Now I don't want you to get carried away by what we're gonna be talking about here.
I want to be very clear before I dive in.
This video is not going to be pro friend-zone.
This video is not going to support you getting in the friend-zone in such a way at the hopes
of you eventually being romantic or sexual with that girl, whoever she may be.
I'm not going to be teaching you how to go down the friend-zone route to get her to like
you.
The reason why is simple, because it doesn't work.
It never works.
If you're trying to go what I call the backdoor route.
How do I know?
Oh boy, I've been there many times and I thought that was one of the best strategies that you
could have to get a girl to like you who you're not sure if she would if you just went for
it and if you're scared of rejection.
What happens is (and you might have done this before) is you're scared of the rejection
so you go the backdoor route so you can slide your way in and get her to pay attention to
you by being her friend with the hopes that one day magically, she's going to see you
as a guy that she can date, be sexual with, be boyfriend girlfriend with, get into a relationship
with.
However you have to understand that rarely, if ever happens.
I'm talking 9.8 times out of 10, it does not happen.
Your odds are not so good.
I was the master of this in high school and in college.
Going out talking to women and I was a fun guy.
I was a nice guy so women would pay attention to me and I would be able to pretty easily
make friends with them and I would think wow I got a crush on this girl and then we would
hang out and then I would fall for her even more because she's giving more attention and
getting to know her.
So all of this attention and back and forth engagement is pushing me more and more in
the friend-zone but more and more to like her and I'm thinking here well if we just
spend a little bit more time together then I can maybe suddenly slyly make my move one
day and then it should work.
And there were times when either I wouldn't make the move and nothing would ever happened
because she wouldn't because I was in the friend-zone.
Or I would make my move and I would try to go for a kiss or I would say something to
her and I would be rejected.
Basically what I did there is I completely wasted my time.
Now you're probably thinking Tripp great, but I thought we were going to talk about
why getting into the friend-zone is a good thing.
I'll tell you why.
It's good to get in the friend-zone, not at the hopes of being with her romantically or
sexually, but because getting into the friend-zone with a girl or having a girl as a friend can
be very beneficial to your dating life.
For these reasons; first and in no particular order, when you start to hang out with a girl
and you become her friend and you might already know this, you really start to understand
women on a different level.
I'm not saying that you hang out with them and you can ask their advice and get dating
advice from them and get love advice or sex advice or things like that.
That's not the reason why it's good to hang out with women.
It's good to hang out with them because you can really understand how she's thinking,
how she's acting, how she responds to things in everyday life.
Here's the thing, men and women are inherently different.
We're equal but we are different.
The way we think, the way we act, the things that we're interested in, we are different.
So to understand it better, is to spend time with that person.
And to spend time with her and to really get to know her and just be her friend.
Just like you're a friend with any of your other guys and you get to know them.
But you can really understand how she thinks and how she feels because naturally those
conversations and those things will come up when you guys are together.
Just everyday life things that happen.
So when you get to do that, you really understand more about the psyche of a woman.
And that's going to help you when you're going out and you're dating or when you're in a
relationship, when you're talking to a woman.
So this is not necessarily about going and talking to a woman and getting dating advice
from her.
You'll come to Tripp Advice for that.
But in terms of going and talking to a woman and just being understanding of her energy
and the way she thinks and feels.
And as much as I can tell you that, it's not gonna be as powerful as spending time with
her.
Here's another one.
When you are friends with a girl, you have access to her friends.
That's right.
I'm gonna be very careful here.
I don't mean you have access to her friends in a way where you say to your friend, let's
say your friend is Stephanie and you say hey Stephanie, will you do me a favor?
Will you put in a good word for Ashley or whoever?
No, you don't want to be using your friend to put in any good words.
Yes, that can sometimes work.
But that is a very weak way of going about it.
If you want access to her friends, simply all you have to do is meet them and hang out
with them.
Whether this is high school, this is college, this is your social circle.
When you're older this is people that you meet out and about.
Anytime anywhere having access to more women through a girl friend can be very beneficial
to meeting more women in this way.
Specifically, it's beneficial because it's a warm introduction.
It's already proven that you're a good guy so there's nothing to do that shows that you
need to be trusted because you're going to already be proven that people like you.
You're getting those warm introductions.
So you're going out there and you're meeting the friends of your friend.
Here's the thing also.
I don't think this is the best way to just meet women.
This is just one avenue.
There's all kinds of avenues.
There's meeting friends through your social circle, which is what I just explained there.
There's online dating, there's approaching, there's through your hobbies.
All these different ways of meeting women.
But now this is one more through your social circle in these warm introduction environments.
And who better than to have a girl friend (a girl who's a friend) because she's clearly
gonna have a lot of other girlfriends that you can meet.
And then you can meet the girlfriends of those girlfriends.
Now you're getting access to even more women with more warm introductions.
To reiterate, to really pound this in your head, because I really need you to understand
this is that you're not trying to put yourself in the friend-zone with this girl so you can
eventually be with her.
You're gonna have to be very strict on yourself to make sure that this girl, this woman that
you're getting into a friendship with is not someone that you will ever be with romantically.
And you have to be okay with that.
And if you don't see that, if you don't see yourself being able to not be romantic with
her or to not be attracted to her, then you mustn't do it.
You cannot do it because it's not gonna work.
Because I know that you're going to be pining after her, you're not gonna be going after
other women, and you're going to be wasting your time.
Speaking of wasting time, let me tell you a story about a client that I'm currently
working with.
This client, we've been working together for a while now and he does this all the time.
And if you're watching client, then you know what I'm talking about here.
What you're doing, what he's doing is he's going this backdoor route.
He's always trying to go to the backdoor route.
He's always trying to hang out with girls but not in a date context.
He's always asking me Tripp what can I say here so we hang out but she doesn't think
it's a date, but she kind of thinks it is.
He's trying to do this weird in between thing and finally after so many times of doing this,
I had to pound into his skull.
I said listen to me, you've seen that this does not work.
What happens is you end up going into this weird in between state with them then you
eventually tell them that you like them and it doesn't work out because you've already
been in the friend-zone.
Now finally, after seeing the proof of it never working, I said listen, you have to
go the direct route with this one.
Because he was asking me in what should I do with this girl?
I want to ask her out but not and keep things like light and keep things making sure she
knows I like her but not and that...
So finally I said alright, let's just try this this one time.
Just go direct.
Just ask her out on a date and go for it.
I wrote the text message for him.
He sent it over.
What ended up happening was he said to her hey, would you want to hang out some time?
I think you're really interesting.
I think you're cool.
So he didn't use the word date.
But the way we worded it was very clear that he's asking her out.
And she rejected him.
Now you're probably thinking no Tripp that's not what he wanted.
This is bad advice.
No listen.
This is exactly what he wanted because no matter what, no matter what route he was gonna
go, it wasn't going to happen.
They've already spent enough time together where it's a confusing situation, but they've
already spent enough time together where the decision was already known.
There's not more time that they needed or that she needed to eventually be like, you
know what, I do like him.
That was never going to happen.
And so he got rejected and she did it very politely.
She was like you know what, I'm not dating right now or this is just not the right time,
but I really appreciate that.
We should still hang out as friends.
And I had him respond in a nice way and say okay, cool no worries.
And I told him don't be her friend because you're just gonna be hanging out with her
and you're gonna be attracted to her and it's not gonna work out.
But the moral of the story and the point is my client was so happy.
He said wow, this is amazing because he saw the path that he could have gone down.
The path that he could have gone down was this long path of multiple dates, but really
just hangouts, multiple hours of texting and asking me questions about what he should text
and what he should do.
He told me he saw what could have happened.
And he just saw a ton of wasted time, time that could have been spent going out and talking
to women that actually are interested and are attracted.
We got this done in a matter of 30 seconds with the text.
He got rejected but didn't feel too bad about it because that's life, that happens, not
every girl is gonna like you.
And then boom, no time wasted.
That's the whole point here.
That's why the friend-zone is a very evil terrible place.
Not because the woman puts you there but because you put yourself in there and you waste all
your time.
There's nothing worse than wasted time where that time can be better spent going and friend-zoning
girls who you just want to be friends with.
Meeting they're friends, going out, swiping, online dating, whatever you can do to meet
women who are going to be interested in you more than a friend.
How do you do this all?
How do you put this all together?
How do you get to the point where you are going out there and you're putting your best
foot forward, you're approaching women, talking to women, and getting on dates with women
and they actually like you?
And they're not rejecting you or at least you're getting less rejections.
How do you do this?
I have a whole system that I've created and refined over the past 10 years called Hooked
which you can check out in the link below.
It's called Get Her Hooked.com.
If you go to www.getherhooked.com you're going to go to a page with a video that's going
to describe everything about this program.
Basically, it's an 8 to 10 hour video course that's going to teach you all my best techniques
and my whole system for meeting and attracting women and escaping the friend-zone and making
sure that you avoid it at all costs.
Of course, you have all these videos on my YouTube channel.
But I've noticed that a lot of guys, they get overwhelmed because there's so many videos.
You can watch Tripp Advice videos for hours and hours at this point.
But it doesn't really give you a full guide in terms of where to start and how to put
all this together.
If you are frustrated and you feel like you're not really understanding how to put it together,
you can check out this course which starts from the very beginning of how to talk to
girls, how to get over your approach anxiety, how to understand what attraction is, and
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I teach you that whole process from beginning to end in this course.
You got to check it out.
It's super helpful.
Guys are getting girlfriends left and right.
You'll see that, there's a bunch of testimonials on there that tell guys' experiences and I
want you to see that so you can see how powerful it is.
Check it out at Get Her Hooked dot com.
The link is in the description below.
Stop guessing, stop wasting your time.
If anything you've learned from this video now that wasting your time is one of the worst
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Check this out, stop taking the backdoor route into the friend-zone and start using something
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