10 Tips To AMAZING First Impressions AWESOME First Impression Techniques
[0:00:00] Antonio: In today’s video, ten tips to create
an amazing first impression.
[Music] So first off, why do first impressions matter?
Because we want to be around people that we trust.
More than anything else, if we don’t trust you, we don’t want to be around you.
So, we want to build trust above all else.
But, here’s the deal with first impressions is they form very quickly.
We are very stubborn to keep and to believe our first impressions and oftentimes our first
impressions are wrong.
So, that combination right there you really want to make sure that you get the right first
impression because if you mess this up, very difficult to dislodge someone’s opinion
of you.
Why?
Because people want to be right.
Using this is one of the most powerful, it’s a very powerful technique and in this video,
guys, stick around for tip number nine, that one is – is awesome it’s my double secret
weapon.
It’s my ninja technique and I’m going to share it with you, guys, in today’s video.
Tip number one.
Show up on time and do your homework.
Sounds so simple, but people are late all the time.
And if you want to immediately form a bad impression, go ahead be late for meetings.
Yes, okay, find out if you are going to this networking event and it’s a bunch of lawyer
there, but you’re not a lawyer, but you’re looking to market to them, you need to do
your research, you need to know where you’re going into.
If you haven’t done the homework if you haven’t looked at this conference and identify
the people that you want to meet, you’re going to show up there walking to this room
and you’re going to be randomly talking to people.
You want to show up and do your homework, so when you meet that one lawyer that you’ve
been wanting to speak with or that consultant, you can let them know because you’ve done
the research on them, you’ve been watching her YouTube channel and you’ve read his
book.
You’ve done your homework you show up prepared.
Not a punctual person?
Well, I created this video for you.
Go check it out.
I’m linking to it down in the description.
Tip number two.
Wear the right uniform.
If it’s a casual event, dress casually.
If it’s a formal event, dress formally.
If it’s an event that’s outside, wear the right clothing.
Think about who you are what you represent.
Now, for me if I’m going to a casual event, let’s say it’s a networking event it’s
outdoors, I’m still going to probably wear a sports jacket, I’m still going to dress
nice.
Why?
I’ll be out-dressing most the people there because I represent my company.
And that’s the key is you want to make sure that you meet when they talk with you when
they get their card when they learn more about you, you look the part of a success in your
industry.
Tip number three.
Greet people properly.
So, find out what’s normal in your culture.
It may be a bow, it most likely though is a handshake if you’re watching this in English
and through most of the Western world.
But, if you’re over at India if you’re over in China if you’re over in Japan, you
want to make sure, okay, what is the local custom for greeting for a lot of, you know,
events it has now switched to the handshake.
But, be aware when you’re in Rome, do as the Romans.
Next up, eye contact.
So, whenever you walk in and you start talking with somebody, look them in the eyes.
If you are speaking with them about 70% of the time, you want to be making eye contact.
If you are listening you’re talking with someone and you’re just listening, at least
50% of the time you want to be making eye contact.
Now, if you’re interested I’ve got a whole video right here on eye contact.
I’m going to link to that one as well in the description, but I go into a lot more
detail there.
Now, this next tip is really powerful and that’s to assume the people you’re just
meeting already like you.
In fact, look at them like, hey, it’s an old friend I haven’t seen for a decade,
let’s catch up.
Because what’s going to happen is your body is going to relax, you’re going to be much
more open they are going to pick up on it because it’s authentic because it’s real.
They’re going to assume that, hey, obviously I feel good around this person, I like that.
If they like you, they are more likely to trust you.
Remember, that’s our number one goal here, keep things positive and, yeah, just approach
them like they already like you.
Now, this next tip really important, get their name, remember their name, say their name.
Nothing sounds so sweet to people’s ears as their own name.
But, if you mispronounced it, if you say the wrong name, understand that you will immediately
correct yourself, apologize because that is big.
People care about their names and I find there’s a couple of tricks for me that work.
One of them is association.
So, I meet this guy, Tom and I look at him he’s got brown hair, he’s tall, taller
than me and I’m like, hey, just like my brother, Tom.
I make that association.
I also say the name again and again as often as I can to the – I mean believe me people
don’t think it’s weird and people – it helps me remember the name because actually
the physical movement of my mouth.
Now, this tip is for those of you that don’t know what to do with your hands, you’re
kind of moving around, you’re like, ah, how do I act around this person?
I just get really fidgety.
Well, what you should do is pay attention to their body language and mimic their body
language.
One, studies have shown that when people mimic another person, they like them more even when
you give a little bit more of the close off look.
This person is giving you the close off look, you give them the close off look.
Point is if you don’t know what to do with your body or you body language, the easiest
thing you can do is mimic the person you’re speaking with.
[0:05:07] Next up, listen and ask good questions that show you are listening because most people,
they’re not really listening they are waiting for their chance to speak.
Understand that people aren’t that concerned about you.
I’m sorry to break it to you, but they’re more concerned about themselves, so let them
talk.
All right.
So, this next tip is my double secret ninja technique to being referable and memorable
when I talk about myself because the tables will now turn and she’s asking, hey, tell
me about yourself who are you?
Now, this woman she’s a bit older, she’s a high level consultant over at McKinsey.
She’s not my target market, but you know what?
She’s married to a man who could be.
She has man in the office who very much could find my channel and end up loving it, buy
some of my products, sign up for my coaching, come out to Menfluential.
So, the way I become memorable is I talk about the problem which the problem is is you know
how most men don’t dress very well.
I’ve said this thousands of times to people in person and everyone always agrees, they’re
like, oh, yeah, my husband, my friends, or, yeah, I’m that guy.
And at this point now, I finish my introduction.
I help men leverage the science of style to get what they want out of life.
Now, I change it up a bit, but in general that person is like, wow, I like what you
can do there and you can help me, but I would love to introduce you to this person.
And that is the power about having a great pitch about who you are that’s crafted to
that person so that they want to introduce you to other people not because, yeah, they
do want to help you, but for most people they’re like this is a great find.
Now, let’s talk about ending the conversation because let’s admit it, sometimes you want
to escape a conversation.
So, one of the techniques that I love doing is actually looking around and noticing there’s
other people wanting to join the conversation.
I will bring them in.
Now, that’s just good manners and it shows that you’re a team player, but also what
it does it allows you to introduce this person to this person and that gives you an out and
you can say, excuse me, gentlemen, I need to go get a drink and that is key say excuse
me and give a reason.
Remember the goal of a good first impression is to build trust to get people to like you
to want to engage with you more for you to get in their mind they’re going to put you
in a box, we put everyone in a box.
You want to be in that box of this guy was well-spoken and this guy is successful, this
person I want to meet again.
That’s the type of box you want to be in because understand that everyone is going
to put you someplace and you don’t want to be that guy that is just everyone says
like, ah, I don’t – I don’t know what it was I just didn’t like him.
This is something that you can improve upon it’s something you can get better with.
And now, I want to hear from you, guys, down in the comments below what did I miss?
What makes for -- or breaks or just destroys a good impression because I know there are
ways to just mess this up and I’m sure that you guys have seen it and there are of course
all the obvious things which I didn’t get into about, you know, grooming brushing your
teeth, taking care of your body.
Yeah, all those things will help put out a great first impression.
But, I think if you follow this ten-step process you use it you leverage it and this is something
you can get better at.
[Music] Bryant: The best part of the event I think
was meeting all these influencers and all the people that are giving talks were actually
experts in their fields.
After every talk, you get to connect with these people really share ideas bounce ideas
off of them and you get really honest opinions and suggestions.
Timmy: It definitely pushes me to pursue my goals more because I was kind of a little
bit afraid to go into business or pursue my ideas because I don’t know what to do initially,
but now that I meet all these people I hear all of these stories and all these lessons
today, I feel a lot more confident and I feel like I should have no excuse.
[Music] Antonio: And I understand that most people
are screwing this up, but they can overcome it, but that’s for another video how to
overcome.
What do you guys think, should I do another video on how to overcome a bad first impression?
I think that would be a pretty good video, right?
Well, guys, let me know down in the comments.
Take care and I’ll see you in the next video.
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