- Physical touch is important in any relationship
and we're now discovering just
how important physical touch is.
There was great book written by Gary Chapman
called The 5 Love Languages and I loved this book
because one of the love languages
that people experience is physical touch.
And what was ground breaking about this book
is it made it okay that people actually receive love
through these different languages
and it actually created a new conversation
for those people who physical touch,
which is about 20% of all people, one in five people,
their primary love language is touch.
So it's beyond just sexuality.
It's actually how they receive and want to give love
in their relationships.
There was a great quote, in fact,
that I read a while back,
and the persons says,
"Those who say the way to a man's heart is
through his stomach, is actually aiming too high."
Now contrary to popular thought,
there is actually more than just one place
that you can touch a man to help him feel connection
and help him feel love with you and to really turn him on.
So in this video, we're gonna explore 10 ways
to touch your man that will drive him wild.
Check it out.
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So let me start with a bit of a warning
because we're gonna start with some non-sexual touch
but things are gonna get a bit steamy in here
towards the end of this video so you want to,
no, I said steamy at the end of this video.
Okay, better.
So, you want a little bit of viewer discretion advised
so if there are kiddies around,
you might wanna get the kiddies out of the room
because we're gonna go deep and real
with the 10 ways to touch your man to drive him wild.
And I also wanna say this, every man is different.
Part of what we learn from the Kinsey Reports
and all of those sexual studies is that every one
of us is different in how we want to express sexuality
and what turns us on.
So your man is unique.
He's a unique individualized expression of himself
so you wanna have a dialogue, a conversation with him
and really explore what ways actually turn him on
and use this as an experiment.
But we're gonna explore 10 things
that you can actually try out and I'm sure that a few
of these are actually going to hit the spot,
if you know what I mean.
So my team and I did a bunch of research
and we found some great research done
by a couple of British universities
and a South African university that actually became one
of the largest studies done on sensuality and sexuality
and eroticism and what turns people on.
And the first thing that turns people on
(buzzer buzzes) is not the feet,
believe it or not,
which is interesting because so many studies
that we found in other places,
oh the feet is a great erotic zone.
Now maybe for you it is.
I know it definitely is not for me
but it found that in this study over 800 people ranked feet
as one of the lowest erogenous zones on their body.
A lot of studies will say that feet are an erotic zone
because the area in your brain that is responsible
for the feet receptors is right next
to the genitalia receptors
and because they're so closely related is often shared
as an erotic zone but the latest and greatest research say
steer clear of the feet.
Which brings me to our actual number one erogenous zone
which is the hands and the forearm.
And it's actually touching the hands
with the pads of your fingers real gently like this.
And what's kind of cool, and I find this cool
cuz I'm kind of nerdy, is that neuroscientists
have actually found out the right tempo to stroke his hand
or his forearm.
Stroke really any part of the skin on his body
and that's five centimeters a second,
which is about this speed,
actually creates the most sexual tension with that activity.
Number two is fingernails in the back of the head
through the hair.
This is awesome.
He is going to love this.
Oh man that feels good.
And especially when he's driving.
Try it when he's driving.
Just reach over and put your fingernails
in the back of his head.
He's gonna love this.
Oh yeah, oh thank you.
Number three is the ear and the ear lobe
and this is how you work the ear and the ear lobe.
You can whisper something really sexy to him
and move down and suck his ear lobe
and even use your teeth to kinda give him a little bite
on his ear lobe.
But know this, every person actually has one side stronger
than the other that's more erogenous.
So you can experiment with him,
his right side or his left side,
he's gonna have more of an emotional reaction,
more of a sexual reaction to one side or the other.
So ask him, say, "Hey what, how do you want me
to talk to you?
What dirty thing can I say to you
and let's experiment, what side do you like
versus the other?"
You have one side over the other that's more sexually active
and so what you can do actually as an experiment
is close your eyes, imagine someone that you would love
to get down and dirty with, someone you'd love
to be sexual with and what do you want them to say to you
and then imagine they're saying it to you on your right side
and see how you feel.
Imagine they're saying it to you on your left side,
see how you feel.
And you'll notice, one side will have more energy
than the other and you can teach your partner
to talk dirty to you on that side.
Number four is the back of the legs.
Now this one's an interesting one
because they found that there were a few major differences
in the research about what men found erotic
and what women found erotic and women did not report
back of the legs erotic
but men reported it as erotic as their ear lobes.
So it's interesting because I don't,
the back of the legs is flat for me personally
but you might want to try this and massage,
when you're giving him a back massage,
work down to the back of the legs
and work up towards the upper thighs
and who knows, your man just might really like it.
Erogenous zone number five is his neck.
Little kisses, little nibbles on his neck,
hickies if you're 13 years old.
You can work the side of the neck.
You can even work the front of the neck.
The author of Sexual Reflexology talks
about the thyroid, the organ on the front of the neck,
is actually connected to your sexual organs.
So as you lick up the front of the neck,
you lick up his Adam's apple, you're taking him
to heaven, taking him to a whole nother level.
Number six is his face and jaw.
Go ahead and stroke his face and jaw
with your hands, especially when you're kissing
because the jaw is linked to masculinity.
When you're stroking his jaw,
you're going to ignite his masculine.
Number seven is stroke his lips.
See, we're used to kissing, obviously, lip to lip,
but before you kiss him, gently explore his lips,
gently touch his lips with your fingers
and as you're exploring him,
this actually builds the tension before the kiss.
Alright, we're gonna steam this up a little bit
with number eight.
Number eight is below the belly button.
It's actually the area between the belly button
and his genitals.
And as you're stimulating that area,
as you're stroking that area and you're going down
to his area and then back up again to his belly button,
that's creating this sexual tension
that is rocketing through his entire body.
And number nine is similar.
It's his inner thighs.
Just like you, the skin on the inner thighs of men
is incredibly sensitive.
So as you're working towards the area, his penis,
his genitals, you can stimulate the inner thigh
and build that sexual tension.
That way it also creates that sexual tension stimulation
throughout his entire body.
Number ten is the thumb.
See, lots of guys, we've been conditioned to focus
on the penis for sexual pleasure
but when you can begin to introduce other areas
of the body for erotic experience,
it begins to connect his whole body for a whole nother level
of sensation and pleasure.
So one way that you can use this is during foreplay,
start playing with his hands
and then suck on his thumb.
Many men report that their thumb,
especially when you're sucking on their thumb,
that's an erotic experience for them
and it signals them to sucking on something else
and possibly what's to come later on
in the love-making experience.
The other way that you can use this
is actually when you're making love with your man,
suck on his thumb at the same time
and that links his whole body together in another way
that he probably hasn't experienced before.
So there you have it, 10 ways to touch your man
to drive him wild.
And I would love to hear from you.
What are some sexy ways that you have found
to drive your man wild?
Post those in the commments section below.
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That is very good.
Linked to masculinity.
Kind a like, kinda like that.
And when you stroke his face,
you are (laughs).
Whoa, maybe not that thumb.
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