Instead of chasing after someone's attention,
if the relationship is progressing a little bit slower
than you would like,
what's an empowered move that you can make?
I was on a coaching call recently with one of the women
in the "Manifest Your Man" program and she was saying,
"Hey, so we're starting this relationship, it's going well.
He's giving me some attention and we're
texting on a daily basis, but I would love more.
Like, how can I create more?"
And she didn't want to chase his energy and she was like,
"You know, I really would love to be grounded
in my feminine power and invoke his masculine energy."
And so I'm going to share with you
two ideas that can help you ground
that feminine power that you have to evoke him
into his masculine energy and invest more interest
and attention into this relationship.
And the first is, you remember when we were kids,
perhaps you had this experience
in grade school where we had these little paper dixie cups,
and we planted seeds.
I can remember being in like fourth grade
and we did this experiment.
You write your name on the Dixie Cup,
you put the soil in there, you plant the little seed,
and you put it on the window sill.
And like the day one, I ran to the window sill,
I look in the Dixie cup, nothing.
It was just the soil, the dirt, right?
I don't see anything.
Next day, run to the window sill.
I'm looking, like, there's nothing.
I don't see any little plant.
And I'm thinking, "Well this is disappointing."
Next day run to the window sill.
Look, I don't see anything.
And I go to the teacher and I'm like, "Mine's not working,
'cause other people have little plants growing."
Remember that?
It was like some people they're whole little stalks growing
out of that soil.
And mine didn't have anything.
And I'm thinking, "This thing isn't working."
Very similar to the relationships.
Like, if you're dating somebody
and other people progress really fast and they're just
both are totally into each other and it progresses
and they kind of get into this instant relationship,
and you're looking at yours going, "Wow, this is going-"
You really like the guy.
He's great and he's pouring interest in,
but you're like, "This is going slower than I want."
It's tempting to want to dig into that soil and pull it up.
And that's what I started to do in my Dixie Cup
actual example, I started to dig in there
and the teacher saw me and she came in, "Whoop, whoop,
whoop, whoop, Matt, what are you doing?"
And I said, "Well, I'm pulling it
up to find out if there's something wrong with it.
And she goes, "If you pull this up,
you're going to kill it."
She goes there, "There's nothing wrong with that.
Some just take a little bit longer
to get going than others."
And I went, "Okay."
And I covered it back up and let it grow.
And sure enough, the next day, boop,
this little leaf popped through,
little seedling popped through the dirt,
and I was on my way with my plant growing.
Similar energy to chasing.
If you chase the interaction,
it just pushes the other person away.
It kills the connection in the relationship.
It's way better to instead of chase, create space.
This is the feminine move, instead of chase, create space.
And what that means is most people misinterpret this.
Most people interpret space as,
well, then I just have to be passive.
There's nothing I can do, sit back,
and wait for him to text me or call me.
No, no, no, no.
You can actually claim your feminine power and create space.
And here's what it looks like.
Creating space is about creating an energetic opportunity
for him to invest into the relationship.
And ultimately what the simplest form
of this is you making an empowered request.
Like let's say he's only texting you and you're like,
"I want to talk to this guy on the phone.
I want to hear his voice."
So the next time you text him
or he texts you, you can say, "Hey, you know what?
I'm really craving hearing your sexy voice.
I'll be home tonight around six.
I'd love it if you gave me a call."
What's beautiful about that is that is direct,
that is clear, and that is feminine
because feminine creates an opportunity
for the masculine to serve, the masculine to pour into.
And so you're creating this beautiful opportunity
telling him exactly what you want
and then he has an opportunity to provide
for you what it is that you want.
And the masculine gets a boost
of masculine energy when he actually accomplishes the goal.
Or you can say, let's say a guy
is only planning dates that are casual
and like, you guys are going to the bar and grabbing drinks,
and you really want something a bit more romantic
or something a bit more adventurous and more fun,
like maybe hiking or doing something on the afternoon.
So then you would text him,
or you'd ask him whether you're on the phone or text,
you ask him, you say, "Hey, you know what really bring a lot
of joy to my life is if you planned an adventurous date
for us, let's see what you got."
And now you're challenging him and making a request
at the same time, two energies that masculine energy loves.
So you're drawing him into the masculine.
Now this is also a great technique for finding out
if he's actually wanting to move forward with you or not,
because the guy who's not invested at all is just
going to drift away and then don't chase that guy.
It's good riddance to that guy.
But the guy who is invested, who is intrigued,
who is interested in this relationship growing,
is going to say, "All right,
let me put a little bit more water on this.
Let me move it to the right part of the sunlight.
Let me invest more just to see how this thing really grows."
And so those are two beautiful techniques you
can use right now to create the result that you want.
Number one, don't chase, create space.
And number two,
make an empowered feminine request to draw him
into the relationship.
So I've got an important question for you.
If the guy isn't investing at the level that you would love,
you would love more from him,
what strategies have you used that really work?
I mean, we can always just say "no" and "next",
and all of that.
That's always on the table.
But what strategies actually call him
into the relationship in an empowered way?
I would love to hear your thoughts on that as well.
And know this, I believe in you,
here is to your amazing, empowered love life.
I appreciate you watching.
I'll see you soon.
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