you even see it, 'cause it's a green cup.
Let's spill the tea on the ISFP.
Ah, nah, don't, don't even go there man.
ISFPs, they got it coming.
ISFPs will just say inappropriate stuff.
And then they'll like laugh about it.
It's almost like they don't realize what they're saying is
inappropriate or is making other people like feel weird.
They'll just say stuff that they think
is entertaining or amusing.
And everyone else is like, why did you do that?
Or they'll just like laugh at an inappropriate time.
Like someone will be talking about, you know,
their uncle's funeral and the ISFP will just laugh at some,
some little detail.
And it's like, what are you doing?
Well as long as you're having a good time I guess.
Let's move on to the ISFJ.
Spill the tea on the ISFJ.
ISFJ's pretty nice and they could also be pretty gullible,
pretty easily led to believe stuff
as long as the person telling them is nice enough.
It's not that ISFJ's are dumb.
It's just that when people are nice,
that's the language they speak and it's like, yeah,
we're having a good time together.
Let's maintain this harmony.
And now I've given you $80,000.
Okay, maybe it's not always that extreme,
but sometimes it might be.
Let's take a quick break and in part two we're gonna
get into all the intuitive types who have a whole other set
of issues that we gotta dish on.
We gotta spill the tea on.
We gotta rile up some drama.
See you there.
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Let's spill the tea on all those intuitive types man.
First up the ENTJ.
If you get around 'em when they've got to like
use their emotions they can just get like really weird
and childish about it.
'Cause the ENTJs they're used to going with the thinking
all the time, expressing themselves logically.
So when you ask them hey ENTJ how did you feel
about this thing?
Especially if it's negative,
they will just get like really mad.
You'll be like what is going on here?
Or if they have to make a decision
that's purely based on feeling they will freak out.
You'll be like pick a restaurant for us all to go to.
And they'll be like well this restaurant is logically
the best one to go to because it is located here
and blah, blah, blah.
And you're like, just pick what you like.
And there'll be like. (heavy breathing)
Next up let's spill the tea on (stuttering)
Why can't I speak?
ENFJs, oh man, ENFJs, so embarrassing what they do.
What ENFJs do is they will do this thing of like
having unspoken needs that they expect you
to somehow figure out and meet.
And then they get really disappointed
when you don't do that.
Because that's what they're doing a lot of the time.
They're just trying to figure out what does everyone need
and let me provide that.
And they're like everyone else should be
playing this game with me.
And then when other people don't they're like,
I am so upset with all of you right now.
Actually no, I'm not upset.
I'm not mad.
Just disappointed.
I expected more from you people.
Let's spill the tea on the ENTP.
Oh yeah, ENTPs, you thought you were gonna slip by somehow.
You thought you were gonna, you know,
not have any tea to be spilled.
The tea cup was empty and I go to pour it
and not a drop comes out, nary a drop.
You, are you tripping?
ENTPs when they encounter some kind of obstacle,
when they are, you know,
they're trying to achieve something.
They have a goal that they're going after,
and some obstacle comes up, trips them up a little,
even if it's something simple.
Even if the goal is like I gotta make breakfast.
And then some unexpected thing arises,
especially like a physical thing.
Some kind of logistical detail comes up
that throws them off.
They just get so bitter and they'll like give up.
That thing messed up everything I was trying to do.
F it.
I'm not even gonna do it now.
Why wasn't someone else looking out for that little detail?
And then they'll like just go to the next thing.
That's ENTPs, they're so good at going from one thing
to the next that when they,
when they get tripped up like that
it's just so easy for them to go off,
do something else, forget about it.
Let's just abandon everything
that I was trying to do before.
It doesn't matter, it wasn't worth it.
Next, time to spill the tea and the ENFPs.
I got some tea brewed up.
ENFPs will sometimes think that they are like way above
whatever tasks that they have to do.
Most usually if the task is not like fun.
ENFPs will be like man I'm better than this.
I shouldn't have to do this.
It will be in basic tasks or could even be like
in their job.
They'll be like I shouldn't have to check out
these stupid customers at the grocery store.
I'm too good for this.
I shouldn't be having to manage these hedge funds.
I'm better than this job.
I shouldn't be having to fly this Boeing 747
full of passengers overseas.
This is stupid.
I mean, it really, really depends on just like
what they like and if they don't like something,
they're like oh man,
I'm mentally checked out.
Next up let's spill the tea on the INTPs.
I'm not sure they can handle it.
INTPs, INTPs can be like really mean,
but in this really awkward way where it almost feels worse.
There are certain types, we won't mention who they are,
ENTJs, who are skilled at being mean.
But the INTP they're just like, it's just awkward.
And it's like, you're mean to me.
And it felt like it was hard for you to be mean,
but you really wanted to be mean.
And now for some reason that makes me
feel worse about myself.
It's like the INTPs really need to say the things that
they think are true.
And they realize I shouldn't say that because it's not good.
It's gonna like hurt someone's feelings.
So I'm going to get really weird about saying it
because I gotta say it man.
Next let's spill the tea on INTJs.
INTJs are very smart.
Probably think that they're right about everything,
but that's not the tea I'm spilling on them.
The tea I'm spilling is that when things go wrong,
they will find a way because they're so smart,
because they can like project out
and see all these different connections
and they can see what went wrong and where,
they can be like here's how it was everyone else's fault.
It's also because the INTJs when they are trying to figure
out how to make something work, they are looking outward.
They are trying to get other people's opinions.
They're trying to come to the best objective conclusion.
So when things go wrong it's really easy for them to say
this wasn't all on me.
This was really mostly on all of you.
When I came up with my business plan for a company that
sells underwear with pockets in it so that you can put your
wallet in your underwear,
you guys should have figured it out
and told me that this wasn't gonna work out.
And now it's your fault that I am bankrupt.
Let's spill the tea on the INFPs.
Do you think they can handle it?
Am I gonna make the INFPs cry?
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INFPs are generally like really good listeners,
but a lot of times they can also be blind to what other
people want and even to how they feel.
I've seen this go two different ways.
And just like a basic example, like a conversation,
either the INFP will do a lot of talking about a topic that
they are really interested in,
that they think is really cool.
Like all this, they'll be talking about all these things
that they like and everyone else is like clearly
not really following things and kind of bored.
And the INFP just won't realize it.
Or the other extreme of that is they will be trying to
figure out what other people feel.
And will just get so caught up in that
and psyching themselves out that they just don't
want to say anything.
Or they'll be like really embarrassed about something they
said and beat themselves up about it 'cause it's like
oh no, I probably really embarrassed myself.
Or I probably really hurt that person's feelings.
And it's like no one cares.
They're just projecting all of this stuff.
Okay, and last but not least, we gotta spill the tea
on the INFJ.
INFJs man, this is gonna, this is gonna hurt to hear.
It's gonna hurt when this scalding hot tea comes
raining down on you right now.
INFJs will hold people to really high standards, right.
Which in and of itself can be annoying.
And the INFJs like to tell other people about like
what they should do and how they should live their lives.
INFS's always trying to help other people by like
giving them a little lessons about how the world works
and how to improve your life and whatever.
And then the INFJ's turn around and don't live up to
their own expectations.
Don't even try to, and don't follow their own advice.
They'll be like if you really care about yourself
and about your wellbeing you will do these 10 things
and it will improve your life.
Then the INFJ will go home,
not do any of those things and then wonder,
why am I not happy?
Or the INFJ like judges people
and be like that person over there,
they are doing the wrong thing.
They should be more like this.
And then INFJ in their own life is doing the same thing
that they just judged the other person for.
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Clear.
Next, now that I've done all this damage,
I suggest you check out this video
which is misconceptions that I debunk
about the 16 personalities,
or check out the whole playlist right here
and find another video to watch.
Thanks for watching.
Until next time, stay cool and attractive.