We Are Born Alone, Live Alone and Die Alone
on loneliness and the desire for relationships
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You are asking,
"You said the other day
that we are born alone, we live alone and we die alone.
Yet it seems as if from the day we are born, whatever we are doing,
whoever we are, we seek to relate to others."
This seeking to relate to others
is nothing but escapism.
Your relationships are not relationships.
They are ugly.
You are using the other person,
and you know perfectly well the other person is using you.
"In addition,"
you are asking,
"we are usually attracted to being intimate with one person in particular."
It has a psychological reason.
But the first basic thing is to know your aloneness.
This escape from yourself you have learned from the crowd.
Because everybody is escaping,
you start escaping. Every child is born in a crowd
and starts imitating people;
what others are doing, he starts doing.
He falls into the same miserable situations as others are,
and he starts thinking as if this is what life is all about.
And he has missed life completely.
But this basic thing is not taught
by any family, by any society, by any university.
People go on living in misery,
and it is taken for granted. Everybody is miserable,
so it is nothing much if you are miserable;
you cannot be an exception.
But I say unto you: You can be an exception.
Just you have not made the right effort.
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