- Breastfeeding.
- Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
- No. It's okay. It's okay.
- Why is it faster? - It is really sucking.
- This is a lot of milk. - Yeah.
- I'm all about titties out.
But not on the floor of a storage room.
(theme music)
- Babies, you grow a person inside of you,
it squeezes out through a hole that's too small,
but the action ain't done yet.
Now your body creates food.
- Today The Try Guys are going to try breastfeeding.
- It's a special two part babyhood series.
First, we learn to take care of babies
and then we become them.
- I think for me it's pretty well established.
I don't really care for babies.
- My nipples are teensy little things.
They'll just be sucked clean off.
- My name is Julie Wright,
and I'm one of the authors of The Happy Sleeper.
Babies eat a lot.
The amount of milk that they can fit in their tummy
is smaller than the size of an egg.
- Becky, many other women,
their body has the ability to make food.
My body can't do that. My body just makes waste byproducts.
- So that's why little tiny babies need
to feed quite often.
- What if we get a little milk out?
It'll just probably just be a little bit.
- [Rachel] No.
- Let's Google this.
I'm gonna, this is my first question for the expert.
- Parents say, I had no idea.
It feels like feeding your baby is a full-time job.
- I've never fed a baby, but a baby's never fed me.
So we're even.
- [Keith] You're about to feed a baby the first time.
How do you feel?
- There's a lot of people with babies out here.
- [Keith] Yeah, you're with your people.
- Am I?
I think I'm gonna look like a Asian man with a white baby.
- [Keith] Well.
- I have to come up with a story in case someone asks.
- Women are allowed to breastfeed in public,
but they can constantly be met
with people telling them they can't,
on a plane, in a store.
- Hi baby. It's okay. Hi. Here we are.
We're in this together. Asian man with white baby
who's crying alone on the bench.
- Especially in our country,
breasts are thought of as sexual and you have to hide them.
- That's okay. It's okay. (baby crying)
It's okay. It's okay. It's okay.
Maybe I'm gonna hold my boob
'cause I want to make sure she gets it.
- You know, we think of breastfeeding as natural.
It must be fairly easy. All mammals do it.
- I don't think she wants it. (baby continues crying)
- But it's incredible how many breastfeeding parents
feel a lot of pain in the beginning.
- Rock a bye baby.
I can't do this. I don't wanna hurt the baby.
- Yeah. It's interesting.
You would think a baby would know how to latch.
- New challenger approaches.
Hello.
How would I feed a baby?
Get a bottle, and, boop, stick it in his mouth. Open up.
No, no, no. Oh, I looked away. (baby crying)
No, no, no, no, no. Shh.
- Even more so when the breast is very full,
it's hard for the baby to latch
because it's almost like they're meeting up
with a flat surface.
- I just, I put it in its mouth.
- [Keith] Yeah.
- I put the bottle in her mouth. What more do you?
- [Keith] Yeah, you have to help her.
- What do you mean help her?
- They need to be much further on the breast
than you would ever imagine for it to be a proper latch.
- And I was like, come on, do it.
Get it. You know? And she wasn't taking it.
- Yeah.
- What more?
- It can be tough.
Well, I have a baby now. Pretty sick.
The whole feeding process is wild. It takes time.
Especially when we first had Henry, we became a farm.
(baby crying)
It's not open.
- [Zach] What are you talking about, it's not-
What does that mean?
- This, it's like a little seal.
You guys were putting nothing in her mouth
and she wanted food and now she's pissed off.
That must've been really unfortunate, you know,
to have all these people stick something in your mouth
that has no milk coming out of it.
The baby's in charge. That's probably the biggest thing
you can learn is the baby's in charge.
- [Zach] I'm curious, does she prefer breast or bottle,
or does she not care?
- Oh, she hates the bottle.
(laughing)
- [Zach] She what?
- [Parent] She hates the bottle.
- Hates the bottle.
- Rachel knew that she didn't like the bottle.
Look at her, look at her giggling.
- [Keith] She's like, yeah, this is what I wanted.
- This is the moment we've been waiting for,
for all of Try Guys' history.
What size are our nipples?
- [Rachel] Did you know,
that your areolas get larger and darker
during pregnancy so the babies can find them easier.
- Did you know that your areola is the same color
as your booty hole?
- This is not the color of my booty hole.
- Have you been looking at your booty hole?
- I have a very flat butt.
So like, if I bend over, we're exposed.
- We?
(all laughing)
- There's different pumps, there's little hand pumps,
but the main ones that women use now
have two of these sort of suction things
and they suck on the breasts.
- [Keith] Listen to it. It's gasping for air.
- Don't think I've ever held a breast pump.
And this isn't because I'm gay,
it's because I don't like babies.
- I have been around these,
but it's not because I'm straight.
- Okay.
So get it over the nipple. Like, so.
- Most parents who pump also have their baby breastfeeding.
- Camera's gotta get up here.
- Oh no, I don't like this.
- Because my nipple just went (imitates sucking)
Like Augustus Gloop getting sucked up the chocolate tube.
- And babies are very strong.
So you've already felt a super strong suck.
(Keith screeching)
- But that was going (imitates pumping)
(imitates pumping noise)
- Ew. It's the hair that's really throwing me off.
- [Keith] I don't like it.
- Do you think the audience will like this?
- You're not even squeezing it.
- I don't have to to feel it.
So now we've got the electric, the spec,
the spec-i-tra, the spectra C.
- Alright, here we go.
And what if there's nothing in there?
- If nothing comes out?
- No. If you have--
- No feelings for your baby?
- No.
- Yeah, there's like nothing emotionally there.
- What are you referring to?
- I'm referring to us putting it on our bodies.
- Oh. Yeah. I would think that you wouldn't be able
to stand it for too long.
- All right, here we go.
I'm gonna even it out with my other nipple.
Oh. Oh!
- This is hilarious.
- Ew.
- If the pump isn't pumping anything,
- [Keith] It's just a vacuum.
- Yeah.
(both exclaiming)
- The first suck doesn't feel bad,
but every subsequent suck gets a little harder.
- [Rachel] Just experiencing this
and getting ready for your 24 hours
of doing this every 3 hours.
- Every 3? Oh God, I forgot. Does it?
And this feels better than a human.
- [Rachel] Um.
- Lemme try.
Do you guys mind if I pump in the office?
Okay, cool. Supportive office.
- As a pumping parent, wherever you are in the world,
you need to be able to bring your
pumping equipment with you.
- So much in shit in here.
- And if you're on the go,
you need to bring a cooler with you
so that you can keep the milk cold
because otherwise it will spoil.
- Why is that outlet all covered up?
This office is not set up for pumping.
- I am going to the bathroom.
- You need to find a safe and clean place to pump,
which can be challenging.
- We have an outlet in here?
This bathroom has no outlets?
I think the most private room
is actually this storage closet.
Oh, there outlet. This is so sad. Okay, I'll pump in here.
- My name is Joey and I'm the mom of two kids.
My pumping schedule was that I would try to pump
at least three times while I was at work.
So I would take three pumping breaks,
about half an hour each.
During the workday.
- You have to be on a pumping schedule
that's about every three hours
so that you have enough milk to feed your baby.
- 12 PM, 3 PM, 6 PM, 9 PM, midnight,
3 AM, 6 AM, 9 AM, 12 PM.
Oh, I didn't wash my hands.
Do I need to wash my hands?
- Mm-hmm.
(sighing)
- You have to wash your hands before you touch bottles
and touching anything that goes in a baby's mouth.
You wash your hands in between.
My name is Becky and my husband Keith and I
have a four month old son named Henry.
- I'm really afraid of what setting this is on.
- It's not comfortable.
None of it is comfortable.
They say like, breastfeeding should never hurt. Lies.
Pumping should never hurt. Lies.
- Ow, fuck fuck. Ow, ow, ow,
Jesus Christ. No, no, no. That's faster.
Why is it faster? Why is it faster?
- You just get used to it. It shouldn't hurt, hurt.
You shouldn't wanna cry. I feel like that's like a sign.
- Okay, here we go.
- So we'll have this and you'll--
- [Eugene] Be dripping milk into,
- Into a bag.
- Okay, well I guess I'm sitting on the ground.
Very hard to stay clean, I think probably,
in a supply closet, but I'll do my best.
- So much for getting work done while I do this.
- I'm doing one drop per pump.
- [Rachel] Good, that's great.
- Discomfort associated with it, really.
You watch it drip into these bottles
and you're just sort of waiting haggard for it to fill up.
My name is Kira Cook and I have two kids.
- This kid better not forget to fucking call me
when he goes to college.
- Breastfeeding is not intuitive.
The baby doesn't wanna latch.
- Ooh. It is really sucking.
- [Kira] So I had to learn all these different positions
where he actually would.
- My nipples are starting to hurt.
It's not even just a bit
where I'm pretending they hurt, they hurt.
- Also, my supply was so intense
that when my milk let down, it overwhelmed him
and he ended up like as a baby, he would go like, (gurgling)
- Uh-oh, I think the lights are on a timer in here.
Hello? Can someone come turn the lights on?
Lights are out.
- Oh, I don't know the code for this.
- [Eugene] Hello?
- Bleep that.
- They're going to experience what it's like
to work really hard for something and cry over spilled milk.
- Oh, is it not sealed correctly? Oh, we got a spill.
- Every last drop was so precious to me that I was like,
if you spill any of it, I will murder you.
- Are you fucking kidding me?
I thought it was sealed and it wasn't sealed all the way
and I just spilled like over an ounce.
- [Rachel] You definitely need a new bag.
That bag is compromised as fuck.
- What could be compromised about this bag?
My fingers are on the top, not the middle.
You think that this is all waste?
You think-- (stammering)
I have like full body chills
and I don't know if it's from frustration
or from the gentle sucking on my nipple.
- [Julie] The hardest thing about pumping honestly,
is what you have to do next, which is clean.
- Just do this.
- You can't just leave the tubes
and the paraphernalia around
because the milk will dry up and get caked.
- [Zach] Oh, the pieces in the pot, pieces in the pot.
- I've known pumping parents who've the only thing they want
from their partner is to clean the pumping equipment.
- Oh, you son of a bitch.
- Oh, it's all right into the glass.
You gotta wash that one again. Clumsy Mom probably just has
such a hard time with all this process.
- Hey, shout out to all the clumsy moms. Clomsy.
- Clomsy momsies.
- Oh my god.
- I can't wait to do that
- Always.
- So I'm home and it's time to be breastfeeding, man.
- [Keith] Getting my stuff. Oh my God.
- It's like legos.
So much to do.
- And I have two bras.
- Where the hell's my bra?
- Yeah, that's the worst part of breastfeeding is pumping.
- Okay well, Eugene has my breast pumping bra,
which means I just have to hold these.
- Can you help me?
- [Matt] Kimmy will help.
- No, he's not gonna help.
- [Zach] Oh, I dropped it, bro.
I'm gonna need that, bro.
- It felt like nutso time. Like why am I doing this?
And I just kept on doing it.
(baby crying)
- I need to pump right? I need to pump right now.
But he wants real milk
and I can't give him the milk that I make.
It's actual cow's milk.
- [Zach] Not a toy, no, no, no, no.
- In those first couple of months it was a nightmare.
- So I'm thawing some of mommy's milk
'cause mommy's working out.
Yeah. And I'm thawing it as fast as I can.
- It makes this sort of wheezing sound
and it sounds like,
"fuck you, fuck you, fuck you, fuck you, fuck you."
- [Zach] Bowie. Oh, oh fuck.
(baby crying)
- [Matt] It takes forever. Milk maiden.
- Don't call me a milk maiden. That's so gross.
(Matt laughing)
- I've known breastfeeding parents who pump in their car.
- Okay, we gotta pack our pump bag, Becky and I are sharing.
- She had to get that pump in and she was driving to work.
- Pump buddies.
- We should get on the same schedule. Whoa.
- We're pumping.
- If you're in a precarious place like inside of a car,
just make sure you have like a stable clean surface.
- The family is in the car
and we are taking milk out of our chest.
That's good. Let's go.
- Now I've made it to the gym. Yep. It's got an outlet.
All right, so we are in business.
Let's get set up and hopefully
I can do this before the class starts.
- And then I think one of the best parts of nursing
is the convenience.
I can, you know, he's much quicker now that he's older
and so I don't have to bring as many things with me
as when I was pumping.
- There's no outlet in here.
I guess I'll just like squeeze my nipple in here
for a little bit.
- You're done? I haven't even begun.
- [Becky] What they do say the babies are
more efficient than the pump.
- Dang.
- [Becky] Oh, you're gonna run outta battery though.
You only have one bar. How long do you need to do?
Hurry, you got one bar of battery
and you didn't bring a back up.
- Shit. God, so much to remember.
- [Becky] I know.
- Parents who are breastfeeding often wear
like a little pad in their bra.
- Oh man. Becky just sent me a picture of Henry.
- When I talk about Henry, my body is like,
Henry is here. Give him milk.
- Oh, that's so cold.
- Then all of a sudden I'm like, ah, I'm leaking.
- Oh shit.
You thinking about your baby makes me think about my baby.
- I mean, look at him.
- The bad part about breastfeeding,
wet shirts all the time. Milk leaking.
- It is embarrassing.
I'm glad I'm in the comfort of my own business.
(baby crying)
Oh no. Oh no. That is amazing.
I'm so sorry everybody.
- Once it was past the newborn phase, I would have to
set an alarm in the middle of the night to pump
because my body couldn't go that long without feeding.
- (yawning) Ah it's bright.
- So that sucked for like a full year.
I set an alarm every night for one or two in the morning
and I would pump and then, you know, go back to bed.
- It's three in the morning. Alfred, you have food.
(Alfred meowing)
- To get up in the middle of the night
and pump is very difficult.
Especially when you know your baby
and your partner are sleeping.
- And I have to pump. I can't feed you my breast milk.
You're a cat.
- Even when my kid was sleeping throughout the night,
I would wake up at 1 AM
and somewhere between 3 to 5 AM to pump twice.
(thudding)
Got my 3 ounces
I’m gonna go quietly wash and sanitize this, okay?
‘Cause everyone’s still sleeping.
- It felt like literal torture.
- Where’s all my parts?
- Oh my God.
- I don't like this much.
These do make my boobs look good.
- This is why we need each other.
Why we need to be surrounded by community or a tribe
or a village and not be alone in our homes
with our babies thinking, am I losing my mind
or is this this hard for everybody?
'cause it is, but we don't know it.
- I think I thought my lesson of this was gonna be like, oh,
it's a nuisance and your nipples hurt.
But it's really more like I feel like I can't do it all.
I feel like I just can't do it all.
- But one thing I've heard from everyone between even Becky
and Rachel and Matt's sister, is that they often found
that breastfeeding presented a worse struggle at times than
labor or pregnancy did.
- The truth is, there are many, many ways
to bond with your baby.
It's not true that breastfeeding is the only way
or the best way.
- I'm doing all this and I don't even have a little snuggle
muffin to freaking hold,
just a dude sucking my own nipples.
- We don't want any parent to feel like there's only one way
to feed a baby, but some parents are not able
to breastfeed for a number of reasons.
And what we say is fed is best.
Babies can drink breast milk.
They can drink breast milk from a donor parent.
They can also drink formula.
The most important thing is that the babies
are happy and fed.
- Feeding a baby is just the beginning
of a long, beautiful journey.
- What does that tone say? (Julie laughing)
What are you teeing up?
- I don't know. We probably won't even use this footage.
- Now we have to.
- Okay.
(dramatic music)
(crying)
- What are we learning? What are we even,
what are we even trying?
(theme music)
(Becky laughing)
- [Becky] What are you doing?
- I'm pumping.
I have to pump every three hours.