When you least expect it, life will put your mental fortitude (also known as your emotional
intelligence) to the test. If you’ve ever had the thought that, ok I’m a relatively though guy,
so I must be mentally strong. But hate to break it to you, that’s not the true
indicator of mental strength. Mental strength is someone who is in tune with his or her own
body and emotional thoughts, and is able to have a positive outlook on most things in life
We frequently hear advice such as "Think positively, and good things will happen
to you," or "Try your hardest, and things will work out eventually."
And while such wise words may have merit, they won't help you achieve your goals, especially if
you're engaging in unhealthy behavior (Which we shall get into later). Recognizing and replacing
unhealthy thoughts, behaviors, and feelings that may be undermining your best efforts,
is the key to developing mental strength. For example, consider comparing mental
and physical strength. While a bodybuilder's physique can be maintained through good habits
such as going to the gym, it's also important for that bodybuilder to eliminate bad habits
such as eating junk food. And if you we’re wondering a workout program alone, will
not help you build lean muscle unless unhealthy eating habits are also eliminated from your diet.
Building mental muscle requires the same amount of effort, dedication, and exercise
as physical muscle. And since this has to do with the mind, you must avoid harmful habits,
such as negative thoughts, unproductive behavior, and self-destructive emotions.
The great part of building mental strength is that it will help you reach your goals,
whether you want to be a more patient parent or an elite athlete.
So, in this video, you'll learn what mentally strong people don't do,
so you can start training yourself to be mentally tough.
There are times in life when you must be mentally sharp in order to make quick decisions.
Mental strength is like a super power, and the strong yours is, the bigger the advantage you’ll
have over others. You’ll be able to think faster, solve problems easier and quicker,
sound intelligent and so on. But entails controlling your emotions,
changing your thinking, and choosing to take positive action regardless of the circumstances.
So, you might be wondering, "How do I know if I'm mentally strong?"
People who are mentally strong are adaptable and flexible. They understand that fear of change
paralyzes them and poses a significant threat to their success and happiness. They look for
changes that are on the horizon and devise a strategy for dealing with them if they occur.
Healthy habits are exhibited by mentally strong individuals. They control their emotions,
thoughts, and behaviours in such a way that they are prepared for success in life.
So now, let’s take a look at 17 things mentally strong people don’t do.
Number 1. They Dont Waste Too Much Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
Many of life's problems and sorrows are unavoidable but wallowing in self-pity is a
choice. Whether you're having trouble paying your bills or dealing with unexplained health issues,
wallowing in self-pity will not solve your problems. If you have a tendency of, feeling sorry
for yourself when things are difficult, train your brain to replace self-pity with gratitude.
Mentally strong people do not waste time or energy thinking about the problem;
instead, they concentrate on developing a solution.
Number 2. They Don’t Abdicate Their Power. It's easy to point the finger at others for our
problems and circumstances. Thinking things like, "My mother-in-law makes me feel bad about myself,"
or, “My boss doesn’t give me the recognition I deserve”
things like this allows others to have power over us. You should accept full responsibility
for your thoughts, feelings, and actions to reclaim your power. Self-empowerment is
essential for developing mental strength and living the life you want to live.
Number 3: They Don’t Resist Change. Although we feel most safe when we stay within
our comfort zones, avoiding new challenges is the most significant impediment to living a full and
rich life. Recognizing when you avoid change due to the discomfort of doing something new could
be the first step on a long road to bettering your life. The more you practice tolerating
the unpleasant feelings that come with change, whether it's starting a new job or leaving an
unhealthy relationship, the more confident you'll become in your ability to shape your own future.
Number 4: They Don’t Spend Energy on Things in Which They Have No Control.
It’s human nature to frequently obsess over the wrong things.
Rather than focusing on storm preparation, we waste energy wishing the storm would go away.
However, we'd be much better prepared for whatever life throws at us if we put that same amount of
effort into the things we can control. Pay attention to when you're tempted to worry
about something you can't control, such as other people's choices or how your competitor behaves,
and redirect that energy to something more productive.
Number 5: They are Not Concerned About Other People's Approval.
"I don't care what other people think," a lot of people say this,
but this is often a defence mechanism designed to protect them from the hurt and pain of rejection.
People-pleasing personalities come in a variety of shapes and sizes. You can spot
one from a mile away at times, and they are usually the people that fear offending others.
It takes courage to do and say things that may not be popular, but living a truly authentic
life necessitates living according to your values, even if your choices are unpopular.
Number 6: They are Not Reluctance to Take Calculated Risks
Every day, we make dozens, if not hundreds, of decisions with little thought given to the risks
involved. We frequently base our decisions on our emotions, rather than the true level of risk,
whether we choose to wear a helmet on a bike ride or take out a loan.
Making decisions based on your level of fear is not an accurate method of calculating risk.
Emotions are frequently illogical and untrustworthy. You can't be extraordinary unless
you take risks, and learning how to calculate risk accurately will help you make the best decisions.
Number 7: They Don’t Reminisce about the Past. While reflecting on and learning from the past is
an important part of developing mental fortitude, ruminating can be detrimental. Making peace with
the past so you can live in the present and plan for the future can be difficult, especially if
you've experienced a lot of misfortune, but it's a necessary step toward becoming your best self.
Number 8: They Don’t Repeatedly Commit the Same mistakes
It would be nice if we could learn enough from each mistake to ensure that we never make the
same mistakes again. However, we are prone to making the same mistakes over and over again.
Learning from our mistakes necessitates humility and a willingness to experiment
with new approaches to improve. Mentally strong people do not conceal or justify their mistakes.
Instead, they use their mistakes to help them grow as people.
Number 9: They are Not envious of other people's accomplishments.
Envy can be sparked by seeing a co-worker get promoted or hearing a friend brag about their
accomplishments. Resenting other people's success, on the other hand, will only impede
your ability to achieve your own. When you're confident in your own definition of success,
you'll stop envying others for achieving their goals and become dedicated to achieving yours.
Number 10: They don’t give up after failing.
When your first attempts fail, it's natural to feel embarrassed, discouraged,
and downright defeated. We're taught from a young age that failure is bad,
but it's nearly impossible to succeed if you never fail. Failure is viewed as proof that mentally
strong people are pushing themselves to their limits in order to reach their full potential.
Number 11: Time Alone Is Scary. In today's fast-paced world,
finding some quiet time often necessitates a concerted effort.
Many people avoid silence and solitude because they find it unsettling. However, taking time
for yourself is an important part of developing mental strength. Mentally strong people make
time to be alone with their thoughts, reflect on their progress, and setting goals for the future.
Number 12. They don’t have the impression that the world owes them anything.
It's all too easy to become engrossed in a sense of entitlement. But waiting for the world—or the
people in it—to give us what we think we're owed isn't a good way to live. You won't have time to
focus on everything you have to offer if you're too busy trying to get what you think you deserve.
And everyone, regardless of whether they've had a "fair deal" in life, has gifts that can be shared.
Number 13. They are prepared not to see immediate results.
Wouldn't it be great if everything in life could be accomplished with the push of a button?
We frequently become so accustomed to our "no lines, no waiting" world
that our brains begin to believe that everything should happen instantly.
Self-development, on the other hand, happens at a snail's pace rather than at breakneck speed. Slow
and steady wins the race, whether you're trying to lose weight or cultivate a more gracious attitude,
and expecting immediate results will only lead to disappointment. Mentally strong people
understand that lasting change takes time and are willing to put in the effort to see results.
Number 14. They are Choosy about who they spend their time with.
They are aware that they should not allow just anyone into their lives.
The mentally strong are emotionally strong for a reason: they avoid people who undermine
their defences and crush their morale. The majority of people on the planet are lost and
will gladly take you down with them. So, don't let an unpleasant acquaintance ruin your joy.
Number 15.They aren't afraid to fall in love. You lack self-confidence if you are afraid to
love. You obviously believe that you can't be in a long-term relationship. You don't
want to get hurt again because it's awful. However, it's not all your fault if things
don't go as planned. It's the two people in the relationship. Unless, of course,
you are a terrible human being; in that case, you are the culprit.
Number 16.They never "forget" to give back to the community.
We are neither too busy nor too poor to contribute money or time.
We, too, are not forgetful. Some people simply refuse to acknowledge our human responsibilities.
The more emotionally strong you are, the more you will value others and life itself.
You begin to value life and empathize with those who have been dealt a bad hand.
Number 17.They understand that happiness is a choice.
Most importantly, emotionally strong people have realized the
power their brains have over both the mind and the body.
They recognize that emotions are reactions, not the cause. To put it another way,
our emotions do not reflect reality; rather, they reflect how we interpret reality. Understanding
this provides us with near-complete control over our emotions and, as a result, our lives.
Building mental strength projects people to accomplishing their goals and becoming the best
versions of themselves. Recognizing and replacing unhealthy thoughts, behaviours, and feelings that
undermine one's best efforts is essential for developing mental strength. People with strong
mental faculties do not harbour ill will toward others. They are motivated by their own definition
of success, rather than by the success of others. The good news is that, anyone can improve their
mental fortitude. However, in order to do so, you must first become aware of the self-destructive
thoughts, behaviours, and feelings that keep you from reaching your full potential. Once you've
identified problematic areas, committing to mental strength exercises will assist you in developing
healthier habits and building mental muscle. With that said, thank you all so much for
watching. Have a great day, and I’ll see you all in the next one.