- Spend your life chasing men who don't want
a relationship with you and I promise you,
you will spend your life as that weird cat lady
down the street who no one wants to talk to.
Don't be that (bleep) cat lady.
Watch this video, learn the signs that he doesn't
want a relationship with you so that you can go ahead
and make yourself available to the guys who do.
Keep watching.
Hey there, Adam Lodolce here from sexyconfidence.com
where I help you create your love story.
And part one of this video, which we are releasing
on YouTube, is the signs that he doesn't want
a relationship with you.
And then we have part two of this video,
which is only for our Sexy Confidence club members.
If you want to join watch part two,
the video is three signs that you are actually not
ready for a relationship yourself.
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So lets jump into the signs that he doesn't want
a relationship with you.
Number one is he's hot then he's cold with his
communication.
You keep in touch maybe once every week or so,
but then he's off and then he's on.
One study that we found of guys who have what we call
back-burners, these guys who have these girls kind of
on the back end, they're not actually at all interested
in a relationship, but they're kind of keeping them going.
They find that 48% of them would talk to them
once a week, but only 7% of them would talk to those
women every single day.
And I can personally attest to that.
Back when I was single many years ago I remember that
I would, quite frankly, be texting some women
who I wasn't really that serious with.
Just they would text me, we would text them,
you kind of keep the thing going on the side.
I wouldn't use the word back-burner,
that sounds a little, that sounds horrible,
but looking back on it I guess they were.
So if you're finding that he's just kind of coming
in and out whenever he pleases,
sorry ladies, he doesn't want a relationship.
You are not a back-burner.
Number two is he's still got (bleep) going on with
past relationships.
I get it sometimes past relationships can be really ugly,
they come out or they come back,
they can go back and forth.
I get that, sometimes that happens.
But I can assure you this, when a guy is still hung up
on his ex and he's still talking to his ex,
he's still having that kind of side relationship
with her, he is not going to jump into a relationship
with you.
So if you're seeing that and he says,
"Oh yeah, it's not a big deal, we're just kind of
"still friends," and he's also not really investing
much of his time into you, then you know what?
Sorry, he's probably not interested in a relationship,
he's probably still hung up on his ex.
Number three is he's constantly leaving you hanging.
I remember many years I had a coaching client who was
really into this one guy, I forget his name,
lets call him Jake.
And Jake was a really cool guy, super high status,
and when they were around, when they were together,
it was like chemistry.
She's like, "It's the best thing I've ever experienced,
"great sex, great conversation, everything is perfect."
But when they weren't together he would A, not text her,
but he would also make plans with her and then
jump right out of the plans like last minute
all the time.
He would constantly leave her hanging.
And what I would tell her, which I'm going to tell
you ladies right now, is that if someone is acting
that way right now in the early stages of a relationship,
imagine what they would be like as a parent.
Imagine what they would be like as a husband.
Imagine what they would be like further,
20 years down the line.
Do you really want that for yourself?
Hell no.
So if you're finding someone's constantly
leaving you hanging, then you know what?
And you're the type of person who's very dependable,
then that person's probably just not a match for you.
Move on, find someone who is dependable,
who's just like you, who's gonna be there for you.
'Cause I think that is such a credible component
of a great relationship.
Number four is you are a complete ghost to his
friends and family.
And every guy knows, and all you ladies know,
that the moment you introduce someone to your friends
or you family, then to everyone else,
they are suddenly your boyfriend or girlfriend, right?
So if he's not willing to do that,
he's not willing to introduce you to his inner circle
and you're a complete ghost to all of them,
then chances are he doesn't want a relationship with you,
probably doesn't want a relationship with anyone,
but the worst scenario is that he's already in
a relationship with someone else,
but he has you on the side.
You don't want any of that (bleep).
So if you're not meeting anyone close in his life,
(bleep) him, he's out.
And finally number five is that his heart just feels
closed off to you.
Throughout our lives I think our heart kind of opens
and closes depending on where we're at in our lives.
And a lot of times I find guys are much stronger
about their heart being closed or open.
Like I found women, when they go through their lives
they're always kind of open to love.
Certainly there's sometimes when you're like,
"Hell no, I'm not interested," but even when you're
in that "hell no" if you meet the right person
you'd be like, "Okay, I'd consider it."
Whereas men, I've found just through my own experience,
through my own life, also coaching both men and women,
when they're closed off, even if we meet the greatest
woman in the world, we're just not there.
Maybe we're not there in our careers,
maybe we just got out of another relationship,
maybe we just want to sleep with a lot of different women,
whatever it is, if our hearts are completely closed off,
there's not much you can do to open that (bleep) up.
So don't waste your time trying to pry something open
that's not there or chase that heart as if that,
once you finally get it it's gonna be amazing and he's
gonna just finally turn around and be there for you.
It's not probably going to happen.
So if you're feeling like it's probably closed,
then that's probably one of the biggest signs
he just doesn't want a relationship so don't waste
your time, please.
We have such a short limited time on this earth,
don't waste your time with someone who's not dying
to (bleep) be with you.
So I want to hear from you, have you ever dated a guy
who's displayed any of these signs?
I'd love to hear from you in the comments
right there below.
How'd it work out?
And also if you want to watch part two of this video,
which are the three signs that you are actually
not ready for a relationship yourself,
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Thank you so much for watching and I'll speak to you,
you sexy single lady, next week, bye-bye.