Heya playa, do you ever find yourself trying to understand the different types of signs
that your crush is giving you to show whether or not they like you?
If you spend your time doing that, you're wasting it and here's why.
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just like I mentioned in a previous video, if you spend your time looking for different
signs from your crush, signs of interest don't exactly mean direct interest.
Now I know it sounds contradictory because that's probably what we should be looking
for right?
Eye contact, body language, smiling, all these little different cues that show us that hey,
our crush is ready for us to approach them.
But I think if you spend your time waiting for those things to happen then you're probably
never going to approach your crush.
And what happens when you don't approach your crush?
Eventually, someone comes in and asks them out.
Now you've probably been in a situation where you've compared how you interact with your
crush versus how they interact with other people.
Maybe they're more flirty, more talkative, more interested in other people but when you
talk to them, that just isn't there.
So what ends up happening is your mind starts to overthink.
It starts to create all these different little scenarios to kind of make sense of what's
going on.
Maybe you think that your crush doesn't like you.
Or maybe you think that your crush does like you but they don't want other people to know.
Or maybe you think your crush likes you but they don't want you to know that they like
you so they end up pretending like they don't like you.
There's a million potential outcomes and guess what, there's a million videos out there on
YouTube kind of explaining different signs of interest form your crush.
If you go by those videos, you're going to end up being more passive in how you interact
with them which is not the way to go.
And I'm guilty of this too.
I've done different videos in the past explaining different signs of interest from your crush
and I don't think signs necessarily are a bad thing to look for but if that's all you're
resting on, if you're waiting for those signs to occur, then you're never going to do it.
You're never going to ask your crush out on a date, you're never going to ask them to
be your boyfriend or girlfriend, you're never going to go for your first kiss, you're never
going to celebrate your one month anniversary all because you're waiting passively for those
signs.
So what's the solution exactly?
Well, I think it's pretty obvious.
It's time for you to go talk to and ask out your crush, I know you're worried about it.
I know you're afraid you're not really at the point where you can do it but trust me,
all you have to do is ask them to do something simple with you.
Maybe hang out during lunch, maybe meet up after school.
Anything where you can spend a little bit more time directly getting to know them.
Because here's the reality of it all, people act differently when you get to know them.
How you interact with your crush now when you aren't close is going to be very different
when you guys have already spent time hanging out with each other.
And after you've already invested that time talking to them, getting to know them, flirting
with them, doing all these different types of things you're gonna see a different in
their behavior in how you talk to them.
But trying to assess that from the beginning when you don't really have much to go on is
difficult.
You're basically just saying "well, is this person attracted to me physically or not?".
You're reducing things down to 50/50 odds and I think by talking to your crush, by interacting
with them you increase your percentage there greatly.
And I know what you're thinking, if I ask my crush out now without any general signs
of interest from them won't they just end up rejecting me?
Well, here's the thing you're better off finding out what could potentially be rather than
waiting for something to magically develop on it's own.
If you don't invest the time in getting to know your crush, you're never going to get
to know the true signs of interest from them.
I've done a video in the past as to whether or not your crush is hiding their true feelings
for you but the general idea behind it is this.
If they're willing to spend more time with you, if they actively want to talk to you,
get to know you better or learn about your interests or hobbies, then that's the true
sign of interest.
Someone investing their own time to spend with you is the only sign that matters.
But I'm interested to know what you think, what are the different types of signs of interest
you've received from your crush?
And with the information I've shared in this video, how are you gonna change your approach?
Leave a comment down below and let me know.
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As always, love and peace.