Pain is associated with bad,
and pleasure is associated with good, and that's not true.
That most, all growth, you can't get stronger physically or mentally
unless you're having pain, because you're stretching yourself,
you're going into a new level. So pain is good.
We have, most people have not been raised
with the notion that knowing what your weaknesses are is pleasurable.
Pain is associated with bad, and pleasure is associated with good,
and that's not true. That most, all growth,
you can't get stronger physically or mentally unless you're having pain, because
you're stretching yourself, you're going into a new level.
So pain is good. If you're exercising right,
go exercise at the gym, it starts off painful,
but as you start to get going with it and you start to see the benefits of it
and you start to change your actually your brain physiology
in terms of what actually determines whether it's painful or not,
it becomes pleasurable. So a behavior modification usually takes place
over about 18 months of doing something, and so you start to get into an environment
where it's pleasurable. So you have goals,
and then what happens is you're going after your goals
and you encounter your problems. So encountering problems,
and then the big difference between people is how they approach those problems.
People who get bummed out by the problems, don't learn from them.
Who learns from them? So those who recognize that problems are exciting,
that they get into those, you know, problems or mistakes,
mistakes are learning experience, the pain that comes from that mistake,
every time you have pain, it's an indication that something's at odds,
and so the people who have the pain are the people then who will go into that realize
that if they solve that pain, solve that problem, understand what that is representative of,
not just the one problem, but that problem is a certain type of problem
that will happen over and over and over again in your life,
and if you can solve, how do I deal with that kind of problem?
And so diagnose, the third thing that everybody needs to do is,
if they have problems on the way to their goals, that they diagnosed those problems,
and they get to the root cause, the real root cause.
The real root cause is often, is typically what people are like.
Can you go to what you're like? Can you go to your mistakes?
Can you go to your weaknesses? Can you go to other people's
mistakes and weaknesses? Some people, because of
an ego barrier, can't do that. And so if they don't recognize their
own mistakes, their own weaknesses, or others mistakes and weaknesses
what the root cause, being what they're like, because of ego barriers, if they can't go there,
they're going to repeat those mistakes, they're going to have them over and over again.
So it's the process essentially of saying at that stage,
“what am I like?” Everybody has strengths
and everybody has weaknesses, the weaknesses are the other
side of the strengths. So let's say if you're,
you know, a right brain creative person, you may not be reliable
because just the way you think necessitates you to think a certain way
that means you can't think in another way. That means you're going to keep
bumping into that thing that's standing in your way,
but unless you can embrace I'm not reliable and deal with it, you won't get around it,
it's still going to continue to be a barrier. So the diagnosis to the root cause
is important, so then
if you diagnose it, then you have to design what are you going to do about it that works.
So let's say you are very creative but not reliable,
ok, you have to find the means of it, first of all, embracing that and then saying,
‘“if I'm not reliable, what do I do?” Do I work with a reliable person?”
“Do I learn reliability?” “Do I have some compensating mechanism?”
“Because I can't let that lack of reliability stand in the way of my goal,
as long as I keep doing that, I'm going to keep running into problems”.
So you have to design what you do about the problems,
and then when you're designing what you do about the problems,
then you have to follow it through. So you have to follow through
or do the thing you designed, and doing the thing you designed
requires self-discipline and so on. So people have to do those
things in order to be successful. They have to know what their goals are,
they will encounter their problems, they have to diagnose those problems
down to the root cause, the real root cause,
they have to design ways to get around them and then they have to have the
self-discipline to follow that, and it's a continuous iterative process.
So that's what we keep doing, so you're going in that direction.
I would say that all of the shapers are doing that,
they're doing that, they doing that well, so they don't mind the problems,
they don't mind that, that's their adventure. So that is what the process is like.
Fail, learn, move forward and constantly do that because you're cutting edge.
So that's a different kind of approach to life, it's a different way of being.