Hi, we are Haim
and we’re here with NET-A-PORTER,
and we’re going to attempt to be your counselors today.
I don’t know how we’re going to do but we’re going to try.
Let’s see if I remember how to read. *laughs*
Dear Haim, I’m an extrovert, and finding lockdown really hard.
Any tips on how to keep myself sane
when there is no one to see and nowhere to go?
I feel that on a very deep level.
I am also an extrovert.
I mean, I dealt with quarantine, just basically
turning my stereo up to 11 and
feverishly dancing in my room.
Yes.
On my bed, off my bed, on the floor, in the bathroom,
it didn’t matter where.
In my kitchen… It’s like a Dr. Seuss novel. *laughs*
Does Este dance on a couch?
Does Este dance
in her house?
Kind of rhymed. Kind of.
I was going to say, does she dance with a mouse? Ok.
That’s really a Dr. Seuss book.
Dear Haim, I’ve spent my twenties chasing boys who don’t like me back.
Been there. How do I break this cycle?
Girl, boy, anyone – you tell me, I have no idea.
I’m still, yeah, unclear.
I’m still in my twenties, I’m still chasing boys who don’t like me back.
If you have any tips, let me know.
I know that’s probably not advice,
but just know that we’re on the same page.
So, you’re not alone. You’re not alone.
Dear Haim, I feel like I don’t speak up for myself enough,
whether it’s personally or professionally.
What is your best advice for showing up for yourself?
That’s a heavy one. That is a heavy one.
You know, I think that
it definitely takes practice. It’s not something where, like,
one day you just wake up and you’re,
you know, you feel yourself 24 hours a day.
I think that at least for me, it took a lot of, like,
not even affirmations – just, like,
looking in the mirror when I was getting ready and just being, like,
‘You are going to kill it today’.
I don’t know, is that an affirmation?
I don’t know. I just knew that, like,
I had to weirdly, like, talk to myself
and just tell myself that…
it’s weirdly like you just tell yourself that you’re confident
and eventually you just start to believe it.
And if you’re passionate about something, speak up.
There are no wrong answers.
If you’re passionate about it, speak up.
Oh lord, here we go.
Dear Haim,
I made the age-old error of
borrowing my sister’s favorite shirt without asking
and managed to spill red wine all over it.
How do I confess?
Hide it.
Don’t confess. Of course, you would say that.
Deny ’til you die. Of course, you would say that.
Hide it somewhere. Burn it?
I mean, the reason Danielle is not saying anything is because
Alana and I are guilty of stealing Danielle’s clothes and ruining them.
Danielle is like, ‘How many things have you burned in my lifetime?’
I know.
I’m learning a lot today. Yeah.
Ok, here we go.
Dear Haim,
my daughter told me she doesn’t feel as pretty as the other girls at school.
How can I help her feel more confident?
Whoever asked this question, you’re beautiful.
Exactly.
Everyone is beautiful.
I remember, you know, even as early as first grade,
looking at myself and being like, ‘Why don’t I look like this?’
Or ‘Why don’t I have this color hair?’
And all the things that I, growing up looked at, which I wished I could change,
now I love so much.
And now those are the things that I celebrate, because they make me, me.
And every little thing that you have,
you know, every little part of you is beautiful. And it takes time to kind of
believe that and feel that, but it happens
if you just, you know, tell yourself, ‘I am beautiful, I am strong’.
Everything about every single person is beautiful.
Be in it and own it
and just know that you’re beautiful,
no matter what.
That's it.
Was that fine? I think so.
Do you want me to do it again?
No, it’s fine, I think it was good.
Speak now or forever hold your peace.
That was great. Do you want me to do it again?
No Do you want me to do it again?