Sadhguru: So,
‘How did I ever marry you?’
I think lot of them are asking that question. (Laughter)
So if somebody is asking that question you must look at yourself,
what's happening with you.
Somebody is wondering after many years,
‘How did I ever marry you,’
you really need to look at yourself
not previous lives,
this life how you are living. (Laughter)
So if any of you,
somebody wonders,
‘How did I ever marry you,’
don’t think of previous lives,
you have to see how you are living this life.
It's very important. (Laughs)
So, I think this is all Bombay talkies problem
Janam janam mei… (Part of a few Hindi songs meaning many births)
whatever. (Laughter)
I think in the new movies it's all gone, isn't it? (Laughter)
You… you grew up on 70s, 80s movies
so all janam janam business. (Laughter)
See all the young people on the new movies, okay? (Laughter)
They are no more janam janam business. (Laughter)
They are all thinking of relationships,
expiry date and… (Laughter & Applause)
So… (Laughs)
So, if your pursuit for truth is guided by commercial cinema,
hmm,
then (Laughs)
you are asking for trouble, you know. (Laughs)
So, if the only way you can hold on to somebody
is by believing for many lifetimes we have been stuck together,
it's a horrible way to live together. (Laughter) (Laughs)
No?
‘No, I am with you,
because I have been here for many lifetime with you’
is a horrible way to be together, isn't it?
I am with you now because I want to be with you;
this is a beautiful way to be with somebody, isn't it?
‘I am with you because you know last three lifetimes…’ (Laughter) -
don’t create such horrors in your life, please.
So, you have been together for three lifetimes means it's time to part. (Laughter)
No?
People keep on coming to me;
they put me through these works all the time,
‘Sadhguru, was I with you last lifetime?’ (Laughter)
What ever makes you think if I had seen you in the last lifetime
I would ever come in front of you once again? (Laughter)
What happened…,
I am telling you what happened yesterday is of no consequence.
Now you are trying to create a consequence of what happened,
might have happened.
You do not even know,
what might have happened
another life.
This is like, you know,
almost everybody talks about their school life or student life like,
‘Oh, they were the golden years of my life.’
We know what the golden years were.
When you were there you were tensed,
you were shit scared of your exams,
you hated your teachers
and you didn’t want to go to school -
they were the golden years now because they are over. (Laughter)
Because you don’t have to go to school anymore they are golden.
I think you will feel that way about your marriage also after… (Laughter)
If you feel that way after your marriage after it is over, it’s no good.
If you feel that way when it's on that’s great, isn't it?
After it's over you feel
‘Oh, it was so wonderful, but…’ (Laughter) you know, that’s no good.
If you are feeling that way when it's on, that’s great.
So, don’t waste your time digging into the past.
I am telling you this damn memory is crippling you.
It is not allowing you to use your mind as an instrument of penetration,
as an instrument to open up dimensions of life.
Now you… (Laughs)
you want to pick up the whole backlog that other people have forgotten
and that’s the only way you can relate to your husband or wife -
what a pathetic way to relate to people!
Don’t do that.
See if you can find some value in the human being who is sitting in front of you
for what he or she is now;
not for what they were somewhere.
The whole
the whole aspect of modern society today is
we don’t value you for who your father was,
we value you for who you are.
Hmm?
you are valued for who are, that’s significant, isn't it?
‘Oh you oh, because oh,
whose son are you,
whose daughter are you?’
That’s not important.
Unfortunately most people are still living in that.
Who you are is important, isn't it?
Yes?
What you have made out of yourself now is important.
Who your father was is not important,
that’s the big shift we have made
from feudalistic way of living
to whatever we call as modern society.
Little chaotic we are, but it's quite a significant step, isn't it?
Isn’t it so?
It’s a quite a significant step
that nobody asks me who your father is;
they are only looking at who I am.
Isn't it a very big step?
But if you came here 50 years ago or 100 years ago
nobody would look at your face and ask who you are,
they would only ask who your father is.
Yes?
That’s changed
significantly changed,
So, what were you in your previous life is worse than asking
who your father is. (Laughs)
What are you right now
that’s what is most important, isn't it?
What have you made out of your life right now
that is the most significant thing.
So, don’t waste your time and life digging into something.