this video I'm gonna show you three ways to never let negative people affect you
again I think this video can change your life and understanding how to take your
power back and not let other people bring you down welcome back to another
video my name is Aaron I help people expand their consciousness now this
video I'm gonna be sharing with you three ways that you can make it so that
negative people don't affect your energy anymore understanding that you can begin
to become instead of the Cameo and everyone else's movie you can become the
star of your own movie to a place to where when people come up to you to
affect you in a certain way or if their intention is to bring you into the same
emotion they're feeling I know that that happens a lot that you're able to just
maintain your frame and be in the state that you prefer now the reason I'm doing
this video is because I get asked it so often so many people ask me they say
Aaron how do I make it so negative people don't affect me this is happening
in my life and I feel like it's bringing me down what do I do so that these
people don't affect me and there's always a couple different answers I have
so what I'm gonna do is making this video so that from now on I can just
send people to this video and it kind of explains everything so when it comes to
this process understand that first off the idea to understand is that the most
important thing is not what happens in your life it is what and how you respond
to what happens your response to what happens is what determines almost
everything in your life because this is the thing our state of being how we feel
creates our life experience now think about it like this we feel a certain way
we go out into the world we always experience things that are equal to the
vibration of what we are feeling and what we are putting out so if we are
feeling a certain way we go out into the world and say we feel disempowered other
people are going to be able to quote-unquote take advantage of us
because they are playing off of that vibration they can feel it and it's
almost like in a way we attract people that are of that vibration
subconsciously and part of it may be because we believe that is what we
deserve now the thing is is you deserve more than other people taking advantage
you you deserve more of other people than them bringing you down but the
first thing you have to do is you have to take responsibility for your own
state you have to take responsibility think about risk what responsibility
means responsibility is the ability to respond now the difference is normally
when we're asking the question why is it these people affect my negative my
energy in a negative way what we are implying is that they are doing that to
us no one is ever doing anything to you without first your permission now what
this means is that if somebody is negatively trying to affect you the only
way you will experience that negative effect from them is if you agree to it
at some level is if you say yes that is what is happening I let me give you an
example this is one example that I've used before if somebody were to come up
to you right now somebody came up to me right now I was like hey Aaron I hate
your purple shirt I think it looks so dumb and bla bla bla and therefore
you're dumb if they were to say that I would look at it but the thing is is it
wouldn't actually affect me because I wouldn't even agree to the premise that
the shirt I'm wearing is purple so the idea is that I don't have to internalize
whatever is being said I don't have to internalize that of the purple shirt
comment because it's something that doesn't affect me because I don't even
relate to it you see the thing is is it only affects us when we're in that
reaction mode but the key is to shift out of reaction and instead shift into
response and the one thing we always have the ability to do is to respond
that's what responsibility is the ability to respond so the first way to
never let negative and your energy is by understand
that you have the ability you have the frame of choosing your response to
external stimulus and as you choose that response you can choose to not relate
with what they're saying imagine that they come up to you and they're telling
you they hate your purple shirt but you're not wearing a purple shirt you
don't have to relate to what they say you could be like okay well obviously
either they don't see colors the right way or you just don't agree and you
think there's maybe something crazy with them you know you don't want to judge
them but I'm just using it as an example so the idea is to not identify with
whatever they say on the second way that you don't let negative people affect
your energy is by letting go of the label of other people be negative now
this is something that sometimes in a way the expectations we have for people
this is something I've been diving more into understanding but when we're around
other people people a lot of times are responding to the way that we expect
them to respond so for example if you were to go somewhere and talk to someone
and expect them to be negative they're more likely to be negative if you have
that expectation of them because in a way they almost linked up to it however
if you have an expectation that they start to become more positive they may
actually go the other way around now what I recommend is actually not having
it one way or the other to where you expect them to be positive expect them
to be negative you can set the intention that you have more positive interactions
through your day but what you could do is you could just not label them as
being negative and by not labeling them as being negative what ends up happening
is then they don't have as much effect over you and in a way you're not toning
them into that vibration you're not toning them into that expectation so
it's about being aware of your own labels because sometimes even as you
start to say that this person is negative what will happen is that will
cause you to also link up with more and more negative people because of the
identification in your own mind so it's about being aware of that label now
that's something that I went through because I realized that when I was
especially for going through my spiritual awakening I
was around a lot of people that had more of that kind of a response especially to
what I was sharing or if I was talking about it and what I would do is instead
I would say okay I wouldn't put them in this category as negative I remember
there was this guy used to work with at Barneys New York when I used to have my
sales commission job before I went full-time on YouTube and everyone there
thought he was like the most negative person and everyone there treated him
and always talked about how like bad behind his back and stuff and I would
always go out of my my kind of always the kind of person I would always go and
root for the underdog so in a way I would never talk bad about him and but
what I would do is I would be friends with him and what I found is that
because I treated him differently than everyone else everyone else fit you know
experience the negative side of him when he was around me who was actually a lot
more positive because I wouldn't label him as such and I was not trying to
control how he was but I was just in my own frame you see like I was talking
about at the beginning when you instead are they kept the star of your own movie
you take yourself out of the cameo role and you're not trying to be in everyone
else's movie that's when everything begins to change now the third way that
you don't let negative people affect you is a combination of two things one it is
stop people-pleasing this is something that's hard because it's in a way like
social conditioning but what we can begin to do is understand that we must
have our cup full before we can give to other people and what we can begin to do
is at the same time understand that it's okay to say no you see as you change
your vibration what will happen is as you change your vibration you will begin
to resonate with new people but sometimes what will also happen is some
people will fall out of your life some people that no longer resonate and you
have to let that be okay that's just kind of a part of the process but people
that fall out there may be a momentum going where those things remain attached
for a while but eventually they end up going away but you have to trust the
process and know that it is part of the process so it may seem kind of scary
you may let go of a couple friends that are negative around you
and what will happen is you let them go and it's scary because like well what
are you gonna do now but the thing is if you trust the process then you leave
room for people to come in you didn't have time for allowing someone else
someone new to come in that is of more of that positive vibration so it's okay
to say no if someone's asking you to hang out and they drain your energy
every time you're around them it may be time to say no if you're gonna
compromise your own energy and you're gonna compromise your own state then it
may not be a good thing because that person may be locking you into a certain
level of perception in your reality because it's constantly bringing your
vibration down now of course you can do the first two parts of what I'm talking
about and maintain your own state but there are times that people simply are
set in their own ways and it's kind of will always think oh well if I bring all
my friends with me bring them all up to a high vibe well it's possible but it's
best to just focus on you so focus on you it is okay to say no it is okay to
start to let go of the necessity to people please and this is something that
when you start to do you start to maintain your own vibration where does
the need to people please come from it most likely comes from a level of
deserve ability I'm not worthy unless everyone else is happy as well or I went
through a lot of pain growing up so I want other people to simply be happy but
the key is knowing that the way you affect other people is by a contagious
type energy reframe the idea of people-pleasing instead of thinking of
it like you have to make other people happy instead be and remain in your own
authentic expression of who you are be at your core and that will inspire other
people to be at their core but maintain your own state maintain your own frame
it's only when we get out of our camp we get out of our star role and we try to
get to the cameo role of everyone else and make the one else happy that we
start to do someone else's job and when we do someone else's job we take on the
emotional baggage of that job but it's not your job so the key is to let go of
needing to people please let go when it's okay to say no to
people that are draining your energy and by saying no to that you're saying yes
to something else always remember that by saying no to this you're also saying
yes to this you know I run a business and I'm busy a lot and there's some
times that people want to do things or hang out and stuff and sometimes I have
to say no but by saying no to that I'm saying
yes to something else and maybe by saying saying it's it has to do with
understanding the priorities now of course there is time that I make for
spending time with family or spending time with and just enjoying myself like
I'm on vacation right now in an air B&B with my buddy Victor and there's times
that I will you know let go of course instead of filming a video because I'm
in the habit of doing it but the rest of the day today going jet skis doing some
cool stuff and that's the intention for it you see but by normally having the
priorities straight everything else begins to align so remember that you
don't have to agree to the reality of someone else trying to make you feel
negative understand those people many times aren't trying to make you feel
negative they're just in a pattern of making you feel what they feel but let
go of the label of them being negative and understand that you always have the
ability to respond in how you choose and that as you take your power back you
start to switch the energy dynamic this is about being empowered not about
trying to control other people but by observing them and not labeling them as
negative if you label them as negative that will become the reality you will
almost pull that out of them in a way because of your expectation itself
remember that by saying no to someone you're saying yes to someone else by
saying no to some activity that will bring you down you're saying yes to more
energy you were than increasing your state of being as you increase your
state of being you experience a reality that is more equal to that which you
want to experience and that's when eventually with momentum you will not
experience as many negative people in your life the more I've refined my
vibration over the years and I'm not saying I'm enlightened I'm not saying
I'm perfect but I've noticed that there's less and less negative
people in my life because of that because I'm able in a way to maintain my
own vibration without being at the whim of the environment and because of that
just things don't resonate as much so it's almost like that momentum begins to
build so trust that process understand that if you do these three things they
can change your life and you may let go of things that no longer serve but you
will allow room for things that do serve so if you want to learn how to raise
your vibration as well this will help you with that whole process I have an
absolutely free meditation in the top of the description box below on raising
your vibrational set point I recommend you list it for 21 days to get the
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