Hey everyone, Stefan here from projectlife
mastery.com. In this video, I'm
going to share with you guys how to
develop, build, and cultivate grit. I
recently read a great book called Grit
by Angela Duckworth. I shared a lot
of the book on my Snapchat as I was
reading the book. It's actually a book that
you guys voted on on my Snapchat that
you guys thought I should read it. I
want to share with you guys how to
develop grit. It's a really great
book by a psychologist, Angela Duckworth,
that shares her study of success and
determining what makes a difference
between someone who's successful and
someone that isn't. She goes and
she studies the National Spelling Bee
students and participants of that that
win. Studying in a West Point, the Military
Academy and professional athletes and
all that sort of stuff, and she
determines that grit is something that
separates people that are successful
from those that fail. She talks about
perseverance, and passion, and how it's
more important than talent. A lot of
people, they're so obsessed with talent and
they don't realize that your perseverance and your
passion is more powerful than that,
because if you have that, you're going to
bring out more the talent that you
already have. How do you build
grit? She basically explains, there's
two different ways of going about it.
There's the internal way, and then
there's the external approach. The
internal approach is developing your
passion by experimenting with many
different things, because if you're
passionate about something, you're going
to be grittier with that. If
you're passionate with something, then
you're going to be able to get
past all the adversity and challenges
just because the passion will pull you
through. There's a great technique
that she shares that can help you
cultivate the grit to improving yourself
everyday to a ritual that you can
have. It's something that you can incorporate
to your daily routine. What that ritual
is, is something that she calls the hard
thing rule. The hard thing rule. The
hard thing rule is basically a ritual
where every single day,
you've got to do a hard thing. Every
day, you're going to do a hard thing, because
that's how you build grit. You don't build grit
by doing things that are easy, or
or convenient, or comfortable. That
doesn't build your grit.
It's like building a muscle. You
don't build a muscle by lifting a
lightweight that you can lift a hundred
times. You build your muscle by
pushing yourself beyond what your
current comfort zone is, what's
currently within your limitation. You push
beyond that, and that's how you get
stronger. That's how you grow. The
hard thing rule is basically the
same premise; is that every day, you're
going to do something that's hard. You're
going to do something that's outside your
comfort zone. That could be
anything. It could be going to
the gym and push yourself a little bit
further. Actually making your
workout a hard workout so that you grow
and you develop that grit. You got to push
yourself past it. It could be when you
meditate each day. Meditating a little
bit longer. Pushing yourself.
Meditating. Getting past
5 minutes, or 10 minutes, and trying to
control your thoughts. That
can help build up your grit. Maybe
it's in your business and pushing yourself a
little bit further. Doing something that
you're scared to do. Maybe it's getting
up in front of a camera and speaking.
Maybe it's writing. Maybe writing is hard
for you. Your English isn't as good, but you push
yourself a little bit further. Everyday,
you're building your grit. It
can be many different things,
but the point is to do something hard.
In the book,
Angela Duckworth is constantly asked by
parents saying, "How do you raise your
kids?" "How do you build gritty kids?" Because
what she studied and determined is that
unconditional love for kids is
important, but you can't overdo it,
because a lot of kids, if you just ... A lot
of parents, for example, they try to
protect their kids. They don't want them
to go through any adversity or
challenges. They want everything just to
be a smooth sailing life for them.
That's not how the real world works,
because if you just shower
your kids with unconditional love and
then once they grow to become adults, they're
going to get destroyed in real life. They're
going to get destroyed, because they're not
going to know how to deal with
adversity. They're not going to have the grit
to be able to deal with it. The hard
thing rule is what she recommends for
kids. You want
to teach your kids, and everyday, you got to do
something hard to build grit. You want
to give them that unconditional love, but
also, you want to challenge them. You want
them to go to adversity, and
failure, and struggle, and to figure out
the answers on their own so that they
can develop their grit and be able to have
more perseverance in their life. The
hard thing rule guys, it's what I want
to share with you guy today. That's
the internal way of building grit. The
external way is through coaches, and
mentors, and role models, and people that
can push you. I believe in having that as
well. I've had coaches for many years in
my life, but the hard thing rule
is a great standard to live by. It's something
that you should incorporate to your life
and ask yourself, "What is one thing I
could do today that's going to be hard, that's
going to be challenging?" Make sure that you
commit yourself to do it. It's all relative
based on every human being, because what's
hard for you might be easy for someone
else.
You can't compare yourself to
others. You got to make sure that
whatever it is that you're doing every
day, that you're committing to, is a
challenge for you. In doing so, you're
going to build your muscle, you're going to
build your grit, and your capacity to be
able to do more.
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