Hey, this is Mat Boggs and my mission is to help you understand the hearts and minds of
men and expand the love in your life.
Today, we're going to be answering the question, "How do you respond when someone asks you
that dreaded question, 'Hey, you're so great but why are you single?'"
Right?
Perhaps you felt that angst when someone asked you that question because maybe you don't
know the answer to why you've been single.
Maybe you are dumbfounded yourself in ... I don't know why I'm still single.
That's why I'm here to date you, big guy.
Right?
We're going to answer what do you say in response to that that leaves you feeling empowered
and creates the attraction in him and positions you as a high value woman.
Let's have a little fun with this and play a little game.
I've created three responses for you right here, ways that you can respond to the question,
"Why are you still single?"
Two of these responses are not ways that you want to respond.
One of them is a positive response that will create the result that you want.
So, let's check out these responses and see if you can identify which one is the best
response to use.
All right?
Let's check out response A. Voiceover: Why are you still single?
Response A: I don't know why I'm still single.
I guess it just must be when I was in line in heaven, God handed out a card that said,
"You will be doomed in love for the rest of your life."
Huh?
I don't know.
Why are you still divorced?
Mat Boggs: All right, let's check out response B.
Voiceover: Tell me, why is someone like you still single?
Response B: Drinks.
Would you like a drink?
Let's get a drink.
Waiter, can I get a drink over here?
Mat Boggs: Finally, let's check out response C.
Voiceover: Why are you still single?
Response C: Good question.
I've actually loved my time being single.
I'm blessed.
I have an amazing life.
And now I'm at a point where I'm really ready to find someone special to share that life
with.
Mat Boggs: Okay, so that was C. So, I know it's tough, I know it's a hard decision, but
which answer is the correct answer for the most positive response to the question, "Why
are you still single?"
The answer is?
Voiceover: C. Mat Boggs: Yes, it's C. As you could tell,
I've been watching way too much Mickey Mouse Club with my daughter.
But I love this game because it helps us understand.
Let's unpack why answers A and B actually create the opposite effect of what we really
want and why answer C is so powerful.
Response A was a defensive response, right?
Response B was an avoidant response.
Well, any time someone asks us a question and we get triggered, those are typically
the two responses we'll give.
We'll either get defensive and fight or we'll be avoidant and run.
That's the fight or flight response.
It's interesting, when we get triggered in something, it's because there's a part of
us that believes that there might be something true about their question or about what it
means to us.
So you want to ask yourself this question.
"Is there a part of me that believes that I might be flawed or there's something wrong
with me and that's why I'm single?"
Typically, that's one of the mental meanings that we'll give it.
If there is, you want to squash that belief.
You want to eradicate it, you want to dissolve it.
Remind yourself that there is nothing wrong with you, there is nothing flawed with you.
That you are amazing and you are attracting a man into your life that knows it is a privilege
and a blessing to be your man and he will love you as you love him.
Now, let's take a look at response C and why that is so powerful.
The reason that response C is so powerful in that you've loved your life being single
and now you're ready to attract an amazing man to share your amazing life with is because
you are a woman of choice.
You are a woman who lives her life by design, not by default.
You are a creator in your life, not just waiting to see what comes to you and being a victim
of who's going to choose you and who's not going to choose you.
You are actually creating something incredible in your life.
That is a very powerful place to come from and a very attractive place to come from.
When you position yourself that way he's going to be like, "Wow, man, this woman ... I love
this.
I love this woman.
In fact, I want to live my life that way."
Now, you may be thinking the thought, "Ah, I don't know if I can answer with that response
because what if I didn't love my life being single?"
Well, consider this.
I bet there are lots of parts of your single life that you did love, that you did enjoy.
There were chapters, adventures you took.
Times with your friends that you absolutely loved.
So, tune in to that, focus on that and own that because you can respond from that place
of authenticity when you're owning the parts that you do love.
Nobody has a perfect life but it's about saying, "I designed this and there are lots of parts
of it that I love.
Because here's the deal.
You did design your life.
You designed it while you were single and now you are designing it with an amazing man
in your life.
So if anyone asks you the question, "Why are you still single?"
Go ahead, from a grounded place of confidence, give them that positive response so that they
can see you as the woman you are and they know that it is a blessing and a privilege
to be the man in your life.
Now I have a question for you.
What responses have you found to be highly valuable when someone asked you the question,
"You are so great, why are you still single?"
Go ahead and post those responses below in the comment section because that can be a
blessing and help everybody who's watching these videos.
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