hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 16 laws of psychological
power now let's begin number one stand above good work goes unrecognized if you want to gain power
a good work ethic is not enough putting in long hours can easily be overlooked the people who
find power and success are the people who work hard and get recognized if you don't stand out
you'll blend into the background your work will be overshadowed and forgotten no matter how excellent
you are so take every opportunity to lead and prove yourself if you stand out you can achieve
your goals ahead of the rest number two hide your intentions imagine you're buying a new car
at the dealership a car salesman shows you a model that you absolutely love you tell the salesman how
eager you are to own this car the salesman knows your intentions so he raises the price why because
you gave him the power in the conversation that's why it's so important to hide your intentions all
right let's go back to our example you love the car but this time you act like you just don't care
now you have the power the salesman has to convince you to buy from him most of the time
salesmen will drive down the price just to win you over so if you want to gain psychological power
hide your intentions hold the power in every exchange make the final decision because
you want to stay in control give someone just enough details to stay interested but keep your
true intentions to yourself number three actions over arguments you can argue as long and as hard
as you want you can take home the moral victory but winning an argument achieves almost nothing
to gain psychological power don't waste your time arguing if someone wants to argue let them if they
get defensive let them nurse their own ego but you know that actions speak louder than words your
behavior will win over more people than a good argument ever will number four mind your words
the more you speak the less valuable your speech becomes this is one of the most important laws
of psychological power if you speak only when necessary you increase the power of your words
people will learn to listen to you they'll learn to take you seriously and you'll earn their
undying respect so if you speak less you also stop yourself from making clumsy mistakes many
people run their mouths and then back themselves into a corner they leak details or make promises
they can't actually keep so if you're mindful of what you say you avoid these pointless mistakes
you ensure that every word is intentional and purposeful and that gives you psychological power
number five cultivate confidence your path will be littered with obstacles failures and setbacks
your luck will run out people will tell you to quit and your own brain will stand
in your own way but the people who give up deprive themselves of psychological power
so if you want to improve cultivate confidence in your life let your small successes empower
your self-worth let each victory give you the courage to overcome your next obstacle
psychological power isn't just your relationship with others it's also how you treat and motivate
yourself number six hire your enemies friends are dangerous on your path towards success we
turn a blind eye to our friends we overlook their mistakes and put too much trust in their decisions
just when you think you trust someone they stab you in the back and your career begins to suffer
instead of getting blindsided by people you trust earn the loyalty of people that you don't you
may not like your enemies but hiring someone you don't trust gives you a clear-headed objectivity
your enemies will also show you more loyalty because they have something to prove friends
are an important part of your life but friends can steal your power in a heartbeat
number seven people are selfish if you need a favor don't expect people to be selfless
people are more likely to help when they have something to gain if they don't get as much as
they give then you're out of luck any time you ask for a favor don't waste your time with kindness
or gratitude appeal to their self-interest explain how they'll be rewarded convince them that helping
you will solve their problem make sure they know exactly how they're going to benefit in the future
if someone thinks they're helping themselves they're much more likely to do you a favor
number eight avoid commitment avoid unnecessary promises commitments get people in trouble they
lock you into one side they trap you in a box if your team goes down you'll go down with them
that's why powerful people avoid commitments they stay open to multiple sides angles and
perspectives they keep one foot in every camp so they can make the most out of every situation
powerful people always stay on top because they're only committed to one person
themselves number nine play yourself down everyone wants to feel intelligent if you
want to win people over make sure they feel smart sometimes that means you have to play dumb but you
already know you're intelligent the fact that you can play dumb means that you have nothing to prove
to put it simply most people don't care how intelligent you are
all they care about is their own brain power so play into their hands make them feel smart
give them confidence in their own ideas you'll only make enemies by proving your intelligence
number 10 support your superiors if you want to climb the ladder you have to respect the latter
don't try to outshine the people above you these people will be stepping stones on
your road to success you need their help so don't turn your superiors against you
support your boss be their right-hand man not their rival when the next great opportunity comes
your superiors will recognize and recommend their allies not their enemies now sometimes this means
making your bosses feel smarter than they are sometimes this means giving them too much credit
for something you really did but if you want to be successful never forget to support your superiors
number 11 stay concentrated to find psychological power don't just identify your strengths develop
them many people can do many things at an average level but they're so busy jumping from skill to
skill that they rarely specialize in anything specialties are one of the keys to success if
you concentrate on one strength you can build a talent unlike anyone else's and in the same way
if you want to build psychological power don't spread yourself too thin concentrate on one
direction one project or one purpose invest yourself wholly in that one direction it's a
bigger risk but with enough dedication your reward will be exponentially greater number 12 effortless
achievement what do you say after finishing a huge project do you tell people how hard you
worked or do you say it was no problem to gain psychological power play down your achievements
make each accomplishment seem easy and natural because people will believe you even if you
invested countless hours into your work show the world someone who's confident and collected
you should never forget how hard you worked but the world doesn't need to know number 13 the
giant shadow are you succeeding a legend do you have gigantic shoes to fill this is a big problem
on the surface filling a large void seems like a fantastic opportunity however if your predecessor
did amazing things you have your work cut out for you to get the same level of recognition
you have to surpass the person who came before you depending on the job that may be almost impossible
so don't fill the shoes of a legend instead be the person who brings your team back from the brink
fill the void of someone who failed and your success will shine twice as brightly
number 14 set anger aside do you lose your temper anger's a destructive emotion on your road towards
success anger makes you impulsive narrow-minded and selfish if someone makes you angry they
know they've gotten the best of you they know they've hit a nerve so they'll keep pushing
instead of getting angry grow distance ambivalence is a far greater punishment than anger when you
ignore someone you steal their power you force them to get your attention you make them do the
work strong emotions will hurt your decision making and help others take advantage of you
so keep your frustrations to yourself stay calm and stay objective whenever possible
number 15 the calm rush time is a common source of psychological power the most powerful people
are masters of timing and time management not only do they pack incredible amounts of work
into their daily schedules they never let their busy days get the best of them at least not on the
outside they always seem cool calm and collected they're never rushing or sweating they're always
patient with their work and their goals because rushing is a recipe for disaster it creates
anxiety and it hurts your reputation instead of letting time control you stay in control of your
time your psychological power depends on it number 16 calculated value they say the best things
in life are free but if you want psychological power you'll need to spend money when it counts
some things are worth paying for even if it's just a name or a title the effect of that name or title
is worth all the money in the world it's okay to be cheap and cost effective in your personal life
however if you want to climb the ladder you cannot cut corners hey thank you for
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