- Have you ever been talking (upbeat music)
to someone and you're like
I wonder which of the 16 personalities they are.
So I am going to try to impart to you today
how to spot the 16 personalities,
how to figure out what someone else's type is.
I'm also gonna be presenting
all this information chronologically,
but that is not to suggest
that when you are typing someone
you need to go through in a specific order.
What you're really doing is looking
for what's popping out at me here
because sometimes it'll be obvious that someone's a feeler,
but with someone else that might not be obvious.
You just go with what you can get.
You can also use this on yourself.
It's a little difficult to recognize
the patterns in yourself,
but it's a good way to help figure out your own type.
Of course, if you're still trying to figure out your type
and you'd like an outside perspective,
I do offer a service where I give you
my educated observations and opinion
on which of the types you are.
The link to that is down below.
There are limited slots available.
And one last disclaimer, 'cause I love disclaimers.
When you are typing people in your life,
you don't need to tell them about it.
If people are not really open to it,
they don't like it,
it's a little bit rude.
If they ask you, hey, you're into that personality stuff.
What do you think my type is?
Go for it.
But otherwise just use these tools
for your own development
and getting along with others.
First up, the trap (upbeat music)
you don't wanna fall into
is thinking that people can only do
what their type says they can do.
So for example, thinking that a thinking type
cannot talk about emotion
or the value of something or whatever.
Everyone can talk
about all of the different cognitive functions
and they can do all of those things.
Everyone does sensing and intuition, thinking and feeling.
So what you've gotta do is pay attention to them
and their patterns over time to figure out the preference
rather than just thinking,
oh I heard him say something about logic,
must be a thinker, but you never know.
If you listen long enough,
they might say some more stuff where it's clear
that they prefer the feeling side.
So keep your eyes and ears open.
Don't rush to a conclusion
just because someone says something one time.
Another interesting tool (upbeat music)
to use is to think about how people
could alternatively talk about something
or react to something.
Because sometimes we just assume,
oh that person reacted that way
'cause they're weird.
But oftentimes it's related to type.
For example, if you ask someone
why did you choose to go to this restaurant?
They could answer,
oh, because I like going there
because I've gone there many times.
But what are some alternative things they can say?
They could say I wanted to go there
because I've never been there
and I like going to new places.
Or they could say I went there
because it was the closest thing to my house.
There are many different reasons why people
might choose to do something.
All right, the first (upbeat music)
major dichotomy to look for in typing
what it really is, is the types
that have thinking or feeling as their dominant function,
which are the EJs and IPs,
and the types that have intuition or sensing
as their dominant function,
which are the IJs and EPs.
That's a major differentiator
between those two sets of types.
And that'll help you really narrow things down
if you can figure that out.
So how do you do that?
Well, here's the thing
is that the dominant function
is the opposite of the inferior function,
which is like the weak point for a type, right?
And those are way out of balance.
And the things that are way out of balance
are the things that a person
will get most anxious and worried
and focused in on.
The types that are thinking or feeling dominant,
the EJs and IPs,
those are like decision-making functions, right?
So that's the thing
that they're gonna be most honed in on,
the decisions that they and everyone else are making.
So who makes decisions?
People make decisions.
So a lot of their language will revolve
around the people
and what they are doing,
and why did they make this decision?
What's going on with them?
The IJs and the EPs,
on the other hand,
they have intuition and sensing,
which are the perceiving functions,
so they are more focused on what is happening,
sort of like the information, the things, the systems,
and that is what they are gonna be more focused in on.
Now, of course, everyone's gonna talk
about the people and the decisions from time to time.
And everyone's gonna talk about the information
and the things from time to time,
but you gotta focus in on
what do they talk about more often than not.
And this is where you can use that tool
I talked about earlier
of thinking about alternative answers.
Like why did this person react this way
and focus on this thing rather than this thing?
As a very basic example,
if you just ask someone, how was your day?
What did you do today?
You might find that the EJs and IPs
they will bring up stuff about other people.
Oh, I talked to this person, I did this thing.
This other person at work wanted this from me.
Whereas an IJ or EP might say,
aw, man, there was a mound of paperwork.
I had to organize all this stuff.
It was no good.
This project, all the numbers were wrong.
So you see the difference here?
And note that the IJs and EPs could mention people,
the IPs the EJs could talk about the paperwork
and all of that stuff.
But over time, look for the pattern
of what they focused in on
more often than not.
Next up, you look (upbeat music)
at which of the four temperaments are they.
So a few weeks ago I talked
about what are the four temperaments.
You can check out that in the card above my head.
So once you've split them apart
into do they look at things mostly?
Are they an IJ or EP?
Or do they look at the people mostly, IP or EJ.
You've got only two temperaments on each side
that you're looking at, right?
And those temperaments are pretty opposed to each other.
So an IJ and an EP are very different from each other.
An IP and an EJ are very different from each other.
So if you're like,
okay I think this person focuses in mostly on people.
They're either an EJ or an IP.
Then you ask yourself a few questions.
Does this person seem to be primarily focused
on the decisions outside of them
and what other people are doing
and how everyone else can get on the same page
and we can all work together,
which would be more of an EJ,
or are they focused more on like, what are my decisions?
What do I think is good?
What do I think is the correct path?
You're kinda looking for are they looking outward
to get their bearings,
looking at other people for that?
Or do they just look at their own inner compass?
So that's how you can tell generally
between those two temperaments.
Then on the other side, if you are like,
okay this person is looking mostly at things,
you gotta figure out are they an IJ or an EP?
And the IJs are very much
about let me keep things limited.
Let me hone things down.
Let me whittle things down
to this small amount of information
that I'm dealing with
and if I have to answer a question or something,
I'm gonna go back to the old known information I have.
I'm gonna keep that organized and together.
Whereas the EPs, they're like, no, I want more,
I want new, I want endless possibilities.
I wanna find the exceptions to the pattern.
I don't wanna stick to the pattern I know.
So as you can see very different from each other.
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All right, let's move on (upbeat music)
to the middle letters.
So N or S, T or F, which I've talked about before
in videos about how do the 16 personalities see the world
and how do the 16 personalities make decisions?
Because that's basically what we're talking about.
How do they see the world?
How do they perceive things
and how do they make decisions?
How are they judging things?
So first, N versus S, intuition versus sensing.
What you're gonna see is that the sensing types,
the people who prefer sensing,
they feel like they need to talk about the details
and the specifics a lot of times.
The sensing types wanna make sure
that what they are communicating is clear and concrete.
They don't wanna kinda leave things
up in the air for you to have to guess about it.
They don't like to give just kinda
this general overview of things.
They like to give you all of the specifics.
But you gotta watch out, okay?
Because everyone has to talk about specifics
every once in a while.
Everyone has to give examples and be concrete
in their language, depending on the situation.
Likewise, everyone will have to give overviews
and use that more abstract language every once in a while.
So don't just hone in on hearing one time
someone said specifics, or even lots of times.
What you have to look at is overall over time
what do they want to do first?
What do they go to?
What is their gut reaction?
To go with the specifics?
You might be dealing with a sensor.
Okay, then with the intuitives,
they like to deal with the overviews.
They like to avoid getting specific.
They don't wanna get into the nitty gritty.
The intuitives also like to use,
oftentimes, a lot of metaphors and symbolic language.
But don't get too focused in on that
because there are many instances
of intuitives who like rarely talk in that way.
But it is sort of a giveaway
if they're always using analogies for things.
Like, instead of talking about the actual thing,
they're talking about something else that's like that thing.
And also the intuitives kind of lack clarity.
They kinda want you to fill things in.
I mean, you listen to my videos,
I struggle to give you examples of things.
And you can see that my responsibility as an intuitive
is to sort of give you
this abstract, top down overview of things
and then later I'm like,
oh crap, I guess I should throw in a specific
so you can understand this, so it's clear,
so you don't have to guess.
Intuitives also feel generally comfortable
with guessing because that's what intuition is,
looking at the pattern and then guessing
about what's gonna happen next.
So then we move on (upbeat music)
to thinking versus feeling
which is like how do people make judgments?
How did they make their decisions?
So the thinkers, their language makes it seem
like the whole world to them is some kind of puzzle
to be put together.
The way that they approach things is trying to figure out
how does it work,
how does it make sense?
For people who prefer thinking,
they're looking at things in life as problems to be solved.
What are the goals that we are trying to achieve?
How do we get there?
And when making decisions, the most important thing
for thinkers is, like, how do we just get it to work?
How do we get to that goal
that we're trying to get to?
The feelers, on the other hand,
are, it's not just emotion, okay?
I mean, that's part of it.
But the feelers are looking at the world
as how are things valued?
Do people like this or not like this?
Is it good or bad, is it valuable, not valuable?
The feelers are focused in on what matters,
which is, you know, a value judgment.
What is the thing that we should be caring about here?
When solving a problem,
it's like, how can we do what is good?
Not necessarily like, what's just gonna work,
how do we just get results?
But how do we make sure
that what we do is good,
makes people feel good,
is gonna have a good emotional outcome.
Or how do we just do what is the most important thing to do?
What really matters to people or what matters to me?
So, so far in this video, (upbeat music)
I've talked about how to pick up on people's preferences.
But the flip side of that is to try to pay attention
to if any non-preference jumps out at you.
Because a lotta times when people are trying to do
the opposite of their preference, it gets a little awkward.
They might get frustrated, upset, so on and so forth.
So look out for that as well.
If an intuitive is forced into the sensory world
and is forced to pay attention to details
and the facts, they will get kind of upset about that.
If a sensor type is put in a position
where things aren't clear and they kinda have to guess,
they might get irritated.
Thinkers oftentimes will try to avoid
any kind of emotional issue.
And a lotta times when they're talking about emotions,
their language will actually be more like
how can we solve this?
And the feelers will get very uncomfortable
when put in a situation where they have to make a decision
that's based more on what's gonna get results
rather than what's gonna make me or others happy.
Feelers are also kinda sensitive
to being perceived as dumb,
I think, because of that.
And you could also even look at this non-preference thing
in terms of the temperaments.
So for instance, if you have an IJ and they're forced
to be gathering in new information and dealing with,
you know, keeping possibilities open, et cetera,
they're gonna really struggle.
Likewise, if you have an IP type who suddenly has to think
about what everyone else is feeling,
they're gonna be like, well, why, I don't wanna do that?
If an EP type is forced to put some control
over their surroundings and reign in
all the possibilities and be limited,
they're gonna be like, I don't wanna do that.
And the EJs, they don't like it
when they're having to just make decisions
on their own for themselves without anyone else
to kinda bounce their ideas off of.
So taking all those (upbeat music)
different things we've talked about so far,
if you come into contact with somebody,
you can start to pick out things
as they are presented to you.
So you're talking to someone
and you realize that they're talking in a lot of analogies
and they're keeping things kinda vague and top-down view,
you're like, okay, this is an intuitive.
And then they start talking
about the problems they're having
with their car and how they're freaked out about that.
And they don't know what's going on.
The car keeps breaking down, no one can fix it.
And you're like, okay, this guy is really fixated on things.
So then you can be like,
okay we're dealing with either an IJ or an EP over here.
So already you've kinda limited things down a lot.
And then through the course of the conversation,
this person talks about how they really just like
keeping their options open.
And they really don't like it
when they have to have a routine
and they have to stick to the rules, et cetera.
And you're like, okay, sounds like some kind of EP here.
And then they're going on and on and on
about all the cool stuff that they like
and how it makes them happy
and what matters to them,
what's really important to them.
And you're like, okay, I think this person is an ENFP.
Now, that seems really easy, right?
It's not, (chuckles) it's rarely gonna be that easy
but I thought I would try
to put in an example at the end, awkwardly.
Let me know what other things (upbeat music)
you would like to learn about the 16 personalities.
Put it in the comments below.
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