want to know the secrets to be able to connect with highly successful people
well insider in today's video this is what I'm going to be revealing in
regards to three ways I've been able to do this since beginning my journey a decade
ago and you know I used to hang on with broke unsuccessful very negative people
when I was younger and today I'll be able to reinvent that where I now
connect with for example world renowned leaders you probably follow online I got
to connect with the President of Ghana just last year I've been invited top
prestigious universities and so I've been able to connect with really
incredibly successful people and this is how I've been able to do it by utilizing
these three steps so I'm gonna reveal right now now today's video has been
inspired by a fellow insider so let me just give him a shout out right now cause
this is what he asked so Brian commented this on Facebook Messenger he asked
how do you find local minded growth minded people who have high ambitions
and are working towards their dream a lot of the people around me seem to not
have much aspirations and I can't go out and ask every person about their goals
and what they're doing to achieve them okay Brian just wanna say firstly
thank you so much for submitting that question and insider if you like to also
submit your question and be featured on our show you can do that by following the
link above or going directly to this link here and simply submit your question
over on facebook Messenger now Brian before I begin and reveal these steps
what I wanna say is you want to think not local okay because it sounds like
you're kind of my situation when I was growing up in a small town in in a place
called Poole which is south of England nobody around me were familiar about high
achievement or personal development or business everybody around me were pretty
average in you know mediocre and so I began to turn to online and so you got
to not think local think global think bigger right because in this day and age
were so fortunate to be able to connect with people from all around the world
and so I'll say let's let go of that belief and think more bigger on a global
scale and now that's how you can reach out to these huge people as well because
now you're not just thinking local here and you can join online groups and
communities so you can connect with them closer or maybe you can even fly out to
meet them or whatever you wish bearing that in mind let's get
straight into these three steps and insider be sure to pay close attention
especially to the final one because that one is definitely the most important the
first step is you've gotta get yourself visible it sounds very obvious but
people who are networking who wanna get great at networking they don't
realize the golden rule Woody Allen famously once said 80% success is just
showing up the question is right now whoever you're looking to connect to are
you actually visible in their model of the world are you actually visible are
you putting yourself out there is your personal brand out there online are you
actually going to these networking parties are you if they're speaker are
you attending their events are you putting your hands up and asking
questions are you being visible or are you being invisible because if you're
invisible no surprise you may not have the network that you want you got to get
yourself out there yes it's hard if you're an introvert like myself yes it's
hard yes it feels uncomfortable but don't let a belief hold you back from
greatness be willing to put yourself out there you know repetition is after all
repetition is the mother of skill you'll get used to it this video stuff putting
myself down out there on Facebook when I began like a decade ago was super scary
if you were to see some of my outtakes that I was posting when I was 17 you'll
be like Tim please don't post any more of those videos but that was me right I
had to get myself visible I attended different different events I basically
reached out to coaches I asked for help and I did everything to become visible
to the people I was looking to connect that's the first way let's go into the
second way which is to get great connectors within your network you want
to look to connect with connectors that's the biggest leverage you'll have
especially if you're shy and introverted where that's the base frame I was starting
with so I wasn't very good at networking because it just felt really awkward and
it's because it's not something you know I'm very comfortable with I don't energize
with people energized when I'm on my own so I was thinking what's the shortcut
what's the way I can expand my network and the beautiful thing I found was to
connect with networkers connect with people who have
already got the network around them these are the speakers these are the
leaders these are the people who run their communities and what you'll find
is once you get through to them they already know who they can put you in
touch with they already know for example where somebody is in your local town
that you could connect with so connect with these people who are the leaders of
the community and even in the online model in facebook groups you always see
there are admins and moderators get to know them very well now don't just reach
out and say hey can I invite you for coffee
because I can't tell you how many times I've received a message like that on
Instagram or Facebook when I'm visiting different countries but it's automatic
no why because there's so many requests and if I was to just chuck out
my time like that I would have time for myself and my loved ones and so it's
always always reminding yourself that you cannot approach these people in the
same manner as the average people you got to be different and this leads
perfectly on to the third point which is to lead with value remember nobody cares
what you want the world doesn't owe you anything
that's a mindset I want you to adopt the belief I want you to adopt because if you
think like the world owes you something you're networking is gonna be very
hard your network and expanding that you're gonna struggle why because think
about it if you're gonna approach a successful person and you're like oh
please can I take you out for coffee whatever maybe or please be my network
they didn't care they're thinking why should I have you in my network if
you're unsuccessful you just want something from me everybody can tell
what the hidden agenda is I can't tell you how many times I've met somebody
who've seen me speaking on the stage and I can tell they just wanna pick my
brain and go I mean think about that why it's just for my analogy point of
view somebody wants to pick your brain right
this seems terrible why would you even let them do that but secondly why would
I let somebody just pick my brain then just go with that's just like being abused
right it's like a prostitute so realize everybody else is approaching people
who've got communities or who've got some sort of impact online in exact same
manner and every now and then I meet somebody who comes across totally
differently and that's when I'm more than happy to serve
people who've got no hidden agenda they just wanna help
I've had people reaching out to me just wanted to volunteer to impact the world
people who've been sharing my videos and they just shown that impact that they've
been having I've had teachers sharing my videos to their to their class in front
of tons of students things like this is beautiful
leading with value not asking for anything in return because a hidden
agenda we can feel it it's just like how when you receive that phone call from a
salesperson no matter how cheerful they are you know back of their mind what
they're trying to do right you know exactly what they looking to do back of
your mind and so I want you to realize let go of the outcome in regards to what
you want focus on what they want focus on their desires focus purely on them
and add tons of value in regards to what they want
whatever you do don't ever say to them hey can I please help you how can I help you
because that makes us feel guilty trust me because we're just like we didn't
even ask but we didn't even ask for people to help us right and people just
reaching out and say hey make yourself you know what that does is for me when I
receive messages like that and alongside my friends who've got great
impact you know I've got really really cool friends with huge impact online and
we all go through the same situation people saying can I please help you if
your broad with the thing you're looking to add value with you're making us
create like decisions for you we're not gonna reply back to those messages be
specific what's the problem you've seen how can you solve that with your
expertise when I was when I was growing up looking to expand my network I would
literally volunteer my time every Saturday I'll be going over recording
videos uploading on to YouTube cause I've been specializing online
market for almost a decade so I literally the way I reached out was I said hey I
really wanna help you have YouTube channel and I just contribute a value
after value after value not expecting anything in return I did it because I
believe the right thing to do is always the right thing to do lead with value
and I'll tell you that one connection has actually been very valuable to me in
regards to I got to connect with a billionaire from that one connection
I've got to connect with all the other different influential people all because
of this one connection but when I was providing value to this person I wasn't
doing it to receive something I was just giving because I believed giving is
always the right thing to do so these are three ways that you can do this how
you can expand your network yes it may seem difficult yes it may seem hard but
after all isn't the things that we really really want a little difficult to
achieve of course because if it was easy
everybody would do it and so always remember lead with value be visible out
there and you wanna connect with the connectors to get the leverage that's
the fastest way that you can network with people without having to be
constantly networking online and offline I hope you found this video helpful if
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