have you ever felt a little shy in a situation or even maybe associate yourself as being shy
well I think a majority of us have but perhaps the extent of shyness is what matters we all
have a common characteristic trait of being a little quiet and timid sometimes but extreme
shyness especially in public can hold you back in life shyness will prevent you from communicating
effectively defending yourself voicing your opinions and even defending those whom you care
about sometimes shy people are even mistaken for being snobby shyness can be described as
a chronic nervousness often accompanied with the inability to communicate effectively especially
with strangers or in a crowd situation sometimes it's confused with being introverted but being
introverted is the characteristic of being stimulated by internal thoughts and feelings
rather than external events it's possible to be an introvert but not shy in case you're not sure
if you're simply reserved or shy here are a few things to consider do people keep reintroducing
themselves to you because they never remember your name or ever meeting you are you always waiting on
other people to start a conversation to kill the silence do you slow your pace a bit when walking
in a group to avoid being the leader do you feel nervous when your friends leave you alone with
strangers do you prefer to keep to the corners when you attend a party if you responded yes to
all the questions above then you're probably shy the good news is that it is entirely possible to
overcome shyness because if you don't you may end up missing out on life-changing opportunities here
are a few methods that you can apply to help you overcome shyness first don't continuously label
yourself as a shy person telling people that you are shy will only reinforce the shyness
while there's nothing wrong with admitting that you're shy to yourself there is no need to tell
the rest of the world if someone around you brings up your shyness speak of it lightly
in a casual tone instead of being frightened prove to yourself and to others that you have
nothing to be embarrassed about part of being shy comes with a lack of confidence the fact that you
don't believe in yourself will always prevent you from expressing your thoughts and as you
know conversations need ideas and therefore the second step is believing that your ideas
are just as important as anyone elses build up the confidence to not only voice your opinion
but also defend it you can start off by noting down what you're good at and appreciating it it
doesn't matter how small it seems because it's the small wins that count once you're able to
appreciate yourself for who you are you will have an easy time displaying confidence the
third step is noting when you're being nervous and instead of rewarding it resist it as a shy
person you're more inclined to avoid social gatherings and disappear from them altogether
as you work towards eliminating shyness learn to stay in social gatherings walking away from
people is not a solution you need to inform your brain that shyness can be overcome and that it's
not an emergency even if you don't talk to anyone learning to be comfortable in a crowd is a step
in the right direction once you're comfortable around people you can proceed to the next step
the fourth step is learning to embrace small talk it's common to find shy people avoiding
conversations often insisting that their unnatural or disingenuous the reality is that besides your
family a majority of the people you know were once strangers part of creating friends and
getting into deeper conversations means that you have to start out with the simple ones asking
how a person's doing how they know the host or even what they do for a living is a simple way
to warm up to a person start a conversation with a stranger today and with time you'll find it easier
to hold conversations for even longer periods once you're able to construct full sentences
you'll realize that talking to strangers isn't that hard shy people have a tendency to replay
embarrassing moments in their heads therefore the fifth step in overcoming shyness is to quit
playing out previous awkward moments in your head no you won't mispronounced that word you
mispronounced in high school you won't fall over when you walk in your heels no one's going to
laugh at you when you start speaking when you talk confidently people will pay attention resist the
urge to imagine yourself failing and cultivate encouraging thoughts within yourself remember
that everything you're saying doesn't have to be accurate or correct but you need to say it
to initiate a conversation once you've mastered the courage to talk to and be around people try
treating interactions like a sport as the sixth step take note of the improve you make every time
maybe the first time you manage to stay through an entire party reward yourself because that's a
win maybe you talk to one person today and managed to mumble hello or you decided to talk to a lady
and ask her out you chose to approach your boss to pitch an idea each of these choices deserves
to be celebrated another important and perhaps overlooked step towards overcoming shyness is
choosing your relationships yes the people you keep around you could be reinforcing the shyness
within you knowingly or unknowingly stay away from bullies or teasers especially those that
enjoy embarrassing you in public instead seek warm and encouraging friends that will praise
you patch your back and also participate in your conversations when they see you struggling lastly
learn to observe your surroundings because you will recognize that you're not alone there will
be those that keep to themselves there are others that will struggle with conversations but at
the end of it all it means that they're trying chiness is not a strength but it's also not the
end of your world you are capable of improving your social skills boosting your confidence and
learning how to speak out without being pointed at it's all a matter of practice and patience
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