Ok… so you’re in a relationship, or you’re dating a guy and you have a wonderful time
when you’re together…
but when you’re apart, Crickets….
You just don’t hear much from him… he’s not texting or calling, and you’re unsure
of what to expect…
You’re missing him, but you’re not sure that he’s missing you.
So… how do you change that…
how do you get a man you’re dating to miss you… and to start showing it.
In this video, I’m going to share 6 things that you can do to make any man miss you.
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OK… how to make any man miss you
First, let's figure out why you want a man to miss you anyway?
Perhaps you’re in a long term relationship and you’re just not feeling appreciated…
so you want to crank up the love index.. or maybe it's s long distance relationship and
you want to see him more.
Or maybe you’ve just had a falling out or recent break up and want to reconcile…
OR, maybe you really like someone and want to know they feel the same way.
Either way, missing someone is yearning for physical or emotional intimacy from a specific
person, but not getting it.
That’s where the phrase…Absence makes the heart grow fonder comes from, right…
But there’s also the phrase…
out of sight, out of mind… you definitely don’t want him to forget about you when
you’re away.. instead, you want him to miss you have his heart grow fonder when you’re
away, … So, without further ado… here are 6 super effective ways to make a guy miss
you…
6.
Give him something to miss…
OK.. so that sounds ridiculous, right?
But simply put, you've got to be that person that he wants to be with the most.
you have to rock his world in a way that no one else can.. and leave him wanting more..
leave him craving more.
and the only one who can satisfy that craving... that need, is you... so you must create that
dynamic... that feeling that he can't get anywhere else.
Every time he thinks of you, he’s going to be thinking about the fun things.. he going
to associate you with everything fun.
And this is number 1.5….. don’t talk about missing him… or telling him you’re going
to miss him.. don’t let him think you’ve become too attached or needy… let him wonder
if your’re actually missing him.
Then he’ll be the one watching these videos..
ok..
I can’t believe I just said that.. but yeah.
So, Keep things light and fun..even though you’re disappointed by the fact that he
doesn’t show you he misses you, you have to hide that disappointment… and keep things
light and fun and carefree.
Not once, but everytime..
light, fun, easygoing, confident….
Not disappointed, frustrated or insecure about where things are going.
5.
Connect with him on an emotionally intimate level.
Now that might seem like the opposite as number 1, but it’s not..
what I’m saying is that you create a safe place for him to be emotionally intimate…
Think back to a time when you felt really close and connected with your partner — or
a time when you felt you could tell your partner your deepest secret and it would be accepted.
We all need that deep connection with someone, and those deep and wonderful feeling of intimacy
flourishes in an atmosphere of safety.
We open up when we feel safe.
We take risks when we feel safe.
Create a safe zone for him to be freely expressive-- To be himself.
That means being a person who is very accepting, caring and compassionate.
When he’s connected with you on an emotionaly intimate level, he will certainly miss you
when he feels disconnected, right?
After all, you want him to be lonely for you… and Loneliness is the feeling we get in our
heart when we want intimacy and to be connected with someone, but no one is available or willing
to connect.
4 Leave Something of Yours Behind
There are many things you can do to encourage him to think of you.
One sure way is leaving a reminder behind in his home or car.
It’s amazing what a tiny item can do.
And make sure it has your personal scent on it.
Think about this..
Have you ever caught a whiff of something and had a flashback to a person or place?
It can be the lightest smell that brings you back to a certain time in your life.
That is because our sense of smell is attached to our memory.
Certain smells will always be associated to different memories in our brain.
If you want a man to miss you, bringing up those happy memories of your past will do
just that.
Be sure that you wear your personal scent every time you see him.
Each time the smell hits his nose, you will come to mind.
It might also be a good idea to spritz a little bit of that scent around his house but be
discrete.
He shouldn’t see you doing this for obvious reasons.
If you leave your scent around his house he’s going to have a hard time getting you off
his mind and not missing you.
DO NOT leave behind a toothbrush or other items that are of an intimate nature because
this will surely cause him to panic.
3.
Then... create some space...
This can be difficult to do.. because When you like someone, you want to spend as much
time with them as possible, right?
So when he invites you out last minute... you can't be available.
That also means that if you want him to miss you, you've got to back off on the communication
with him.. or at the very least...
you can't be the one who is initiating conversations through text, liking social media, or snap
chatting And don’t say “out of sight out of mind”
if you've rocked his world...
if everything he associates with you is positive and fun..... absence is going to make him
miss you.
He’s going to be wondering about you.. let him have the thoughts you’ve had…
trust me on this one...
Keep watching because the first four won’t work unless you can pull off these next two
2 PRIORITIZE YOUR NEEDS…
PUT YOURSELF FIRST.
Sometimes people go out of their way to show the person they’re dating how much they
like them.
In doing so, they feel like they don’t want to disappoint them… they jump at every opportunity
to talk, hang out, text…
Usually that’s a good thing.. but not if you’re trying to peak his interest…
trying to get him to miss you more.
In this case, you need to take the attention off of him, and put it back onto yourself.
Take care of you first… pick up some hobbies, make and KEEP plans with your friends.. fill
up your social calendar….
And when he calls last minute to make plans…
Oops.. sorry, I have plans…
this will make him prioritize and plan his time with you.
1 Become Less Interested and more Mysterious This will only work if you are able to pull
off the first step.. of keeping this light, fun and carefree.
When you pretend to be less interested following a disagreement, or following the disappointing
talk, he will take it to mean that you’re upset, disappointed angry and maybe even pouting..
Instead, you become less interested combined with all of the above, he will fight harder
to regain your attention, and it will make him want to take things to the next level.
Again, put your needs first, take some steps to take your mind off of what he’s doing
or thinking, get busy with friends, work, school, hobbies.. and stop contacting or responding
like he’s your no one priority.
And become more Mysterious..
That means you don’t have to share every detail of your daily activities with him.
No need to over explain every little thing…
you want him to wonder.. to develop intrigue…
share bits and pieces of your life slowly.. make him earn your trust.
These suggestions aren’t anything that you haven’t heard before…
But why are they so difficult for some people to do?
Well… because they feel counterintuitive and risky…
I can hear the reasons and excuses now… if I’m not available he’ll find someone
else, if I’m not responsive he’ll find someone who is, If I don’t call him back,
he will think I don’t like him….
If I seem less interested, he will become less interested or find someone who is more
interested….
Yes.. all of them feel risky…
you’re fearing the worst thing that could happen… he will become less interested,
right?
It wont work..
I should just be myself…
All of them are driven by fear.. the fear of being rejected.
So, as I’ve said in other videos, the most important thing you can do to increase the
quality of your relationship…
your dating experience…
to enjoy your time more…
the most important thing is overcome your fear of being rejected… overcome your fear
of the relationship ending..
What’s the worst thing that could happen…
What is going to happen if you get rejected?
Is the world coming to an end?
Are you going to die?
Nope!
It is simply that the friendship is over and you are no longer dating, right?
if a relationship is meant to be… if he is the person for you, if you are really that
compatible, then implementing these suggestions will certainly make him miss you more…
That’s for sure…
But if it’s not right…
if he’s not the right one for you, if there are too many differences, or if he’s not
the committing type… nothing you can do will change that outcome…
it just wont work… and that means you need to move on to better people.
Oh, yeah.. and there are a few unintended consequences of implementing these suggestions
into your life.. along with the struggle and fear, these suggestions will bring you to
a healthier place.. and ready for the right relationship.
You become stronger and are able to overcome the peaks and valleys better with each lesson
learned.
You become aware of what you want and don’t want in a relationship and are able to make
decisions based on what is best for you.
It is very liberating and empowering to know that if one person rejects you, that person
was not really right and that someone better is coming along.
Have you tried any of these strategies for making a person miss you?
Have you left behind your perfume or sunglasses or something that had your scent on it.
Did it work?
Leave a comment with your response.
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