- The main problem I have with the law of attraction
is that it is surface level.
In 2023 and beyond,
as we're moving more and more into an energy
where I believe it's about transforming from the inside out.
And what a lot of people are intending to do
with the law of attraction is they want to attract things
from the outside in.
It's going about it the backwards way,
and it's also the focus is on the external.
And when you're focused on the external,
we're focused on things that don't already exist within us.
We're focused on waiting for external things to shift
before we give ourselves permission to feel differently
on the inside.
This is why instead of in 2023 focusing on the external,
what I encourage you to do
is to focus more on the internal,
transforming your life from the inside out.
For example, this means if you wanna attract more money,
stop focusing on the money.
The money is a side effect
of a feeling that you feel within yourself
combined with the action you are taking of being.
Being is a present moment thing.
It's in the moment.
Being isn't trying to escape somewhere
to get somewhere else.
So instead of focusing on money for 2023,
focus on what that would make you feel,
which is internally focused,
which you can then transform from the inside out.
What you would feel maybe is security,
maybe that's what money means to you.
Money to me means security.
It means freedom, the ability to travel,
to do what I want, when I want,
the ability to have resources.
This is what money means to me.
And instead of focusing on the outside,
the key is me feeling the energy
and setting the intention to feel that on the inside now.
Because otherwise what happens
is you wait to feel that on the inside
once you have the external thing,
but then you go about it in a lack way.
It's like, I don't feel the abundant, I don't feel secure.
And then it's like, it's even harder.
There's more resistance to attracting that into your life.
But also by the time you actually get there,
by the time you get that external thing,
there's a feeling of it's not enough
because there's a belief there
that I can only feel a specific way
once the thing on the outside is here.
But then you don't even let yourself feel it
when it comes in
because there's almost this energy
of always wanting more,
always wanting to attract the next level.
And there's a false belief that says,
"I can feel this way once this comes,"
but it never really comes
because you just keep upping the ante.
That's what happened
when I was, like, first starting on YouTube.
It was, like, my intention
is to have 100,000 YouTube followers.
And then when I hit that, I was like, "Okay, oh my gosh."
I feel so great for 20 minutes.
I remember going to the gym,
it was Life Time Athletic in Vegas,
and I go on this bike thing
and I'm, like, going on the bike
and I'm looking around
and I'm, like, it feels pretty much the exact same.
You know what'd be better than 100,000?
200,000.
Oh my gosh, 200,000?
That's like double, things are going quicker now?
Like, what would that feel like?
And then eventually I went out to, like, Sprouts
and, like, I had my first encounter
with somebody that recognized me for my videos
and I was like, "Oh my God, I'm worthy.
I'm enough."
And then I realized as time went on,
just how fickle this whole thing was,
how ridiculous it all was.
How it was just this belief in the mind
of wanting validation and approval.
And then I let go of it.
And the more I let go of it, the more everything grew.
The more you let go, the more this stuff comes in.
Because I also started giving my self
my own sense of validation.
I realized I am not only validated
when I have a million subscribers,
or even when I'm making videos
for people that add value to them.
'Cause that was a belief that I had for a while.
I have value for just being me, gets more to the core.
But then even think about this
when it comes to some of you in 2023
may wanna attract a relationship.
So what are you gonna focus on?
"I wanna attract a relationship.
I wanna attract somebody that come into my life
and oh my gosh, that'll feel so good."
But instead of that,
what do you really want from the relationship?
You wanna feel connected.
Maybe.
You wanna feel love, you intend to feel love.
You intend to feel connected.
You intend to feel compassion within yourself
and at one with everyone around you.
And once again, attracting a relationship is a side effect
of the self-love you feel for yourself.
Once again, it's not the external thing.
And then even this, if you get the relationship
but you don't work on yourself
and you don't transform from the inside out, guess what?
It's not enough.
Or you're in the relationship and you're like,
"Oh, this seems like a lot of work.
Maybe there's someone else out there for me."
And then there's always this belief
that here right now is not good enough.
I need more and then I will feel good.
But it's just coming from this one false belief
that says that something on the external
can help me feel whole on the internal.
And, of course, that's a false belief,
just something we've bought into in the past.
I'm realizing for myself
just how much more empowering it is to where I can meditate.
I can feel that love inside of myself.
I can feel that abundance and security inside of myself.
And as I do that,
as I let go of trying to control the external,
it's like things just pop in.
I'm in the right place at the right time.
I'm still taking action, by the way,
taking action but not from a place of,
I need to escape where I am to get somewhere else.
Taking action from a place of this is who I choose to be,
this is who I choose to be.
One of the main reasons I'm recording this right now
in January of 2023, the 2nd,
and on January 28th,
the intention is to run a live event here in Austin.
Even without, like,
there's not gonna be months and months of promoting it.
It's literally gonna be just like this thing I do
that's very casual.
The main reason I'm doing it, by the way,
is to get into the energy of doing live events.
I know that when I step into that version of me,
it's gonna activate something inside of myself.
And I've done live events before, by the way,
I run retreats a couple times a year.
I did The Shift Experience live event in May of 2022,
it was awesome.
But I wanna do this more consistently
to normalize this new frequency.
I'm doing it, though, to get into the energy of it,
to feel that passion.
I'm following the passion, I'm being it,
and even doing the live event when I'm in it,
I'm gonna be enjoying the process and soaking that in.
And the reason I share that with you
is there might be something for you to step into in 2023
that if you stepped into,
it would activate a new level of yourself.
You realize you only attract a reflection on the outside
of the inner transformation that you've made.
And part of that inner transformation
may be stepping into a new you.
Maybe you stepping into the unknown.
A good example of this was like,
I realized that when I was working a nine-to-five job
selling in women's shoes,
I only attracted relationships that were,
because I was working a job I hated,
I only attracted other people that hated their job.
Then I started doing what I love.
And as I started doing what I love,
now I only attract women that I date
that also do what they love,
which is very convenient
because then it's easy to have the abundance to travel,
or, you know, normally it's like,
something they're passionate about.
It's a different energy.
So realize if you wanna attract love in 2023
but you're remaining in your own energy,
it's a different frequency.
Your reflection in your life,
of your relationships,
is an extension of the inner growth you make
within yourself.
So something to really focus on is yourself,
your own energy.
Where is that going?
Are you doing what you're passionate about?
Are you being the most authentic version of you?
And as you do that, what you're gonna find
is that reality begins to change as a reflection.
But remember, all the outer reality is,
is a reflection of the internal.
And I've been letting, also, another level to this,
is I've been letting the external
in a way as I notice things happening in my life,
I let it be opportunities to lean into emotions
that normally I may not allow myself to feel.
I allow reality in a way to help me do my own inner growth,
to lean into emotions that are uncomfortable to feel,
to let them be there without trying to control them.
And then I don't develop a story about the external.
Remember, the external is just a reflection of the internal.
So if somebody else does something to you
and there's a trigger there,
the answer isn't necessarily always to like,
sometimes it is to put someone in their place
and say, "Hey, don't cross the boundary here."
But that's an external boundary.
The internal boundary is realizing,
"Oh, when this person said this to me,
it reminded me of something that,"
another memory comes up
of when you were a zero to seven years old,
where you can realize, "Oh, that's where that stems from."
Earlier this year, I went through a betrayal,
and there was an emotion and a story that was tied to this.
Why did this person do this?
How could they, blah, blah, blah.
But then what happened is there was a realization there
that this is just a trigger to realize
that there's some type of story
of something that happened a long time ago.
So this is just replaying that same pattern out.
And can I lean into the emotion of feeling that,
of feeling that energy
and then getting to a place of forgiveness,
which has ended up being what happened?
And the reason I share this
is because 2023, I believe as well,
is if you want to have changed the external,
the key is leaning into and feeling on the internal.
Not suppressing it, not repressing it, not putting it
and, like, shoving it down, but actually feeling it.
And the more you feel it,
the more you process it from your body
and the more you become aware of it.
Now I'm very aware where if I were to attract a situation
like that again, I would be aware of it
and it would be kind of, like, a red flag.
Because once you become aware, once the egg is cracked open,
you can't necessarily put it back together.
You're already aware.
So if you wanna change your relationships on the outside,
the key is becoming more aware
of your energy on the inside,
become more aware of the energy
you haven't been allowing yourself to feel,
become more aware of what emotions you want to feel.
So 2023, what do you intend to feel more of?
Is it money?
Because that's not a feeling.
Or is it security?
Is it freedom?
You think you wanna attract a relationship,
but, really, do you want to feel more love?
Which could mean self-love,
could mean connection,
which means you could feel connection
by going out in nature, playing with an animal, kids.
There's many ways to get and to feel these energies
and to realize that as you tap into the resonance
of this energy, that's when reality begins to shift.
And when you're being it in the present moment
because it's who you choose to be,
not because you're trying to escape it.
And the more you do that,
the more reality really begins to change.
And the more that you'll notice
that everything on the outside
shifts because of that energy.
Now, if you wanna learn the six steps
to completely transform your life this year, step by step,
very practical to create that transformation
on the inside out, go ahead and watch this video right here.
It will change your life.
When we look at our life, we are living in direct alignment
with our meanings and with our agreements.
If we work a nine-to-five job we hate,
it's because we've agreed
that working this nine-to-five job that we hate
is something that we-